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For many elderly people, pension is a very troublesome thing, but many people have found good pension methods, but the early stage is very good, but after the later stage, it is indeed so unsatisfactory, and even regrets it.
. Most elderly people’s way of pension is to rely on their children to support their elderly care. They believe that only children are the most reliable. Even if their children are unwilling to support their elderly care, they will follow their children with stern faces. No matter what the price they pay, they must live with their children. They think that doing so will their children not leave them behind, but they do not know that this kind of pension makes them worse than death.
However, what kind of elderly care life is the best for the elderly? What kind of elderly care methods are suitable for elderly care? In fact, it is not difficult to support the elderly. As long as the elderly know the retirement life they want, and rely on themselves and not rely on their children to support the elderly, then the retirement life will be much simpler and easier, and only such an elderly care life will lead to a happy life.
A 65-year-old man living alone. After his children's elderly care failed, he quickly found a new type of elderly care method. One is someone to take care of, and the other is to make some money. The elderly care life is very comfortable. So what kind of elderly care method is it? Next, let’s take a look at what the old man’s retirement method looks like.
Self-reporter: Mr. Chen is 65 years old
My surname is Chen, and I am 65 years old this year. Before I experienced retirement, I always thought that the most practical way to retirement is to raise children to prevent old age. As long as I have children, I don’t have to worry about retirement. But when I reached the age when I needed retirement, I realized that raising children to prevent old age is not practical at all, and it is simply too difficult.
My ex-wife and I divorced a long time ago. It’s not that I don’t love her, but that she has someone outside, and I can’t stand it. So I just divorced at that time. After the divorce, my ex-wife didn’t want a single child, so I left it all for me to take care of her. I was very angry at that time and felt that she was very ruthless and didn’t want her children. I went to find a man who had nothing, just caring about being happy, but I didn’t know how much harm her departure would bring to my children.
Later, my children also asked me where my mother was. In order not to make them hate their ex-wife, I lied that their mother had passed away. Although they were a little suspicious, fortunately, they never asked them later. So they grew up and started a family and started a career. They all moved out to live outside, and I stayed in my hometown and lived alone.
To be honest, there is nothing wrong with living alone. I am also very healthy and do not need the care of others. I do whatever I want, eat when I want, and play when I want to play. No one will care about me, it is very comfortable.
I lived alone for three years. I thought my body would always be healthy, but who knew that when I was 65 years old, my body began to get into problems, and all kinds of discomforts came to me.
At the beginning, I could bear it. If it weren't for a big problem, I would just take some medicine at home and sleep for two more nights. However, when I get old, I'm old. I can't take medicine alone. I have to go to the hospital for examination. My children are usually busy and can't take time to go home. I don't know how to ride a bike. In desperation, I have to ask my neighbors for help. It's okay if I bother them once or twice, but if I often bother them, they will also dislike them. This method doesn't work, and I have to find other solutions.
At that time, I didn't even think about troubleing my children so quickly, and I thought about waiting for a few more years to pass. However, my friend often told me that when my children grow up, it's time for them to take on this responsibility, and it's time to go to their children's house to get familiar with the living environment, so that I don't want to be so stubborn.
I know my friend is for my own good, and I think what he said makes sense. And I also thought at that time that my children would definitely be filial to me. After all, I pulled them up with shit and urine, and would definitely be responsible for me and support me for my old age. However, when I went to my children's house to live, I regretted it and should not have expected too high expectations of them.
At the beginning, I went to my son's house. When I first arrived, they treated me very well. I didn't have to do anything. I also let me go down to practice Tai Chi with others when I was full. I didn't need to worry about anything, just take good care of myself.
What my son and daughter-in-law said at that time moved me and felt that it was worth raising a son. In addition, my son would also give me living expenses every month, so that when they didn't have time to accompany me, I would ask me to buy some food and drinks. Seeing that they were so kind to me, I often called my friends to show off. I had a filial son, and my friends envied me, and I felt very happy. However, who knew that after living in my son's house for half a year, they no longer gave me pocket money, and even came to me to ask for money and asked me for money for various reasons.
We are all a family. When my son is in trouble, I will definitely help, but since I gave them money once, they have been overdoing it. I asked me to give all the living expenses at home, the children's tutoring fees, and even the insurance premiums for their family. Although I have some savings, I have spent 100,000 yuan for their family in a short period of time. If this continues, my deposit will be empty sooner or later.
In addition, after I lived in my son's house for a long time, they did not respect and take care of me as before. Instead, they asked me to do housework every day, wash and cook for them, and take care of their children. During that time, I was wondering whether I was here to support my elderly care or be a nanny. People also had their salary to be a nanny. Not only did I not have a salary, I kept paying money. It was fine if the money was paid, but my daughter-in-law was also disliked and scolded.
Later, in order not to let them become dependents, I refused when my son asked me for money again. However, after they couldn't get the money, they scolded me and said that it would be useless to keep my money and not spend it. If I die in the future, I wouldn't take it away. It would be better to take it out for them to spend it now. And my daughter-in-law cursed loudly: "If you don't take out the money, you will never want us to support you in your life. You are an immortal, you will still be reluctant to take out the money. Look at which old man is like you."
