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I am 63 years old, with a pension of over 6,000 yuan. After being widowed, I found three men. I finally understood the real purpose of remarriage by elderly men...
I am Aunt Chen, I am 63 years old this year. A son has settled in Hangzhou after graduating from a doctorate and has started a family and a career.
I had a happy family before I was 40 years old.
My husband and I work as a doctor in the same hospital. He is an internal medicine department and I am an obstetrics and gynecology department.
Although our family of three is busy, it is orderly. The couple is also harmonious and shining in their respective jobs.
I always thought my life would flow like this and go on without any speed.
But, I don’t know that fate is preparing to play with me with a big joke.
That day, I got off work at normal times as usual and came back to prepare dinner for three.
Before getting off work, I asked my husband about what time he got off work. He said he still had a surgery and it might be after nine o'clock.
I cooked the meal in the evening and ate with my son. I also kept my husband's meal alone and just heated it up when he came back.
I have never liked to leave the remaining food to my husband. Maybe this is also the performance of my love for him and caring about him.
But that night, after dinner, I watched my son finish his homework and go to bed, I held the book fan in my hand and stared at me and almost fell asleep, and I didn't wait until my husband came back.
Just when I was so confused that I didn’t know where I was, I got a call from the hospital.
It was this phone that thundered thunder in the ground, completely blowing up our little days.
It turned out that my husband waited for no return. It was not because the operation time was delayed, but because he felt tired after the operation, he fell asleep in the duty room.
Who knew that he never woke up again after sleeping, and he left because he was overworked.
I don’t know how I went to the hospital that day, and I forgot how I survived that period.
All I know is that I support myself like a walking corpse because I still have a son.
It is gratifying that my son has always been excellent. Even if his husband leaves, he did not relax himself, but continued to maintain it.
That year, I was 40 years old, my son was 13 years old, and I just went to junior high school.
Life has to continue without my husband. I am both a father and a mother. It is fake to say that I am not tired.
But I have a son and a fulfilling work. Although my spiritual world is much empty due to my husband's lack.
But my body is busy, so I don’t feel so lonely and bored.
Time flies, I am about to retire in a flash, and my son is also studying for a Ph.D.
The hospital rehired me, but I refused.
I think it’s time for me to work hard for so many years, and it’s time for me to remove my strength and tolerance and loosen my spirit and body.
I retired without hesitation.
After retirement, I enjoyed a free and free life.
But the longer the time is, facing the empty room and the silent daily life, loneliness follows me like a shadow, swallowing my heart like a borer.
I know I've found a companion when I'm.
So within 8 years after retirement, I found a total of 3 spouses, but they all ended up in vain.
Now I am single and decide to live alone to the end.
The first wife was dancing square dance to meet her.
He is also widowed and has a daughter who is not around, which is similar to mine.
We often dance square dance together, and occasionally make an appointment to have a meal and have tea, and we naturally got together.
At the beginning, he treated me very well. His pension was similar to mine, so he said he would give half of each month to pay our expenses.
He said he was not good at cooking and washing clothes, and I said I would do it.
My wife, I just have a companion when I am old, so I won’t care so much.
We had a good life at the beginning, but gradually he said that he lost too much when playing cards with his friends, and his pension was not much left.
so I took out a little more, this is nothing, I don’t have that little money either.
However, as we spend more and more time together, this is becoming more and more frequent.
I was displeased and couldn't help asking him, what about your previous deposit?
He hesitated and I asked repeatedly, and then he said that he had bought a house for his daughter, and now he has to pay his daughter 3,500 yuan a month to pay the mortgage.
Okay, I finally understand, he didn't lose money by gambling, he gave all the money to his daughter.
. He came to me and just found someone to share the living expenses, and by the way, he was a free nanny.
is also a nanny. What is my salary?
just like this? We parted in a bad mood.
The second wife was introduced by my former colleague.
He retires as an ordinary employee of a state-owned enterprise. His pension is not as high as mine. However, after several contacts, I think he is quite sincere, so the impression is not bad.
originally wanted to get along for a longer time, but he said that we are all at this age and are not as long as young people.
So we lived together after we met for three months.
However, not long after our days, there was one more child at home.
This child is nothing else, he is his grandson.
It turned out that her daughter-in-law was pregnant with her second child and had to go to work again. Her father was sick and her mother served her, so no one helped her take care of the child.
I didn't know about this.
At the beginning, he said tactfully whether he could take care of his grandson with him. Although I was in a dilemma, I felt that having a child at home could still have a little fun living, so I agreed.
However, when I went out to buy vegetables that day, I saw that he and his grandson had fun in the main hall, so I didn’t say hello to him and dived into the kitchen to cook.
While cooking, I heard him and someone were on the phone.
On the phone, he told his acquaintance that he would be better than hiring a nanny after finding me.
The nanny not only needs a salary, but also has the risk of abuse of children.
and I definitely don’t know, because he lives with me every day and takes care of the children with me...
Actually, he said a lot later. I didn’t want to listen anymore, but I felt a little cold inside.
I know he wanted to live with me so anxiously, but it turned out that it was because of this.
It doesn’t matter if I give my feelings and money, but I can’t tolerate being deceived or used by others.
Later I found a reason and left.
I didn't want to look for it anymore, but I thought it was boring at all.
However, an old colleague from a hospital actually came to me.
He said he always was interested in me, but at that time I was all about work and my son, so he didn't have the nerve to speak.
Nowadays, we are all old, so let’s work together to take care of each other.
This colleague is not bad-minded and is quite easy-going. I want to stop trying again.
We spent two or three years together.
But my mentality has changed, which is his manifestation after he got sick and was hospitalized again and again.
He is a few years older than me, so naturally his body will be weaker.
There are always two or three times a year when I get sick and be hospitalized.
But every time, no matter the severity of his condition, I didn't let me tell him his children far away.
Sometimes, he was hospitalized for ten days and half a month, and once he even signed a critical illness notice .
He didn't let me say that, I found that I really couldn't bear it.
I gradually realized that it was true that he looked for me and treated me as his wife, but it was also true that he asked me to take on the responsibilities and risks his children should bear.
The last time, he was sick for a long time, I said, "Let's call the children."
Seeing that I was pressing tight, he was furious at me and said that I just didn't want to take care of him, so I wanted to leave.
Since he said that, there is no need for me to stay.
I told him you are right, just know.
I called his son and daughter privately, and when they arrived at the hospital, I walked back without looking back.
After all these years, after experiencing these people, I finally understand the truth about elderly men looking for their spouses.
either treat us as free nannies or share living expenses together, and there is not much true feelings at all.
They looked for us. Maybe after the original wife left, they realized that they knew nothing, so they wanted to find someone to cook and wash clothes for themselves.
may also be the younger generation at home who needs care. As a man, he is afraid that he will not be able to take care of himself or not.
may also be weak and sickly and do not want to trouble your children all the time, so I find someone to take these risks and responsibilities.
In short, I will never find a partner again.
Let’s go through it alone.
If you are me, do you think you must find a partner, or will you live alone?
Sister Xin said:
Aunt Chen, after listening to your story, I can understand that you have such an idea.
The wife is the old companion, but many men do not regard the female compatriots they are looking for as their compatriots, but have other intentions.
Any normal person will feel heartbroken after knowing the truth.
The sunset is infinitely beautiful, and the dusk is even more charming.
I believe you have a promising and sensible son, your pension is not low, and your life will not be bad in the future.
I feel lonely occasionally, and I can go see my son or go out in groups with my old sisters.
It’s a beautiful day to think about it!
Do you think I'm right?
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