Meet the parents. I think it is necessary for two people to have a clear relationship, their personal circle of friends has been open to each other, and they have been in contact with each other for nearly a year, and they can feel that the other person is more suitable for you in life, and they can develop their emotions with you in depth.
At this time, you can meet the other party’s parents and feel whether the other party’s family atmosphere is harmonious and warm, or tense; full of joy and laughter, or ignoring the cold and indifferent without communication. In this way, you can imagine the couple's way of getting along after you get married, and then consider whether you can accept such a family and integrate into such a family smoothly.
Maybe some men and women in love will feel it. It’s too early to meet at this time. Shouldn’t the two be sure to see their parents again after getting married? In fact, when meeting parents at this time, there are often many disadvantages, which makes each other in a dilemma, and sometimes it will lay the groundwork for the unfortunate lives of both parties.
Is it that serious?
Perhaps this idea will be questioned a lot. But don't be impatient, let me explain the reason clearly.
We all know that A person's growth cannot be separated from the specific environment of the family, and will be subtly influenced by parents, and the pattern of parents getting along with them will influence the children, and then they will unconsciously reflect them with behavior.
In the case of consultation, there was such a young man in his twenties. His mother was so mean and his various actions that made him feel heartbroken made him silent since childhood, and often ignored his mother's existence like his father. When he has his own marriage and treats his partner, he will unconsciously use this trick. Even if he knows that this is not good, he shouldn't have it. It will hurt the relationship between the two and need to change, but he can't do it. In the end, his wife couldn't bear it anymore and broke up completely with him.
So don’t ignore the impact of the original family on a person. Often, During the love period, he hopes that you will be his girlfriend and wife, and will constrain and hide some of his own shortcomings.
Once you come into contact with the other party’s family and meet their parents, you will be able to discover from them what may happen to you in the future, and thus find ways to try various ways to change the right way, and more importantly, let him realize this. He really wants to make a change. In your future interactions, you can observe his changes and whether there are any changes.
If you can't change it and it's getting worse and you can't control the momentum at all, then be goodbye with the other party, and don't let your emotions develop further. Otherwise, your future life will have to struggle in this mud. Either you will be depressed for the rest of your life, or you will be unable to bear it and let yourself eventually escape from this marriage.
So, Marriage is not simply OK when two people are together, it is inseparable from their respective families. Meeting parents as soon as possible can better adapt to everything, and then because of this love, both parties can make changes willingly. This will make the foundation of marriage more reliable.
Shakespeare said: An unsatisfactory marriage is like a hell, where a chicken fights for a lifetime and cannot live in peace. On the contrary, if you choose a spouse who is satisfied with you, you will be harmonious for a hundred years and have endless happiness.
Therefore, before entering marriage, we must enter each other's family as soon as possible, experience and feel, so that you can truly understand where the bottom line of your tolerance lies. Only after deciding to marry the other party, will not retreat easily and escape easily, but will have the confidence to solve all problems.
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