All my ambitions, but free life
Text: Little Moon | Typesetting: Moon Lane
Recently, when chatting with a friend, she suddenly said sadly: "Have you noticed that slowly, our friends are getting fewer and fewer. Those who once made bold statements and ambitions to be together forever are always getting separated."
Confused as I used to be, I believe many of us have had this idea.
I think it is most appropriate to explain it with the sentence Sanmao -
"In fact, as we grow older, we do not lose some friends, but we understand who is the real friend."
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Maybe we all did this when we were kids, and we felt that people who had no friends were miserable and would make friends just to make friends.
At that time, we were all young and had a simple mind. As long as we liked each other and could play together, we would be good friends.
We may argue over an eraser, a pen, or a very small matter.
Even if we did not make up later and never said a word again, We also clearly know that the reason for our alienation is that we quarrel because of something.
is not like now, and it is natural and conscious and goes away. It feels like there is no sign, but when you think about it carefully, it is all evidence.
did not say goodbye, nor would you take care of it, but you just won’t contact you again from now on.
Not long ago, I met my best friend in elementary school. I remember that we had a very good relationship at that time, just like conjoined baby , but in the end, it could not withstand the strength of time, and the familiarity of the past has long been replaced by the stranger today.
But sometimes, I still want to know how she has been in the past few years? OK? What have you experienced?
still remember meeting that day, she just glanced at me in surprise. When our eyes were about to touch, she withdrew her gaze and turned slightly.
I think there is no need to regret it. Losing is the norm. Meeting, knowing each other for a period of time is the greatest fate.
Everyone has a different direction. On the road of friendship, if you meet, you will inevitably get separated.
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I once wrote an article with a total of 100,000+ views "To be too good to a person is the beginning of losing", which wrote about my best friend, and I called her Sun Daxia.
We have been separated for a short time.
It was my sophomore year, and I had long forgotten why we were unhappy. I only remember that I wanted to drop out of school at that time and wanted to leave the place where she was.
and a person turn from inseparable from being inseparable to turning a blind eye is an extremely painful process.
obviously cares very much, but he has to pretend to be careless. It's really fatal.
During that period, I regretted, blamed myself, and was sad for losing this relationship, but the only thing I didn’t do was to truly reflect - why do I have such a good relationship and just say it apart?
until we made up later, and once we talked about this question: "She said to me in a tangled way:
is really happy to get along with you, but sometimes, you give too much and treat me too well, which puts me very stressed, making me consciously become cautious, worried that I can't do it well, and can't give you the corresponding response, making you angry."
At that time, I realized that love, it turns out, is also stressful.
Only after reflecting on it did I realize that the main problem we get along with is too high.
Friendship needs to be loosened for each other, and it is not a good thing for both of them to tie it too tightly.
Just a few hours ago, Sun Daxia sent me a video, chatting about recent work, talking about family affairs, planning to buy winter clothes together, talking about my brother's studies, and she also urged me to find a partner~ I was also thinking about what gifts to my godson [her baby] in the New Year~
There is a saying: "Friends are the family you choose. " I calm down and think about it, and I feel very happy to have such a friend.
Don’t need to contact deliberately, don’t do it intentionally, don’t need to be suspicious, you can talk about your ideals openly, you can have a gossip about your family’s worries, you can take off your mask temporarily, and be yourself as you wish.
I was very happy today because of your concern and happiness seemed deeper~
We cannot decide the appearance of a person, nor can we keep a person's departure. The only thing we can do is to cherish the unexpected surprises and accept the sudden parting.
Facing friendship, you might as well be more open-minded, even if there is no one behind you, you still have yourself.
As Sholes said: "There is no incurable pain, no inexhaustible sinking, and everything that is lost will return in another way."
Learn to let go, take gains and losses indifferent, expect moderately, and love yourself well, so that the relationship will not appear so crowded.
Hmm, that's it, good night everyone [moon]
or above, encourage them together!
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Author introduction: Little Moon, an amateur writing enthusiast. The greatest ambition is to use books as friends, write as companions, and share as a living. In the quietness of writing oneself, experience the grandeur of life.
