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Qian Zhongshu There is a classic quote in " Besieged City ": The elderly are in love, just like an old house is on fire and cannot be saved.
Why do people of this age group, once they fall in love with it, will never hesitate and ignore the consequences? Because at this time they don’t have much time and don’t care about a lot of things anymore. They just want to be themselves and enjoy love for the rest of their time.
After all, it is very rare to meet love at their age.
But life is not a literary work, life is realistic.
Many elderly people in life look for their husbands not because they really meet love, but because they are too lonely, want to find someone to accompany them, or covet the other party's financial conditions, and want to take advantage of it.
This is the truth that 70-year-old Mr. Li only understood the heart-wrenching truth after he found three old friends one after another.
1: The chance of meeting true love is very small, almost no, most of them just need each other and use
Uncle Li's wife died of illness when he was 60 years old. He was difficult to accept at first, but he slowly adjusted his mindset. He told himself that he should live a life in the future, not only to live, but also to live a good life.
So about two years later, he would have the idea of finding a wife.
At that time, he did not consider whether the two of them had love, but just wanted to find someone who could chat with him to live together. Even if he had someone to talk to him, he would feel much more relieved.
But he was still too naive after all. After being together for a while, he found that there was no common language or any feelings between them.
Not only did he not feel relieved because he found his wife, but instead felt that life was even more awkward. The same is true for the second and third persons. They are completely in a state of living, and their minds are not simple. They see that their pension is four or five thousand, and they will find reasons to go somewhere almost every month.
Of course, after leaving, it is not for you to spend it, but for them to their own children.
Although they can cook and do housework on time and take good care of themselves, Uncle Li always feels that such a relationship is of no use at all, it is just a mutual need and mutual use.
This is probably the first heartbreaking truth in elderly marriage. There is no emotion, only mutual use.
2: Compared with the relationship itself, the elderly care more about the other party's economic conditions, which is really realistic.
And the second truth of elderly marriage is that compared with whether there is love, the two people care more about the economic conditions. Just like Mr. Li's second and third ones are for his pension, most people also come for money.
Once wrote about an old man in his sixties. When he went on a blind date, the first thing he asked was whether the other party had a house.
Because his son is not married yet and he is not able to buy a wedding house for him, he wants to find a rich wife and transfer her house to his son.
, but his conspiracy did not succeed, because after the other party saw through his true face, he left without hesitation, and even sarcastically and insulted him, saying that he was shameless and whimsical. Things like
are common in life, and this is also the most realistic point in the marriage of the elderly.
So I would like to advise all middle-aged and elderly people: If you really want to find someone who can get along and live a down-to-earth life, this is understandable, and most of your children will support you. But if you are not simple and think about calculating and using the other party from the beginning, then I advise you to stop this idea as soon as possible.
people must have a bottom line in being a human being no matter what age they are. If they get old but ruin their reputation, it will be more than worth the loss.
There is no age restriction for love. People have the right to pursue love at any age, but in their later years, the chance of meeting love is too small. Most people look for old friends just to relieve loneliness, fight loneliness, or find someone to take care of themselves and accompany themselves.
No matter what, such marriages and love are extremely realistic and have certain purpose.
This reminds us that if you really have the idea of finding a partner, you must be cautious enough. Don’t force yourself if you don’t meet the right person. If you live your life alone, you will be more comfortable and more purified.
After all, many times, if you find the wrong person, there will be a constant stream of trouble. Why is this trouble?
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