My daughter-in-law's words made me feel very uncomfortable. I didn't expect that they could say anything for money and didn't give me some support. I was so blind that I felt that they were filial.
Later, in order not to let them get my money, I didn’t want to be wronged by my son’s house anymore, so I simply took my luggage and came to my daughter’s house. People all said that my daughter was my father’s little lover in his previous life. I believe my girl would treat me well, but I was confident again. My daughter is pretty good and she is not good to me, but her son-in-law can’t do it.
After he learned that I spent so much money at my son's house, he was particularly unhappy and wanted me to use so much money to improve my life. My son-in-law's family was not very good. When I saw my daughter marrying into such a family, I felt very distressed. I also gave them more than 50,000 yuan to subsidize their family income. I thought that as long as I gave living expenses, my son-in-law would have nothing to say, but who knew that the son-in-law didn't treat me as a father-in-law at all, and did not respect me. Every time I came back, I asked me to serve him, let me cook for him, and scolded me loudly. When my daughter was not at home, I even said that I was old and came to my daughter's house to support her. I also said that I came to them to add pressure to them, so that I could get some money quickly, otherwise I would beat me.
My daughter protects me every time, but I know that my daughter can protect me once, but I can’t protect me twice or three times, because my daughter also has to listen to her son-in-law, otherwise she will not be able to eat at this family and she will not have any sense of existence. I even heard my son-in-law scold her daughter many times, and he said, "Hurry up and ask your father to leave, otherwise you can drive out together, don’t be upset. What’s the use of giving him the elderly now? His property will not be without your share in the future. I don’t have the time and energy to take care of him."
I was very disappointed when I heard my son-in-law's words, and my daughter was shaken. She also began to feel that it would be useless to support me in the old age. In the future, my property would not be her share. If this is the case, there would be no need to continue to waste it. The two of them also began to discuss how to drive me out. I was not blind, so naturally I could see their intentions, so I left myself without them rushing.
After leaving my daughter's house, I did not go back to my son's house, but returned to my hometown and lived alone. I wanted me to have a pension and some savings, so it was okay to take care of myself. But who would have thought that as I got older, my health became worse and worse. It was either hurt here or there every few days. It was really not possible to live alone.
I also thought about hiring a nanny, but now nanny is too dishonest and does something excessive under the banner of being a nanny. I am also afraid of meeting such a nanny. It is too late to cry at that time, and it is impossible for nanny to hire it. Then my friend suggested that I find a wife to take care of me. In this way, when I am sick, I don’t have to worry about not taking care of me.
It's good to find a wife, but I'm afraid of finding a woman who is even more serious than me, who is weak and sickly. At that time, who may take care of whom. And now it's not that simple to marry a woman, and it doesn't matter if you don't have tens of thousands of yuan. Who would like to follow you? So after thinking about it, it's better to forget it, and don't want to find something to do.
But if I don’t look for a nanny or a wife, then what should I do with my retirement life? It is definitely not a solution to live alone, and the money will be spent at that time. However, just when I was worried about retirement, my friend I had not seen for many years came back. He moved out to live in other places for many years. I heard that he has developed well in other places and has also developed many tourist inns, so I envy him.
After a long talk with him, he gave me a suggestion, which was to convert my current house into an inn and rent it out. Anyway, I am close to tourist attractions. If I change the house into an inn, the business will definitely be good. My place is also easy to find, just on the roadside. In this way, I don’t have to worry about not having money to support myself. I still have rent collection every month, and I can still use the money to hire a senior nanny to come back to take care of me.
My friend's suggestion is really my heart. When he finished speaking, I was fantasizing about a happy life in the future, so I did it and started it immediately. Before this matter began, I didn't tell my children. I thought I didn't need anyone's consent to move my house. However, when my children found out, they were very angry and even scolded me, saying that I was so old and didn't know how to weigh the pros and cons. If I had the energy to do these things, it would be better to sell the house and buy the house for the brother and sister.
They have never thought about me, nor do they know what I want. So since that is the case, I don’t need to think about them anymore, so despite their opposition, they decorated the house into the same drawings provided by my friend.
I am not expensive to rent, and I charge 680 every month. I know that it is not easy to make money now, and I am not short of money. As long as I have difficulties and really want to rent it, I will rent it out. At the beginning, I didn’t have much hope, but what I didn’t expect was that the decoration style and location of my place were loved by everyone. Almost all the houses were rented. I was also happy to see that everyone liked me.
Usually when I have time, I will invite tenants to sing and organize parties. When they have difficulties, they will not urge them to rent me so quickly. Instead, I will ask them to wait until they have money. It is not too late to give me it. Maybe it is because I am kind to them, so the tenants take good care of me, often helping me carry water, take out garbage, and even help me repair the sewer. When I feel uncomfortable, they do their best to take me to the hospital and work hard for me. I am really grateful to them. After having these tenants, I never feel bored anymore. There are many people accompanying me every day, which is much more comfortable than going to my children's house. I don't have to retire, and I still dislike it. I am also kicked around like a ball.
So after experiencing these things, I think my current retirement method is very good and worth learning from. When people get old, they really can’t rely on their children. No one can rely on themselves. You can live a happy life by relying on themselves. You can see now that I can’t help you with them and make some money. Why not do it! What do you think?
