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Most married women will have a state, that is, sometimes emo and sometimes relieve themselves. emo is because there are too many troublesome and headaches in life. It is relieved because it is already like this. You have to think about it even if you can’t.
do you think I am pessimistic? That’s right, after getting married, I often wonder why I got married. It’s not that there was something wrong with the marriage, but because I needed to change too much and give up too much, I was very uncomfortable and unwilling to accept it.
To be honest, if I did it again, I don’t know if I would choose to live exactly as I wanted and live the life I wanted, but at least now, I still envy those around me who have not gotten married and had children and are striving to pursue their dreams.
Maybe you would say that they regret it after several years, but who knows what happened after several years? Isn’t it the best to live the present well?
Of course, I will never advocate being single, not getting married, there are still many happy married women around me, they also have troubles, but they also have their own way of running their marriage. I have learned a lot from them and want to share with unmarried girls.
I want to tell you that no matter whether you plan to get married or not, I hope you can think about these issues as soon as possible, make careful choices, and once you choose, manage them well.
Moreover, you must keep working hard to improve yourself, make yourself more rational, protect yourself better, and firmly control the initiative in happiness in your own hands. You can definitely do it.
Think clearly why you want to get married
Many people with unhappy marriages have a common root, that is, they have not thought clearly about why they want to get married and hurriedly entered the marriage. Some of them are due to age problems, some are impulsive, and some are confused. No matter what the reason is, they will always regret it when they encounter problems later.
Because when they began to understand that marriage is not a joke, many people have already invested a lot, because they don’t have the courage to leave and get deeper and deeper. Many people find that the other party is not suitable for them but have no time to change. How can such a marriage be happy?
So, you must think clearly about why you got married, see the other party’s strengths and weaknesses, think about whether you can accept it, and whether you can withstand the ups and downs of marriage. There is no perfect marriage, but if you think it clearly at the beginning, you will be a little happier.
When the family opposes, you should think calmly
Girls are particularly prone to self-motivation in their relationships, thinking that giving everything will cherish each other, thinking that fighting against parents is to maintain true love.
But do you know that most of the opposition from family members is right. They are bystanders and can see this relationship more clearly than you do. So, when they have doubts, you can explain, but don’t fight, and don’t cut off your own way out for a man.
I have seen too many girls who broke up with their original family for love. They didn’t live a very good life in the end, and I hope you won’t do this.
It’s nothing to meet a scumbag, you can stop the loss in time
It’s normal to meet a scumbag, but for women who are entering marriage, it’s awful to meet a scumbag.
Marriage is not like love, it involves too many things, especially after giving birth to a child, women have weaknesses, and it is really difficult to stop losses. But even so, I still want to tell you that when you meet a scumbag, you must leave quickly after you reach the bottom line, don’t fall deeper and deeper, and don’t expect the other party to get better.
As for the future, leaving the wrong person will definitely get better and better. Believe in me and believe in yourself.
Don’t be self-contaminated, no one is worth it for you
Marriage is a very consuming thing. Women who enter marriage not only need to do their own work well, but also take good care of their family, which discourages many people.
The most troublesome thing is the contradictions and right and wrong in marriage, which sometimes really makes people feel physically and mentally exhausted.
But, I still want to tell you that once you enter marriage, don’t worry about yourself, no matter what happens, no one is worthy of your doing, and you can stay firm and rational, so that you can be more happy.
Try to maintain a stable mood
Never live as a shrew in marriage. No matter what happens to make you angry or sad, keep a stable mood. This is the best way for you to protect yourself.
I have seen many women with unstable emotions. They do many things that they regret because of impulse, and some people get sick because of anger. These will be your lifelong pain. Don’t leave such regrets to yourself.
No matter what time it is, keep a stable mood. Think about it before you say it, think about it before you do it again. No one deserves you to give up your dignity and demeanor, and no one deserves you to hurt your health. Keep yourself happy.
Don’t lose yourself
Marriage does not mean giving up on yourself. I hope all women can remember this. Many women will have no friends, social circles, their hobbies and life once they get married, which is wrong.
No matter how close people are, they need space. No matter how good the marriage is, they need two people to maintain their independent self, so that you can go further.
Women will not lose themselves because of marriage. I hope you can have such firm confidence, because in this way, you can get happiness after entering marriage.
Make various preparations before giving birth
Regarding giving birth, I believe most women will feel endless grievances. The change in body shape after giving birth is really just a small matter, and the change in life state is indeed a mess.
As a veteran, what I can tell you is that you must be prepared for all kinds of things before giving birth, both psychologically and economically. Psychologically, you must want to give birth to a child for yourself, not to satisfy anyone, otherwise you will not be able to endure the hardships later. Economic security can help you suffer less in the process of raising children.
Being a mother is not easy. You can choose to do it or choose good, but no matter what, you must be prepared so that you can have less pain and sorrow.
Communicate well and slowly get started with
What is the most important thing in marriage? It is communication. If you find that the other person is a person who is not good at communication and likes cold violence when you are in love, then I advise you to stop the loss in time, because there will be more problems after marriage. If the other person is unwilling to communicate, it will definitely cause you to collapse.
Of course, you must also learn to communicate in marriage. You cannot be so willful, and you cannot be determined to act alone. Since you have decided to enter marriage, you must slowly get through and turn those imperfections into perfection so that you can continue together.
We cannot find a perfect person, but we can find a relatively suitable person to work together for happiness. I think this is the meaning of marriage.
Marriage is not a matter of two people, the other party’s family is equally important
Many girls will think that getting married is a matter of two people, but as a veteran, I want to tell you, it is really not.
Marriage is a combination of two families. After marriage, you will have many involvement with each other's family. If the other party's family is unacceptable to you, then you will be in great pain.
Therefore, before marriage, we must not only examine this person, but also his family. This is not reality, but reason.
Poor couples are sad, this is the absolute truth
Most girls are ashamed to talk about money before getting married, and they always feel that this will hurt their feelings. But I want to tell you that a good relationship not only requires money, but also good money.
Poor couples are sad, which is the truth you will understand after getting married, because in reality, the food, rice, oil and salt cannot be brought by a few sweet words. When you face many real problems, you will realize how terrible it is to have no money.
Of course, I am not saying that you must find a very rich partner, but I just hope you know that you must have similar economic income to the other party, so that you can support your happiness. Even if you don’t have a lot of money for the time being, you must have the motivation to make money together to make life better, so that you can have a bright future in life.
I never believe in marriage experts, but I believe that those who have experienced marriage may not be suitable for everyone, but they will definitely give most people some inspiration.
These advices about marriage are all for married women to give unmarried girls. I hope that after reading it, you can think clearly whether you want to get married and what kind of marriage you want.
I believe that every hard-working girl can get the happiness she wants. Whether she gets married or not, she must work hard for herself.
I am Xiyan, a columnist, an older girl who is neither old nor old. She likes to write warm words and do emotional programs. She has published "The Rest of Your Life is About Me". If you have a story, remember to come to me.
