This is the 898th real person we tell
My name is Jenniya, a Russian girl born in the 1990s.
html When I was 06, my parents divorced, and my mother was only able to drink alcohol. I even had no food to eat. In order to escape the pain caused by my original family, I came to China alone to study at the age of 17. I did not have living expenses and made money as a translator, singer, or model.Perhaps it was because the broken family brought me too deep suffering from my childhood that I lost my passion for marriage for a while. Until I met my husband, who was six years older than me, even though I was diagnosed with infertility, he took my hand without hesitation and determined to give me a complete home.
Now, I have given birth to a son for him, and the family of three lives in China very happily. I also plan to settle in China for the rest of my life and don’t want to leave.
My first half of my life was wandering. Fortunately, I met you in the vast crowd. From then on, I am willing to give up wandering, take off my disguise, wash my hands and make soup. This is very similar to the old Chinese saying: "Hold your hand and grow old with me."
(In 2021, I participated in commercial performances and performed on stage to sing)
1992 I was born in a small city in Russia Chita . When I was 5 years old, my family moved to Irkutsk. There is the world's largest freshwater lake, , Baikal, , just as described in the lyrics, there is intoxicating the spring breeze and the green grass is lush.
The acquaintance between parents is more like a movie scene. The 17-year-old parents were pregnant before marriage and had to give birth to me after getting married. Two people who were too young would not run a family of three at all.
When I was 6 years old, my parents divorced. In my mother's eyes, life seemed to collapse, and my life has been upside down since then.
The mother was only 23 years old when she divorced. A young single mother supported her 6-year-old daughter alone, which shows the great pressure. In order to make a living, my mother could only work every day. When she got home, she was often exhausted. Looking at my appearance similar to my father and thinking of those sad pasts, she could only numb herself by drinking.
(At the age of four, my parents and I were one of the few family photos I treasured)
Life became worse and worse later, and my mother, who could no longer support her, could only take me back to my grandma's house in the countryside. The countryside of Russia was very poor, and almost no job was found in the family at that time. My mother became even more addicted to alcohol and often vented her anger on me. Sometimes I couldn’t eat for several days.
In desperation, I could only learn to cook by myself as a young man. After eating what I can eat at home, I don’t have the money to buy food. When I was most embarrassed by , I even started eating dog food. In order to survive, I found some seasonings and mixed them with onions, and swallowed them numbly with my eyes closed.
At that time, I kept thinking, who can save me?
(When I was 15 years old, I played with my two half-sisters)
Maybe God heard the cry of my heart. My father didn't know how to find out about my situation at that time, so he contacted my mother and wanted to come and see me.
In fact, it was because my father had not made up his mind to raise me, but when he saw that the cute little girl had become a child who needed to compete with dogs, his father's heart was shattered.
That's it, my father took me back to his home.
There is a father in the new family, and a stepmother who is only 12 years older than me. At the beginning, my life was very pleasant. My father might have treated me very well, and his stepmother also talked to me like a friend.
(a good friend in China, a birthday party for me)
But this kind of days didn't last long. When I was 12 years old, my stepmother gave birth to her first child, which was a girl. From then on, the stepmother and father's hearts were all on this little girl in the cradle.
I also know that I am in an awkward position in my home. Every time I come home from school, I will do my best to help my family share housework and take care of the baby.
In order to make money, I worked as a summer job when I was in high school. I remember one year the school was going to decorate, which was the simple work of painting and planting flowers.During the whole two months, I earned a total of 500 yuan, which made me very happy.
After living under the same roof for a long time, it is difficult for parents and daughters to stay together for a long time. Two years later, the stepmother gave birth to a second sister. My conflicts with her are becoming more and more common, and my father is becoming more and more unfamiliar.
(I celebrated my second birthday in China, and it was also a surprise given to me by my good friend)
In those years, two children were born at home. In order to make money, my father was very busy with work and had almost no time to accompany us. And I also reached the rebellious period, and I often get tense when I say something wrong, and the atmosphere at home is very depressing.
Sometimes my father is so anxious that he has no way to deal with me, and can only use violence to solve it.
