text | Miss Bai
The so-called marriage naturally requires living together in order to have the feeling of being a husband and wife.
Everyone understands the truth, but in life, there are always variables.
Due to various reasons, there are quite a lot of couples who have been away from home for a long time.
who will live a harder life? This question varies from person to person, but when you think about it carefully, it also has a certain degree of summability. The answers of these three people who have experienced it are both realistic and thought-provoking!
Honey hard work
Popularity without home
Chapter Ms. (Couple and wife have been away for 2 years):
If you can find a good job at your doorstep, enough to support your family, who would be willing to stay away from your wife and children and work hard alone?
After all, it is all for a better life.
My husband and I had children in the second year after marriage, and the pressure on life suddenly became heavy, and he had to go to another place to find a better job.
The child is still young, so we discussed that he will go first. When the child is older, please help us take care of him. I will be with him.
To be honest, there are many contradictions between husband and wife if they don’t live together. Even if both parents help each other, it is still very hard to take care of the children.
But our family has this condition, it is better to have an elderly helper.
My husband calls me and my children every night. He is worried about the situation at home in his words, and he will also tell me about his work and daily life.
It is not easy for me to be in my hometown, but my children can see them all the time around me, and my parents take good care of me. I have any questions and call other relatives and friends to come.
But my husband is working without darkness and night, and when he goes back to the rental house after get off work, he doesn’t have any popularity and tastes like home.
He always said that he eats well and lives well, and he does not report good news but not bad news. It’s only occasionally that I reveal that I want to go home and reunite with me and my children.
Only when a responsible man gets along with his wife in another place will he live a hard life.
For him, if he hadn't made a little more money, he wouldn't be willing to leave his wife and children to live a lonely life at two points and one line.
Wife worked hard
No one really cherishes
Ms. Yu (the couple has been away for 5 years):
It has been several years of the epidemic, and it is even more difficult for us couples to meet each other in this place.
Sometimes I want to ignore the children, and I also go out to work to avoid fucking the most broken heart and being annoying.
If the child is well taken care of, no one can see him; if the child is about to fall, every sentence is mine.
The child was hurt and felt uncomfortable, so I felt uncomfortable. I just didn’t feel any comfort on my husband’s phone. The more severe accusations and complaints made me really unable to understand. What’s the picture in my picture? I will suffer this crime.
He woke up and went to work, after get off work, he had a meal with his colleague and went back to sleep, and if he wanted to play with his phone, he would play with his phone.
I am always "going to work" and the child is energetic and has no one to help me. I haven't even slept in a whole sleep at night.
can only see how hard he has worked for himself to make money. When I come to me, I just should take care of a child. This is how my wife takes care of her.
Get some money from him, either asking questions or asking questions. If you buy a fruit, you think I'm expensive, and you have to calculate every cent.
I just know that I don’t care about him, so I laughed. When did he feel sorry for me?
It is difficult for women to expect men far away from home to become their strong backing, and everything depends on themselves.
They are not afraid of suffering, but if the husband does not have any care or understanding in his heart, it will really make people feel cold.
Children are also very bitter
Growth will inevitably lead to missing
Mr. Zhao (8 years of husband and wife):
Children who can grow up with their parents are the ones who can experience happiness.
Children grow very fast, just a few years later.
My husband and I have been away from home for so many years, and the child has grown up, but his personality is becoming less and less talkative.
Although I tried hard to give him maternal love, I could not fill in the lack of the role of father. When I was very young, I often chased me and asked my father when he would go home, but later I never mentioned it again.
He doesn't want to video with his father, and he doesn't like to answer calls every time. Occasionally, he doesn't have excitement or expectation when his father comes home, but he is more unfamiliar and nervous.
It is not the child’s fault, but the adult’s fault.
For families with long-term couples, children often have a difficult life.
Short time distance produces beauty. Long-term distance creates barriers and strangeness.
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Writer Su Cen once said:
"When you encounter something, you can discuss it yourself, you can talk nonsense together when you are bored, and you can squeeze together to have a meal for a day when you are tired. Life is too long, you must always have a personal company. Be honest and miss it steadily. Maybe that's the case."
Marriage is exactly the same.
Couples are often helpless. If you can’t meet your companionship, you need two conditions to last for a long time:
is communication and the other is understanding.
For a long time, who is more hardworking?
When you truly understand and communicate, you will know that the couple in the Gu family feel sorry for each other's pain.
If you have a home in your heart, you won’t feel that you are suffering!
✎Author: Miss Bai, a working woman, writes warm and powerful words, share interesting and meaningful life with you, accompany you to grow up, and accompany you to be strong. The new book " Lives the way you want " is being exclusively pre-sale on Dangdang.com .
