In life, many couples will have such a relatively intimate name, that is, men will call their wives "our leader" in front of outsiders. So today we will talk about what kind of woman can have the final say at home ?
Based on Teacher Hu’s experience in emotional consultation for so many years, I observed a very interesting phenomenon: when some men say this, what they want to express is actually a helpless feeling. That is to say, it is implying that others are , "I can't decide anything at home, she is the one who makes the decision."
But there are indeed some men who say that their wives are leaders, has a sense of respect and admiration, and even a sense of doting.
So what is the final say is to really have the final say?
In fact, many business methods in intimate relationships are quite similar to those in the workplace. Think about what characteristics will a good leader have?
The first feature: I can’t do everything myself.
This is actually a mistake made by many women.
In life, women like to use nagging tone and use the way they keep talking to men to push them to work. After a long time, you will find that this man has no subjective initiative. If you don’t care about him and don’t talk about him, he will not do it.
For example, "You have a three or five-day business trip this time. You must let the man handle the family affairs, but during the few days of your business trip, you will be particularly worried. Every day, you will ask, is the place at home unblocked? Are you late to pick up your child today? Are you checking in on time for the homework at night?
Think about it, men were willing to help you share these things at home, but you keep urging and questioning so much, don't he want to do it?
so more The appropriate way is to don’t ask him these days. Then when you get home, the first time you see him, you should say: “Honey, thank you very much. You have seen so many chores at home these two days, you have taken care of so many chores by yourself. Thank you for your hard work.”
What effect will this sentence bring to ? If a man is lazy these two days, is he quite ashamed when you say this? He will work hard to help you work in the next few days and want to make up for it. If he does do well these two days, is your praise very timely, and the other party can feel that "My wife is very reasonable."
The second feature: A woman who can decide at home must be particularly good at distributing her energy.
For example, For example, many women arrange the rhythm of life in their families very accurately. After get off work every day, they immediately start cooking, bring the meals to the table at 7 o'clock on time, and at 8:30 and 9 o'clock in the evening, arrange their husbands and children to take a shower, then wash the clothes before going to bed. This is your standard.
But for a certain period of time, my husband and children take a shower every day. Work overtime, one day he comes back and he tells you, "I don't want to eat tonight. I want to sleep quickly. Why don't I go to the sofa and lie for a while and I'll get up and eat again." Many sisters firmly disagree, you will feel that this disrupts your rhythm. Force a man to eat the meal and force him to take a shower, because you can't accept that he doesn't follow your standards.
On the surface, you do have the final say, but what are the hidden dangers behind it? This man is unwilling in his heart, and his needs are suppressed. A truly wise woman can especially arrange them flexibly in these details of life. If he is really tired during this period, he doesn't have to follow the original rhythm.
You can tell him: "If you are really tired today, it doesn't matter if you don't eat. You can rest first or you can talk to me about what kind of pressure have you been under recently?"
If you can manage your life and your relationship according to the above two characteristics, you can really become the person who has the final say in your family.