I still remember it very clearly. When he hit me the last time, he was very heavy. Until now, I have the scars on my head when my father beat me up. The scar is like a thorn. Although it will heal, it will never disappear in the heart.
Looking at the father, stepmother and two daughters, the family of four are happy. I think even if I have lived here for five years, I can only be considered a living under someone else's roof and may never be able to integrate into this new family.
(First modeling job in China, taking wedding photos)
17 when I graduated from high school, I went back to visit my biological mother during the holiday. In the five years since she left her mother, she has never looked for me, and she hasn't even called me. When I saw my mother again, I found that she had quit drinking and had two daughters after remarriage, and lived a harmonious and beautiful life.
It turns out that I am the only one who was abandoned.
After learning the truth, I was extremely angry like a trapped beast. My father belongs to others, and my mother belongs to others. I don’t even have a home, but the world is so big, but I don’t have a place to stay.
My father looked at me in grief and anger and decided to let me study in China. For him, I was an unstable factor, and for me, this study abroad journey was more like an escape, and I finally had the freedom I wanted.
(I usually take photos for my friends and act as a model)
So with pain, I embarked on the road to study in Shenyang, China alone.
When I first arrived in China, I couldn’t speak Chinese and encountered all kinds of difficulties. Fortunately, I went abroad with my friend at that time and met a teacher from Russia at school. She gave me a lot of help, which made me feel that living in China is not that difficult.
The care of strangers is like a warm sun in the cold winter, which slowly melts my dusty heart from the ice and snow.
The second year I studied in China, my classmates introduced me to be a model and make money. Later, I learned to sing and mustered up the courage to perform on stage. From then on, my economy gradually became independent.
When my father suggested that I could not afford to spend money on my living expenses, I felt that it was fine because I could support myself.
(studying in local TV station performances in 2017)
I went to school and worked. After graduating from graduate school, I chose to stay in China. At that time, I mainly worked as models, singers and translators. I also tried to do online self-media for a while, but the results were not satisfactory, so I gave up. After working in
, I am more like a desperate man. I want to learn and try any industry, and I have no idea of falling in love. I am very busy during the day, and I have no intention of thinking about anything else. When I go home at night, looking at the empty room, I sometimes cannot help but recall the past and complain.
Maybe I have no expectations for love, and everything I encounter is a surprise. At this moment, love comes.
One day I went to be an extra to shoot a TV series. The weather was very hot. A very enthusiastic man saw that I was sweating all over, so he bought me an ice cream. Out of politeness, we added contact information to each other.
(Being able to study in China is the best arrangement of fate)
So we started chatting slowly from the Internet, and then we met, ate, and took a walk. Although this man was six years older than me, he was like a child in love, and even shy when holding hands.
From falling in love to getting marriage certificate , from getting pregnant to having a baby, we have been together for only a short year, but we have confirmed that each other is the ones we can rely on in each other's lives.
actually makes me decide to marry him, and there is another very important thing. Before getting the certificate with my husband, I accidentally learned that I had an infertility and it was difficult to get pregnant naturally with .
I know that in China, children mean the continuation of incense, and I don’t want to be so selfish and delay my husband’s time.
(In 2018, my father and his family came to China to see me)
When I told him this matter nervously, my husband told me not to worry and let it go. Since I got married in August last year, I have been preparing for pregnancy and have not made any special preparations. I started taking folic acid as required by the hospital, and the rest was left to fate.
I remember it very clearly. On December 20, 2021, my husband suddenly said that I think you might be pregnant. But I can't believe that a person who was sentenced to infertility and physical fitness could get pregnant after only four months of preparation?
It was not until December 24 that after 4 days, I took out the test strip under my husband's repeated urging. Seeing the two bright red bars on the test strip, I finally believed that I was pregnant.
Every time I touch my stomach, it is hard for me to believe that there is a baby here, and a child of my own . Thank you for your arrangement of fate and for your favor. I met you the gentlest ones in my best years.
(My baby was born successfully on August 29, 2022)
After I got pregnant, I gave up all my work in order to protect my fetus. We were so excited at that time that everything at home was mainly about babies. My husband renovated the old house at home and cleaned up the baby's baby's baby's baby's room.
