The first thing that comes to mind is the emotional imbalance caused by long-term efforts. This reason can be seen in many women, but it is also common in some men.
In the gender relationship, if one party has a "paying" personality, it is easier to cause mental imbalance. We can imagine that long-term efforts and tolerance (being a cow and horse for a family) without seeking rewards can easily cause inner grievance and collapse of the party who pays a lot.
will continue to do so. According to the "silence cost" theory, they will continue to make contributions in their relationships, but this kind of effort may have mentioned "domestic violence" in the later stage, which usually gives people the impression of "vicious insults" and "adding of fists and feet". There is also an implicit and difficult-to-be-valued "violence", called "cold violence".
The destructive power of cold violence on marriage is blocked by "physical violence". But in fact, people who are subject to cold violence are no better than those who are physically harmed.
. The couple who are "violent in cold" will feel insecure and will feel self-doubt. In severe cases, it will also suffer from depression and , causing extreme behaviors that will eventually hurt themselves.
We often mention the term "spiritual spirit". Once a person loses mentally, he is basically not far from "destroying". No matter what you do, you will lose motivation, lack enthusiasm for life, and lose your "going".
Moreover, this behavior that replaces physical attacks through indifference, contempt, distantness, and belittlement is often not easily noticed by the injured person, and it is even more difficult to have direct evidence. Therefore, some people choose to endure, while others choose to get divorced with a quick knife.
Freezing three feet is not a day of cold. Heart chills are not a single injury, but a accumulation of multiple times. Sometimes it is really uncomfortable when our efforts are never seen by others. Another era we are in now has changed, and our thoughts are no longer the same as before. They all advocate living for ourselves, and this life is worthwhile. Therefore, few people are willing to be together again and are unwilling to settle down.
Really don’t say that this situation occurs in intimate relationships. If you have this kind of coldness in any relationship (family relationship, workplace relationship, social relationship, etc.), then this means that the relationship is about to end. The relationship between people is connected by something, or various emotions (family, friendship, love, classmate, colleague, hometown relationship, friendship, worship, jealousy, resentment, etc.), or various interests (economic, political, workplace, resources, etc.), and most of the time, it is both.
But if there is no emotional bond and connection between the couple, both parties have no love or hatred (hate that hate is caused by love, hate that cannot be made into steel); both parties are not happy or unhappy; both parties are not angry or angry, nor are they suspicious and jealous... Then the couple is really cold, and their hearts (emotions) are no longer in this marriage. Perhaps it is possible that because of some kind of interest connection, because of children, and because of establishing a good reputation, the two parties may not necessarily embark on the road of divorce, but as far as the relationship between the couple itself is concerned, it has indeed come to an end.
It is a fate that couples can get together, mutual recognition, mutual care and mutual protection. This mutual is heartfelt, not hypocritical.The relationship between husband and wife is based on love and then they discover each other's shining points, and then they develop feelings. Now the relationship is destroyed and liking becomes annoying. How can you reunite with disgust?
Some opinions and conflicts arise in the daily life of couples. They should be resolved in time to achieve mutual discomfort, otherwise it will be difficult to get back together and their relationship will turn from cracks to fractures. It’s like a person suffering from some trauma, it doesn’t hinder the overall situation, just repair it. If you are seriously injured, you will always leave traces, and you will be unbearable if you are hurt. You can’t make do with your life, and you should stop it when you should, so that a happy life can start from scratch.
For the separation and reunion between husband and wife, kind people always persuade them not to break up. They always come from a kind heart and reunite them. In fact, it is just a wish. The person involved should have a clear idea of the degree to which he feels hurt. It is up to you to consider it yourself, because only you know the inner feelings.
How can a couple save their marriage if they lose their trust?
Rescue, do not be too humble
When many women face their husbands cheat, they blame themselves for all the problems, thinking that it is their fault, they are not excellent enough, and they are not doing well enough... This leads to men cheating. is in this way of completely denying one's beliefs, and will put yourself in a very humble position.
People who are humble but do not know how to recover their husbands, kneel down to men in order to be able to win back their husbands:
I can want nothing, as long as you can go home;
As long as you don’t divorce me, I can turn a blind eye;
As long as you return to me, I will listen to you in everything, please don’t leave me;
All the requirements I can meet, please go back to me... I hope that humble love will bloom in the dust, but hope is beautiful, but the facts are indeed cruel. In the eyes of men, women like
have no self-esteem, do not understand self-love, and have no bottom line. If a person doesn’t love himself, how can he let others love you?
If a person does not know how to love himself, how can he love others?
Men will not return easily because of this. Instead, they will think that you are not charming and cheat more unscrupulously, let alone love. Women must maintain confidence at all times. Yes, he did cheat. Maybe it was because of your poor management, or maybe it was because of other reasons that caused him cheating, but don’t blame his cheating fault on your own.
This way you will deny yourself completely, which will not do any good for you. You can find out some reasons for poor management, but it is not all your responsibility. You need to face the facts objectively in order to get out of being surrounded by painful emotions.
In this way, you can be self-affirm and become more confident.
The humble attitude cannot win back the cheating husband, and it cannot be exchanged for his love. What’s even more terrifying is that you have lost your affirmation of yourself and your bright hope for the future! Complainted love has no good result because it goes against the essential attraction of love.
