I just read a short article from a friend, saying that many women now like to find men older than themselves as partners, saying that men are older, know coldness and passion, and are steady and mature. Because they are old, they must also know how to cherish their little wife, take her seriously, and are willing to spend money on her...
I thought so too before I got married. I also wanted to find someone older than me, and it would be better to be four or five years older.
Soon, a relative introduced me to a boy from a college graduate. The boy grew up well and was five years older than me. He set up a glove processing factory in the town.
The day he met, he was very enthusiastic and led me to visit his small workshop and then to his office. On his desk were several large notebooks and a stack of letter paper. I saw at a glance that the words he wrote were so beautiful, and I couldn't help but say, your words are so beautiful.
He said, "Oh, that was written randomly when I was fine. You can look at my notebook. It is full of poems I wrote to my first love girlfriend in college, and letters. After we graduated from college, she proposed to break up with me, but I can't forget her."
I was just about to read it, but after hearing what he said, I stopped. What does this mean? I kissed me and said you can't forget your college classmates? Since you can't forget her, what's wrong with me?
I didn't read it. After saying a few words, I made an excuse to leave.
Another blind date partner is four years older than me. After contacting me once on the phone, I decided to give up because I have different opinions and different ideas, so I can’t go together.
Of course, saying these two things does not mean whether a man loves a woman or not, it just makes me feel that there is a generation gap in speaking for two people with age differences.
When I met my husband, I didn't think we could get together, because neither of them met my standards. They were one year younger than me and were close to my home. I was less than two miles away. My dream at that time was to find someone far away from home, the farther away, the better.
The biggest feature of us is that people who don’t say much have many topics to talk about. They can speak and look at each other like each other. This is enough, so I surrendered to all my conditions.
My husband has four sisters. He is a young and old at home. Logically speaking, a family like him, in that era when he favors boys over girls, he should have been spoiled at home and was spoiled by his parents and sisters. His temper should not be much better, and he will definitely not care about people. But from some trivial matters, I don't think he is the one here.
I remember the first time I went to his house before getting married. It was snowing that day. I was wearing a dress that imitated sheepskin. As soon as I entered the door, he saw little snowflakes falling on me. He quickly took a towel and came to wipe the snow on my clothes. In front of his family, I was quite embarrassed at that time and thought to myself, he really knows how to pretend, so I don’t need to wipe this little snow.
He also respects my parents very much. His parents call him the same as his parents. Whenever he comes to my house, he never needs to say anything about his parents. If he takes the initiative to do it before marriage, he will show himself, then in the past twenty years after marriage, he is also the best among my parents' son-in-law.
After getting married, my mother-in-law once said that she and her father-in-law had also spoiled him since childhood, but he never spoiled himself. Sometimes, my mother-in-law secretly gave him a bag of biscuits, and he would take this bag of biscuits and give the four sisters a cent first, and then he would eat the rest after he had finished it.
After getting married, I followed him to work. We had dinner together. When he saw what kind of dishes I like, he would always let me eat first.
Since he got his cell phone, he called me every day at noon. Before, when I went to work with her cousin, she would laugh at us and say that we were calling every day, would there be so many things to say? Actually, I really don’t have much to say, just ask if I have eaten or not. Even if I say a few words, I have to say hello every day.
I am a timid person. When I first got married, he got off work early. Every night, he would wait for me at the entrance of our factory and then go home together, even in the middle of winter.Later, when I had a child, he went home after get off work. When I got off work, I called him. He would always go downstairs to greet me and help me put the electric car in place.
In the morning, he went to work early, and when he arrived at the company, he would call me and say: Wife, it’s a bit cold today, wear more clothes, or it may rain today, remember to bring an umbrella. I just joked that he is really good at pretending, how can I not know? He said, "Oh, you don't know if you care about you. If I pretend, I might be able to pretend for one year, two years, or twenty years?"
Housework, as long as he rests, we will do it together. I do it with ease, and he has difficulty doing it. In the past, he used to wash clothes by hand, and most of the clothes in winter were washed.
A female colleague, seven or eight years younger than me, and her husband is an undergraduate and four years older than her. Sometimes when chatting together, a colleague will ask her, your husband must love you very much, right? It doesn't matter if she doesn't ask. When she asked, she began to complain, saying, "Damn, it hurts me? In the next life, who would like to change your husband? Come, I'll change it with you."
Her husband did nothing after get off work. Except for Ge You lying on the sofa and playing with his mobile phone, he was playing games on the computer. His colleagues did the housework alone. His husband had never even washed a pair of socks. Sometimes when he cooked delicious food, he would compete with his daughter to eat. The colleague said laughing and cryingly, "I'm not marrying a husband, it's obviously raising another child...
has been talking so much. What I want to say is whether a man loves his wife is not whether he is older than a woman, but whether he is a person who knows how to respect women or whether he is a careful and considerate man."
