I really want to know, are all boys concerned about whether their partner is a virgin?
I have fallen back on this issue many times, so that I can no longer face myself now.
I am 28 years old this year and just broke up a few days ago.
The reason for breaking up was the same as the previous few people. Because I was not a virgin, he felt that I had deceived me and could not accept the "incomplete" me, so he decided to leave.
Indeed, at the age of 28, I have had two boyfriends before and have had sex with one of them.
After that, they separated for various reasons and met their second boyfriend. Finally, they knew that I was not a virgin, so they chose to leave.
I once began to doubt love, doubt myself, and I met this boyfriend.
After attracting each other, I kept hesitating whether to tell him that I was not a virgin. I was afraid, and he would mind.
But I couldn't deceive him and was with him, so I chose to tell him the truth in a tactful way.
I didn't expect the result to be as I expected. He was very collapsed. In his concept, this is something that should not have happened before marriage. This is a sign of uncleanness and very dirty.
"I don't think I'm a virgin and don't deserve true love" is his original words.
Now I feel that I am right, and I feel that I am wrong, and I feel that I am wrong, which is very entangled.
Is this dirty? Is it really not worthy of love as they said?
I am very sad and regretful, but having sex has happened is a fact that cannot be changed. What can I do?
Girl, through your text, I can feel your helplessness and heartache.
You think your confession can be exchanged for love, but in the end it ends in failure, so this makes you question love and doubt yourself.
First of all, I hope you understand that love is actually not that narrow-minded.
What you meet is just an isolated case, which does not mean that all men are like this.
Many times, in the face of true love, age, beauty and ugliness, and even gender are not a problem, let alone whether he is a virgin.
So, the boy who left you because you are not a virgin is still not in love enough, or in other words, they are not loving you that person
Of course, this cannot be said that the other person has problems with his or her personality. Everyone has his or her own values and ideas he or she insists on.
And you are not a virgin, it just challenges his values, so it is normal for him to accept it for a short time, and even collapse.
A person's values will not be changed in a short period of time. If he does not overcome this level in his heart and forces himself to be with you, it may not be a good thing for you and him.
So, discover the problem early and leave as soon as possible, and the harm to you and him can be minimized.
Of course, the most important point is that uncle hopes you understand that there is nothing wrong with your past, it is not a virgin, it is not an original sin.
does not need to feel guilty for this, nor does it need to feel guilty about it.
After all, it’s been 2022. Who hasn’t ever loved one seriously?
Don’t stubbornly think that you don’t deserve love after a failure in love, and don’t think that it’s your fault that you lost him. If you have sex, you are not a good girl.
In other words, aren’t women who divorce, remarry, marry unmarried men with children and live a happy and fulfilling life without their lives worthy of being loved?
is not! Those who truly love you will not care about your past. They love your present and future, not your past.
Girl, good love will make you happy and happy, not blame yourself for your own grievances. You will definitely be able to overcome this level, find a good person, and live a happy life.
Of course, I would like to remind the girls here that when you are not sure whether the other party can spend the rest of your life with you, please do not hand over your body easily.
This is a kind of respect for yourself and a responsibility for yourself. Don’t give anyone the opportunity to trample on our bodies or even dignity. This is the best way to love yourself.
