may exist, for example:
1, your value cannot match your expectations.
For example: For example, my own value is 6 points, and I also found a 6-point partner. In terms of value matching, the two people are matched, but if you always feel that you deserve an 8-point partner, then you will feel that you are satisfied.
Everyone has some narcissism. If it is appropriate narcissism, it is okay, but the degree of narcissism is too high, then it is easy to lose the sense of reality. After all, will is just a feeling. If you cannot start from reality, it will be easy to make yourself feel like you are going to settle in marriage.
2, you cannot look at your partner from a holistic perspective.
For example: Before marriage, I fell in love with my partner with a high appearance, high income, high education, and honesty. After marriage, I found that my partner was very straight and didn't know sweet words and would not please me. Then every day I only pay attention to the lack of the other party's low emotional intelligence, and feel that I am very willing to settle down in marriage and find the wrong person.
But in fact, no one is perfect. Even if you find a partner with high emotional intelligence, understanding yourself, and being good at pleased you, you may find that the other party is not good enough or has a poor income, which will eventually make you feel satisfied and dissatisfied.
Therefore, if you lack a certain tolerance and cannot look at your partner from a holistic perspective, you will always feel satisfied and dissatisfied. At the same time, such a marriage will make it difficult for a partner to endure. After all, anyone will feel tormented when they are picking their bones in their eggs.
3, lacking certain growth.
Marriage is just the beginning of marriage. As the marriage grows longer and longer, some of its own value may gradually decline. Girls may gradually age, boys may gradually become greasy; girls may gradually nag, boys may gradually become cold.
If two people in a marriage cannot continuously improve themselves, then when certain conditions inevitably decline, both people in a marriage may feel satisfied, because they only see the decline in the other party's value, but do not realize that they are the same.
4, it is indeed a matter of fulfillment.
For some people, if they reach the age of marriage but have no suitable partner, they may encounter urges or forced marriage from their families. If I didn't resist this pressure and then found someone to get married, then I would be able to make it to the end.
If you do not know enough whether the other party is suitable before marriage and whether it matches you, it will be difficult to have a happy result if you get married casually.
Good luck ~
