In my hometown, there is a conventional rule to find a partner. Girls are looking for undergraduate boys in colleges, and girls can look for undergraduate or graduate boys in undergraduates. In short, boys have higher education than girls, at least the same.
I always think these are nonsense, and even discrimination against women. Why should girls have lower education levels than boys in a marriage?
Wenwen is a graduate student, a female graduate student, or an older female graduate student. Lao Xiao’s daughter was grown up by us. She has been a good student in the eyes of others since she was a child. She is well-behaved and well-educated. She successfully passed the graduate school entrance exam and once again became the pride of her parents. But what my parents were even more worried about was that Wenwen, a girl, was getting older and finding a partner became a big problem.
In terms of IQ and character, Wenwen is the best choice, but her appearance is a bit ordinary, and she is the kind that can't see the glory in the crowd. According to Lao Xiao, his daughter has never been in a relationship. They used to be relieved, but now they are anxious.
Wenwen was worried about her work after graduating from graduate school. She went to an average school, her major was Chinese, and her employment prospects were average. If she went to a big city, she would not start too high. Lao Xiao suggested that his daughter go back to her hometown. With her postgraduate degree, it is easier to get a teacher in her hometown.
We all advise Lao Xiao to be cautious and not to mention his daughter's future. It is even more difficult to find a partner just by talking about it. In recent years, due to the poor economic development of my hometown, few boys who went out to school came back, and the ratio of young men and women was uneven. A boy with a better life is often surrounded by many girls, and the competition is also fierce.
Lao Xiao finally didn't listen to everyone's advice. After graduation, Wenwen returned to her hometown. Her work went smoothly and she was still in the middle school in the county. But in line with our prediction, she really delayed her finding a partner.
Later, we heard a shocking news: Wenwen, who is almost thirty years old, is getting married, and the other party is a small contractor with only a junior high school education! Lao Xiao said that Wenwen met this boy through a friend. Although this boy is not highly educated, he is quite capable. He takes care of some scattered work on the construction site, which is a little harder, but he earns no less money than those at work.
Wenwen finally chose this boy, and another very important reason is that this boy is very nice to her. The boy said that Wenwen is a cultural person and it is his luck to be able to fall in love with him. He will do everything he can to be nice to her. Wenwen has grown up so old, and has never been with such a hot and cold opposite sex. She doesn't care whether the boy is rich or good-looking or not. She thinks that being really good to her is the best.
We met the boy at Wenwen's wedding. The boy was not amazing and greeted everyone he saw, with a happy smile on his face. We also wish Lao Xiao and Wenwen, hoping that they can all be happy.
has changed in just three years. One day, Lao Xiao asked everyone to drink and said he was upset and wanted to sit down. Lao Xiao looked very bad and didn't say anything, just drank one cup after another. We looked at each other, not knowing where to start. After three rounds of drinking, Lao Xiao blushed and finally said his worries: Wenwen can't survive, she wants to get divorced!
We are busy asking why? Lao Xiao said that he regretted that he didn't stop his daughter at the beginning, a girl with a postgraduate degree and a husband with a junior high school degree, and this gap cannot be ignored by humans.
After the boy married Wenwen, his family was very proud. The boy is a rural child. Wenwen's mother-in-law praises everyone, saying how outstanding her son is. Even if she doesn't go to school, she can marry a graduate wife. What's wrong with the graduate school? Her family has been to school for so many years, but in the end she still earns money for her family to have children?
Wenwen was very angry when she heard about it. She asked the boy to explain to her mother that she didn't arrange people like this.The boy smiled and said, "Our mother is right, you are my family, why are you angry? I'll treat you well with me...
The boy is very nice to Wenwen. Wenwen is very tired at work at school. She often gets angry about some small things after returning home. The boy always speaks softly and warmly, and Wenwen enjoys it very much."
It was only last month that the boy was arrested for soliciting prostitution. Wenwen almost went crazy when she got the news. She wanted to know why? He can be shameless, but she wants it!
After the boy was released, Wenwen must have an explanation. The boy said: You have too high education, I am depressed!
Wenwen is puzzled, why do you think you are suppressing me? The boy said that at that time, I thought it was my pride that a junior high school student could find a graduate student. I could brag for half my life even if I brag, but later I found that it was not what I thought...
You have a high education, you know a lot, I don’t understand some of the things you said, and I still have to smile carefully. You always disdain the idea of solving the problem. I have low education and I really can't understand some things, but I am a man, I have self-esteem, and I live a very depressed life! I go to that kind of place, I am the boss, I do whatever I want, and I don’t need to look at other people’s faces...
Wenwen resolutely turned around and went back to her parents’ home. Since they were uncomfortable with each other, why bother to get entangled?
People often say "a good match". What I understand is not necessarily how high the status should be, but the three views must be consistent; academic qualifications do not necessarily have to be equal, but academic qualifications must be a factor that needs to be considered. Love cannot solve everything, and there is still a gap between love and reality.
Wenwen's marriage has come to this point. Although there are troubles caused by education, it is more because the way and method of getting along with the couple is wrong. When they get together, they are sincerely opposed, but they still cannot withstand the interference of external factors such as experience and the past, and the inner uneasiness of the parties involved!
There is no fixed pattern in marriage in the world. I hope that other couples with high education can get their own happiness!
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