The first time my wife discovered something was wrong with her husband, she secretly found the chat history between him and another woman on his phone.
chat content is very ordinary and there is no ambiguity. The only thing that upsets women is that their chat frequency is unusually high.
They talk about popular films and TV series today, interesting things happening at work, delicious food, homework, and even talk about their respective children...
Sometimes, it is already eleven o'clock in the evening, and men and women will say good night to each other.
The wife's first reaction felt that her husband should have a good impression of that woman.
She was so angry that why did he look like a hand-off manager when he got home, and he didn't cook food, and he didn't care about the child. He didn't even bother to say anything extra, but he was chatting with an outsider in a lively manner?
The wife questioned the man without thinking, but the man said lightly: "We have nothing. If you feel uncomfortable, I will not chat with her in the future."
When the man said this, he acted calmly, as if he was innocent.
The woman originally wanted to give a warning to the man, but the fist he punched on the sponge and gained nothing.
So, she became even more depressed and more anxious.
She seemed to be insane, always inexplicably trying to peek at the man's mobile phone and observe his every word and deed. Even when he occasionally came home late, he made dozens of calls in succession to know his whereabouts...
I thought that in my seamless surveillance and unrepentant efforts, the man would never betray him. As a result, the man still did something that was sorry for her and had another woman.
Of course, when men do all that, they never thought about divorce.
Because the original wife gave birth to a pair of children for him, she was willing to quit her job and stay at home to take care of her husband and children. She was obedient to him and worked hard. Once she divorced, where would he find such a suitable wife?
After discovering her husband's scandal, the woman cried and made a fuss, clamoring for a divorce.
However, after she consulted a lawyer, she began to regret and did not want to divorce.
Because, once she had no job and no financial foundation, she divorced and didn’t want children, she couldn’t bear to bear it, and she couldn’t afford to raise the children.
Secondly, her years of life as a full-time housewife has left her with the society. She wants to come out and find a job again, and she has done everything over the clock. She has no courage and ability.
So, she chose to endure it silently.
She asked her husband to write a letter of commitment. If he does something to be sorry for her in the future, he will let him leave the house with nothing, and he will not want anything to the child or money.
The man agreed to his wife's request, but instead felt at ease that he had received the punishment he deserved, and nothing made him feel guilty.
But he didn't know how deeply he had hurt a woman who loved him as much as his life. Perhaps in this life, she would live in endless darkness and loneliness, and could not forgive his mistakes.
"I can let go, but I will never forgive!" When my good friend Xiao Min said this, his eyes were filled with tears.
Even though her husband's incident has been around for many years, she has never been able to get out of that painful memory.
Seeing this, you may laugh at her weakness and despise her incompetence. Why is she willing to suffer grievances and dare not divorce boldly?
In fact, it is not just my friend, but many women have chosen the same path as her.
They were once crazy about love, trapped by love, and tired of family. They worked hard for decades, but ended up in a mess.
They are unwilling to give up, and they are even more unwilling to give up the small home that is built like a swallow, so in the face of the betrayal of men, they choose to endure and settle down.
When we were young, we would think that was a kind of incompetence and humility.
As you get older, slowly, maybe you can understand it.
They have their own way of thinking and the right to choose. Perhaps the kind of life that is endless in the eyes of others has to accept and face it where they have to accept and face it.
Maybe it’s because they still love, maybe it’s because of their children and responsibilities, or it’s because of their cognitive mistakes. No matter what, since they have made a choice, they must have the courage to take responsibility and face the future.
As bystanders, we cannot understand their suffering, and naturally we cannot make choices on their behalf.
There is no other way to respect and blessing.
" My First Half of Life ", after Luo Zijun was betrayed by her husband, her first reaction was to try hard to save her.
The husband has no choice but to leave because he found a more suitable woman than his wife.
Later, with the help of Tang Jing and He Han , Luo Zijun wanted the custody of the child and had a house, and won the greatest benefit for herself, so she agreed to the divorce.
This may be a very suitable solution.
No matter whether a woman wants to divorce or not, once a partner betrays the marriage, he must make the worst plan.
Love is gone, love is faded, and the hard work of hard work cannot be wasted.
In the face of betrayal, the first thing a smart woman needs to do is to strive for a good future for herself and her children.
instead of crying, making a fuss or hanging, becoming a poor person who can't get anything.
You have to make yourself stronger and no longer be influenced by feelings. When you are fearless, you will no longer be afraid of the mud and sand in your marriage.
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Do you think that once a man betrays his marriage, a woman must get a divorce?
