After retirement, I often think about this question: How do people distance themselves?
Some old colleagues who have not seen each other for several years look very old all of a sudden, while others live better and better. I feel that the years have no marks on her body. Instead, adds the elegance of time and is indifferent to .
In the new book "Meeting Like First Meeting, Looking Back Is Life", Bai Luomei wrote about her grandmother picking jasmine with a basket when she got up in the morning, making a cup of tea, sitting quietly on the stone table in front of the courtyard, threading needles and threading threads, putting jasmine on a bracelet, and wearing it for her little girl. If there is any extra, she will give it to her neighbors, not for ostentatiousness, but for decorating her mood, and the faint fragrance.
I think, maybe these are those women who are getting older but are getting better and better. They have different moods from ordinary people and can decorate the scenery in front of them in their lives.
After retirement, those women getting better and better often have these three abilities: 's ability to awaken themselves , neither go with the flow nor be autistic. They have their own interests and hobbies, do what they like, and make themselves feel fulfilled; improve to improve their self-cognitive ability, is strong in heart, has a confidence and a good attitude, so that they can live more and more comfort; cherish time, treat everything around them well, eliminates bad habits, and let their rest of their lives be full of blessings.
self-awakening, not following the trend, have your own hobbies,
Grandma Moses said: "Do what you like, God will happily open the door to success for you." Grandma Moses, who lives in the countryside of the United States, raised ten children in her life. She did not start her favorite painting until she was 76 years old. She held a solo painting exhibition at the age of 80. She wrote her experience into a book " Life never starts too late ". It proves that there is a " self-certification prophecy " effect in psychology.
After retirement, many women feel that this is the case in their life. The rest of their lives are to take care of children, take care of the elderly, and serve their spouses around them. never thought about how to live a good life in the second half of life .
Self-awakening is a psychological need for self. When we truly meet our inner needs, you will find that life is really not what we imagined, but has a unique style.
Our Ligustworthy teacher in our writing group has retired for many years. While helping his daughter take care of his children, writing, and taking care of the students. He is still working hard to learn the undergraduate major of "Chinese language". literati teacher is the most The first impression I gave me was, wow, it turns out that women after retirement can still live like this. do what they like, not only can bring benefits, but also make themselves full and rich.
heard from the sisters around me that there is such a retired woman in our unit. She records audio on the Internet and reads works to others. It is said that her monthly income is much higher than her pension. In fact, after retirement, we say that we are a little early, and that we have retired after we are young. We can awaken ourselves and find a hobby that suits us. We keep doing it is not only a blessing for the rest of our lives, but also our self-cultivation.
writer Hongdan once said: "Everyone can't stop growing up at any time. " Self-awakening, self-growth, meeting a better self has nothing to do with age or gender. No matter who you are, you can only take action and continue to grow, can also make a meaningful rest of your life.
cognitive ability is improved, strong inside, and have a good mentality
Wilde once said: Love yourself, It is the beginning of a lifelong romance . Only by starting with loving yourself can you know how to love others.
Do you still remember Luo Zijun in " My First Half of Life "? I was an outstanding graduate in college. I lost my cognitive ability in the long marriage because of a vow in marriage, "I am responsible for making money to support my family, and you are responsible for being as beautiful as a flower."
I regretted my original choice when I discovered my husband's betrayal.Later, Luo Zijun's awakening was also with the help of He Han, and her cognitive ability improved, her heart was strong, and she became better as she lived.
The same is true for us women after retirement. No matter how we live our first half of our lives, if we want to live a comfortable life and live the way we want, we must improve our cognitive ability, enhance our hearts, and have a good attitude, so that we can slowly adapt to life on the road of getting older.
Some people complain about their children's unfilial piety, thinking that their children are not kind to themselves. When they treat their children, they not only put in labor and financial resources, but they even devote all their retirement to their children, but their children do not care about themselves.
In fact, this is the lack of our ability to recognize after retirement. Today's life and today's elderly care can no longer be the traditional era of "raising children to prevent elderly care". We must have a clear understanding of . After all, we rely on our own .
Adjust our own mentality, exercise our bodies, treat our spouses around us well, and enjoy our old age life. When our children need our help, we will help. When we don’t need it, we will return to our homes and live our own old age life.
As the saying goes, : "Give it is getting" . We provide assistance to our children within our abilities, and in the rest of our time, we must improve our cognitive abilities, cherish the good times we are now, and live our own good life.
Cherish time, treat everything well, and eliminate bad habits
Bai Luomei once said: Life should be cut down on the tradition and keep it simple, let the world sway, and the heart will always be like a lotus, bloom quietly. Keep a calm heart without dust, the breeze comes.
After retirement, although we have rich time, we must also learn to cherish the good times in front of us, treat everything around us well, and eliminate those bad habits in life.
Some people say that there is nothing wrong after retirement, so why can’t we follow our inner needs? I like to sit at the poker table and play for a few games. I feel that looking for some excitement is truly enjoying the joy of life.
Most of those who fail to protect themselves in the evening feel that they have done something wrong that many people will do. They all realize their mistakes. Why do their relatives just refuse to forgive themselves? Is it so happy to let yourself die alone?
In fact, The road of life is always something you have made. If you do not eliminate those bad hobbies, it will hurt you and the people you are closest to. No one has the responsibility or obligation to wait to forgive you on the spot.
likes a sentence very much: "Only dreams can make us anxious , and only actions can we relieve our anxiety ." Whenever I see mothers in the writing group sharing their achievements, I sincerely wish them happiness and happiness.
Only by putting their dreams into action can people truly live the life they want. Most of the women who are better and better after retirement are those who cherish time and treat themselves kindly. They have clear goals in their lives and pursue a better life for the rest of their lives, so they will meet a better self.
Author: Huagui Zenxin
Follow my words and enter your heart. You have stories, I have tea, let’s talk about the rest of my life together.
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