Marriage is not only the continuation of the relationship between two people, nor is it just the blossoming and fruiting of love, but more the union of two families and the establishment of a new family. The couple gradually separated from their original family and began to estab

2025/04/1806:18:37 emotion 1034

Marriage is not only the continuation of the relationship between two people, nor is it just the blossoming and fruiting of love, but more the union of two families and the establishment of a new family. The couple gradually separated from their original family and began to establish their own big family. The partner gradually became the most important relatives in a person's life. After all, the people around him are often the people who can accompany him until old age.

However, the continuation of this relationship is simple to say, but it is difficult to go through. It is not only difficult to get along with each other and conflicts, but more importantly, the relationship between two families. From the beginning of the two people, they have a close relationship with their respective families. If this relationship cannot be handled, it is easy to cause rifts in the relationship between husband and wife.

Whether it is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, or the relationship between son-in-law and parents-in-law, although everyone has accepted the fact that the family is, after all, there is no blood relationship, no long time of companionship or emotional running-in, so there will always be a distance between them and a layer of gauze during the process of getting along. This is also a human nature. But if you don’t know how to understand each other from the beginning, but only care about your own feelings and ignore the other’s feelings, sometimes it is difficult to maintain the basic relationship, and even one after another chain effect affects the child’s marriage and feelings.

You will postpone it for a few years before you come back! We will use the house for another two years! Son-in-law: 100,000 yuan a year, leave if you don’t give it

Xu Qiang (pseudonym) and Zhou Lili (pseudonym):

Xu Qiang and Zhou Lili have been married for three years. The two met during the work process. Because they are fellow villagers, they gradually evolved from fellow villagers to relationships between boyfriend and girlfriend. Zhou Lili, who Xu Qiang took the initiative to pursue, pursued it for about three months before this relationship was found.

After the two of them got to know each other for about a year, because they were both married, they discussed getting married. Because they were fellow villagers and both of them were the same person, the material foundations mentioned in marriage were not so quarrels, and instead, the parents of each other's families did not make any difficulties.

Before getting married, Xu Qiang had a house. It was bought by his family a few years ago, and it was also to help Xu Qiang get married. It has been two or three years since he bought it, but it has not been well decorated. On the one hand, it is because Xu Qiang has never found a suitable partner, and on the other hand, it is because Xu Qiang wants to go out to work, so the house is always kept, and he wants to wait until Xu Qiang gets married before decorating it. Now that Xu Qiang has decided to Zhou Lili's marriage, the matter of decorating the house has also been put on the agenda. When the house is renovated and moved in, Xu Qiang and Zhou Lili officially got married.

But although the wedding is over, the two rarely need to stay at home because they still have their own jobs in other places. Although the two have never thought about working in other places all year round, they still hope to work outside the places now, plan while working, and wait until they save some money and have a suitable job in their hometown before going home to live, so the house in their hometown is vacant.

Xu Qiang considered renting, but he was still reluctant to let it go. After all, the house had just been renovated and he had not lived well for several years, so he was not very happy to rent it out and left it empty. However, Zhou Lili's parents made a suggestion at that time:

"Your brother-in-law's child is in the city. Why don't you rent the house to them? They will give you money according to the market price, which is more convenient."

Xu Qiang was actually a little hesitant about the mother-in-law's suggestion, but under Zhou Lili's persuasion, he accepted it. Except for the master bedroom that would be locked, the other rooms were left for the family of brother-in-law , and brother-in-law would also give you a rental fee of 2,000 yuan on time every month, which still made Xu Qiang feel much more balanced.

originally thought that this matter was a good thing, which could help Xu Qiang get along better with Zhou Lili's family, but due to the events of the next three years, a lot of dissatisfaction gradually grew in Xu Qiang's heart.

