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Love and marriage are extremely sacred existences among most girls. As long as you can be with the person you like, it is worth it no matter how much you sacrifice.
The romance after marriage will become less and less, but the emotions and responsibilities you have to invest will become more and more.
Today's married women not only have to support their families, but also do housework, educate their children, and deal with complex relationships.
A person's energy is limited after all, and no matter how powerful a woman is, she cannot do anything.
After weighing the pros and cons, most of them will give up their ideals and become full-time mothers to take care of their families.
Shen Ting (pseudonym) When her career was developing her best, she gave up her bright future and quit her job for the needs of her family.
She never thought that this would become the last decision she regrets in her life.
After reaching middle age, she encountered some things and she had a different view on marriage.
She said: "I was seriously ill and saw the two truths of the marriage. My personal experience is hopeful to sound a wake-up call for all women."
01: Excessively trusting men's love and responsibility, the one who suffers will suffer will be her own
The second year after she got married to her husband, Shen Ting got pregnant. At that time, the financial conditions were not very good, and she had to pay the mortgage every month.
So, during pregnancy, Shen Ting never asked for leave as long as her body could still hold on.
After the child arrived, she became even busier. Although her mother-in-law would help take care of her, most of the things were carried by Shen Ting alone.
Every time she gets busy, she forgets to eat. Even when she has a high fever, she still thinks to prepare all the food for her husband as soon as possible.
It’s time to get off work in the evening. Shen Ting needs to take care of her daughter first. She will continue to work after she falls asleep and often stay up until two or three in the morning. After a long time, my body will collapse.
At that time, my husband did better than her career, and it was impossible for him to share the pressure for Shen Ting. In the end, he could only give up his ideals and become a full-time mother.
When she decided to resign, her best friend and colleagues around her advised her not to be impulsive. Although men love you very much now, it may not be possible when you get older.
However, Shen Ting still trusts her husband's feelings for her very much. No matter how good the job opportunity is, she is willing to give up.
However, when she really became a full-time mother, her partner's attitude towards herself changed, especially after she was 35 years old.
The husband began to dislike Shen Ting for not being dressed up, and felt that she didn't know anything and had no common topics between them.
Shen Ting always feels that her husband is a very responsible man in her heart and is willing to spend money on her, but a person's love will change.
Every time during the holidays, as long as Shen Ting buys more gifts to go back to her parents' home, her mother-in-law and husband will be very angry. During the process of getting along with her husband, her husband never understands her feelings.
Shen Ting has been insomnia for a long time due to long-term fatigue and anxiety. She dared not go to the hospital alone, hoping that her husband could accompany her, but he refused directly.
Over-trust a man’s love and sense of responsibility is a terrible thing, and it is yourself who suffers.
Shen Ting regretted that if she had not quit her job, she should not believe that her husband would always be gentle to her, and that she would not have made her situation so embarrassed.
02: Only you will truly cherish your life, and your partner may not be your support
Later, Shen Ting could only let her family accompany her. The situation was not very optimistic and she needed to be hospitalized and then had a detailed examination.
Seeing the doctor's face very heavy, Shen Ting was particularly scared at the time.
During the hospitalization, my husband hurriedly came to see her once. The doctor asked him to be mentally prepared at that time. If there was a big problem with his lungs, he would have to undergo surgery.
Shen Ting thought her husband would feel sorry for her, but she didn't expect him to say, "It's okay. The doctors now hope that we can spend more money on treatment and go home and rest for a few days."
Although her husband's career is not very successful, his income is not low. Even if she needs surgery, he can at least give out 500,000 yuan.
However, what he really cares about was not Shen Ting's body, but felt that she was worthless and was not worth his spending so much money to see a doctor.
At that moment, Shen Ting truly realized that only you will cherish your life, and your partner may not be your support.
Fortunately, the final result found was not very big, otherwise she might have said goodbye to the world at a young age. After being discharged from the hospital, Shen Ting completely changed her attitude towards marriage. She was no longer so selfless and began to look for a new job.
Only when you have money and have big problems with your body, can you firmly save your life.
Marriage is very realistic, no one’s love will never change. No matter when, women must strive to achieve economic independence, so that they can master the future and destiny.
No matter how much you love him or how good he treats you after marriage, I hope you can see through the two truths of marriage as soon as possible.
and other tests only wake up when they come, and maybe it's too late.
