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Two people in love, from being attracted to each other and getting close to each other, it only takes a moment, when you look at each other, your heart will get closer without realizing it.
However, it is said that love is easy and difficult to stay together. It is a long process for two people to fall in love to stay together.
In this long process, some people know how to keep love fresh. The relationship between the two people is getting deeper and deeper, and their lives are getting sweeter and sweeter.
And some people, in their boring life, have to make a good relationship a life together. The lives of the two of them are not in a stir, and they are quarreling about food, food, oil and salt every day.
Just as the writer Zhang Xiaoxian said:
"Good love makes your world vast, just like walking on an endless grassland.
The bad love makes your world increasingly narrow, and in the end there is only a small area under the eaves that can shelter from the rain."
Everyone hopes that their love is the kind that can be envied, rather than the mess in life.
However, if you want to manage a good relationship, love alone is not enough.
After all, no matter how much you love two people, they will wipe out love in the long river of time.
In fact, two people who truly love each other rely on "mutual appreciation".
mutual appreciation is actually the preservative for love.
knows how to appreciate each other. Even if the feeling of being moved by heart is no longer there, everything in the other person will still deeply attract each other.
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Accept each other's shortcomings
Love a person is to learn to love him all.
When love begins, it is mostly attracted by each other's appearance, appearance and temperament.
After being exposed to it for a long time, these external things will become less and less attractive.
At this time, the freshness is much worse than before, and there is no passion at all.
Some people feel that there is no need to continue to get entangled, so they choose to avoid the problem and let the contradiction accumulate deeper and deeper until they break up.
But the two people who truly love each other will never let go because they are tired.
Someone said: The best love is to fall in love with each other again and again.
agrees deeply. Two people who truly love each other will choose to re-recognize and understand each other after the freshness of the two people.
In this process, you will find the shortcomings and deficiencies of the other party, and you will also see the shining points on the other party that you have ignored.
At this time, if you look at the other person with appreciation, accept the other person's imperfection, and do not force him to make changes, your relationship will get better and better.
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recognize each other's abilities
In the process of getting along with each other, many places will be different.
For example, the way of speaking, the style of doing things, and some living habits.
These things can initially attract two different people to get closer to each other, but over time, they will push the two people further and further away.
To fundamentally solve these problems, it is impossible to completely avoid them. The best way is to recognize each other.
Everyone needs to be recognized in the depths of their hearts.
recognition is not only a kind of praise, but also a kind of affirmation to the other party.
When you recognize the other party in your heart, no matter what the other party does in the future, you will choose to support it unconditionally.
When the other party encounters a bottleneck period, you will also choose to encourage and comfort rather than just accuse and attack.
often recognizes the other person. Over time, you will find that not only the other person is making rapid progress, but your relationship is getting better and better.
Therefore, the sweet and happy relationships must be maintained by each other.
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Tolerate each other's temper
The most important thing for two people to get along is tolerate and understand.
In the eyes of many people, choosing to be tolerant, you have to swallow your grievances, and choosing to understand, you have to learn to empathize.
But in fact, if two people truly love each other, they will not care about who gives more and who gives less.Everything you do is willing, and as long as the other party is happy, you will feel happy.
I once saw this sentence: We always smile at strangers, but we always leave our bad temper to the person who loves us the most.
In fact, everyone knows that this approach is wrong.
Everyone hopes to be treated sincerely, and naturally they will not really hurt those who are closest to us.
But many times, when you are in a low mood and in a bad mood, you will always be unable to control yourself.
So, when the other person loses his temper at any time, you might as well try to understand and tolerate it.
You should believe that he did not mean it. After calming down, he also knows that it is his own fault and will lose control of his emotions and feel regret and guilty if he accidentally hurts you.
So, when the other party loses his temper, you might as well accompany him silently, comfort him with a tolerant heart and enlighten him.
Someone said: "Good love is about two people appreciating each other, not picking each other."
It is not difficult to find that those lovers or couples who are picky and dislike each other will eventually get separated.
. Two people who know how to appreciate each other will always be together no matter what happens.
But you have to understand: mutual appreciation is not only about discovering the other person’s strengths, but also about accepting the other person’s weaknesses, recognizing the other person’s abilities, and tolerating the other person’s temper is the secret to maintaining long-term happiness in relationships.
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Author: March.
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