Since the first year, every time I go home with Zhou Lili, I have to go back to my wedding house to live, but because my mother-in-law lives in the house and my brother-in-law's family, it always seems very inconvenient. Almost every time I enter the house, I give Xu Qiang a sense of strangeness, as if I am a guest, let alone that my house has been cleaned up by my brother-in-law's family and has become another way. There are also various paintings of my brother-in-law's children on the wall. I have wanted Zhou Lili to explain these things many times. Love, but Zhou Lili said:

"Anyway, we won't stay. When we come back, just ask them to paint it again. It's not a big deal."

Zhou Lili's calmness made Xu Qiang accept it. In order to maintain the relationship with her mother's family and to prevent herself from acting so stingy in front of Zhou Lili's family, she had to accept it. However, until three years after marriage, when they planned to go home, they were rejected, which made Xu Qiang completely dissatisfied.

It turned out that two people were busy with work and had never thought about having children. In addition, their daily routines and routines outside were also irregular. The two people also wanted to wait until their life was a little more regular before choosing to have children. So they insisted on going abroad for three years and planned to go back to their hometown to develop, find a job in their hometown, live a good life, and have children, but problems arise in communication with their mother-in-law.

Xu Qiang's mother-in-law said:

"Don't you stick to it for a few years and come back. In the past few years, you have to pay more attention to your health outside and pay more attention to your daily routine. The child still needs to be. If you are really pregnant, hurry up and come back. If you are not pregnant yet, you can stick to it outside."

Xu Qiang is puzzled:

"It is also because of the matter of having a child that you want to come back to live quickly, so that you can also raise your body, and find a job here to stabilize."

But the mother-in-law still faces The feeling of difficulty:

"You delayed a few years and came back again! We will use the house for another two years! That's it. Your brother-in-law's boss is now in junior high school. You also knew that he had found a lot of relationships in the past two years, and the child was also successful. He took the exam for my brother's good junior high school. This is the second year of junior high school, and he will take the exam for high school in another year. His family also wanted him to study hard at home. Some people at home take care of him. In the future, he will take a good high school and a good university."

Xu Qiang said:

"Just let the children live in the school, or they rent a house, otherwise we will have no place to live when we come back, and we will be thirty years old. We have to think about having children."

Mother-in-law thought about it and said:

"If you come back, let's live in one piece. The house is big enough. We don't usually use your room. You can just move in."

Xu Qiang said:

"There were not enough rooms to use so many people, how can you live there?"

Mother-in-law continued:

"Your brother-in-law will live in their unit by himself. Their unit has a dormitory. My eldest daughter-in-law and my younger grandson live in the guest bedroom, and my eldest grandson live in the study. You live in the master bedroom. You can live in this way. It will be enough for another year or two. Besides, the whole family is together. It's still lively. If Xiaoli is pregnant, her family will help a lot in the future. "

" This made Xu Qiang feel helpless, but he still refused firmly, saying:

"No, it's really inconvenient. You ask them to rent a house, after all, they are two families."

mother-in-law said:

"Otherwise, I'll pay you money, you can rent a house, you don't have children yet, and renting a one-bedroom and one-living room is cheap. After having a child, the eldest grandson will almost end the exam, and they will move home by moving back then."

Everyone says it is easy to ask for a god but it is difficult to send him away. Xu Qiang's mood is most appropriate in this sentence. He looked at Zhou Lili, but Zhou Lili said:

"Or what if I just listen to it? I'm not pregnant yet, but after I get pregnant, time will be almost done. "

Xu Qiang sighed, but said firmly:

" One hundred thousand a year, if you don't give it, leave. This is my house. The house is my name, and the money for buying a house is also from my family. The decoration is still from our family. Now that we have lived in it for three years, you still have to continue living. I can't even live in my own home? Why should I compromise with you and understand you? Every time I go home, you understand me. This is my family. Are you thinking too much? My brother-in-law and I are two families after all, and we don’t have such deep feelings. "

Mother-in-law was anxious and angry:

" One hundred thousand yuan a year, are we a family? You have been married to my Lili for three years. Are we a family? Are we a family? Are we a family? