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See this, if you think it is not easy to understand, think about the following questions, I believe you will be clearer and clearer. ①Who are we living for? ②Who is living for us again? ③Who is enjoying or bearing our achievements? ④Who are we enjoying or bearing?
The answer is self-evident. In most cases, other people's failures and successes have nothing to do with us, and our failures and successes have nothing to do with others.
In plain words, no matter how good other people’s home is, it is still someone else’s home. We can visit, but we cannot live in other people’s homes for a long time, because that is not our home, and only our own home is what we really have and a place where we can live for a long time.
Speaking of this, the answer has actually come out. So, how does treat people who once failed you? four words "Let yourself go".
To put it more in detail, the answer lies with us. When we don’t have expectations for others, we will not feel that “others have let us down” and vice versa.
Here, we need to be clear that not all efforts in can get corresponding returns. If we want to get a big gain for every little effort, the result will only disappoint us. Faced with the so-called failure, we need to have a mentality of "paying without asking for rewards, and rewards come unexpectedly."
Furthermore, since has been the past, why should we lock ourselves in the cage of the past? After all, what is past is the past, and the future is our only direction.
So, when we face the past failure, we don’t have to be too persistent. We must learn to look forward. Life cannot be immersed in past events forever, so we will not have a sense of happiness. Such a life will only make us more and more tired and meaningless.
Therefore, when facing the person who once failed you, let yourself go. Forgive others is also forgive yourself.
changyanchangyu:
How to treat people who once failed you? What kind of behavior is called failure? We show kindness to others, but others accept it but fail to do it. This can be said to be a disappointment. Correspondingly, if we show kindness to others and others do not accept it, then there is no so-called disappointment or not, because the information that is not accepted is itself an invalid information.
Secondly, in the face of the so-called failure, we should focus on ourselves and tell ourselves "Don't make trouble with others, don't be unable to get along with ourselves."
Finally, treats people who once failed you and letting go of yourself is a good way to deal with it.
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