After my friends learned that I was pregnant, they also gave them a lot of things that their children could no longer use. I think it is very good and economical, and it is also very popular to buy second-hand things in Europe now.
My husband is a teacher at school and often deals with students. In fact, he likes children very much in his heart. From pregnancy to the birth of the baby, my husband gave up almost all his spare time and stayed with me every day after get off work.
I often ask God, how can I arrange such a good husband for me? I love him very much. He is not only my lover and the father of the child, but also my best friend and my strongest backing. With him, I finally have my own home, a sense of security, and a future.
(the first photo of our family of three)
August 29, 2022, under the expectation of the whole family, the baby was finally born. To be honest, I don’t know much about giving birth to a baby in Russia. I only know that my mother was hospitalized without a caregiver and could be discharged five days after giving birth.
There is no need to spend money on giving birth in Russia, no need to go through confinement, no need for the elderly to take care of their children, it all depends on yourself.
When I gave birth to a baby in China, my husband was very nervous and accompanied me to the delivery room. When it hurts the most, he kept holding my hand, giving me water, and constantly comforting me. In fact, I went to the delivery room to give birth to the baby myself, and I stayed for 30 minutes before coming out. The process of giving birth was shorter, so it took less than twenty minutes.
I often joke, I am worried that husband, you are too nervous outside, so I quickly give birth to show you our son.
(This soft little guy melted my heart)
Now the baby is over a full moon. Being a mother is really a very happy thing, but she is very tired and always feels that she doesn’t have enough sleep. Because babies often sleep during the day and get up in the middle of the night, in Chinese, they are sleeping upside down.
I have just celebrated my 30th birthday and have deeply realized the difficulty of being a mother, and my relationship with my biological mother has also eased a lot.
I didn't understand her very much before, and I even thought she didn't exist for a while. Seeing my stepmother caring for her biological daughter, I couldn't understand why my own mother could not contact me for 5 years and not care about her own children.
(Put on good makeup to participate in the international friendly night)
Since I got pregnant last year, I have learned to reconcile with my mother. Now that the baby is born, I chat every day, send her photos of the baby and tell her about the baby's growth process.
Think about it, my mother was only 17 years old when she gave birth to me, and she was both the same child. She was only 23 years old when she divorced. A young single mother with her 6-year-old child, and she did her best. Fortunately, we have now restored the mother-daughter relationship, and now she is a grandma, she is very happy and proud.
In fact, it is not only the matter of reconciliation with my mother, but as I grow older over the years, I have gradually opened up many knots of the past, and my relationship with my father has gradually eased. My grandmother passed away due to the epidemic, and many of the family members of some local Russian friends also left.
I feel more and more importantly the blood relationship between relatives.
(In 2019, I returned to China to visit my father)
The summer of 2019 was the last time I went home to visit my father. When I got home that time, my father felt that I was much more mature, and he regretted abandoning me twice.
Especially when I was 17 years old, I was afraid that I would cause trouble at home and hurriedly decided to send me to study in China, but I have always been grateful for his decision. After all, being able to study in China was something I once dared not even think about.
For well-known reasons, air tickets to Russia are very expensive, and returning to China from Russia also requires a lot of money. I roughly calculated that if our family of three returns to Russia, the cheapest round-trip air ticket must be prepared at least 200,000 yuan.
Now the family depends entirely on the salary of my husband alone. It is really difficult to get this money out. I can only wait until the air tickets are cheaper in the future before taking my baby home to visit relatives.
(On August 13, 2021, my husband and I registered for marriage)
Now, the most important job for me is to be a good mother and wife. Both roles are very important to me and are not biased. The baby needs my care, and the same is true for my husband. When the baby grows up, he will also enter society and start his own life. The final day is still the couple living together.
In my first half of my life, there is nothing right or wrong, only growth. There is no one in this world who is not hurt. No matter when, you must believe that the only one who truly heals yourself is yourself. Don’t complain, try to take care of it; don’t be afraid of loneliness, and try to settle down.
I was displaced in the first half of my life, and I washed my hands and made soup for you in the second half of my life.
[Oral: Jenniya]
[Editor: Junjunhe]
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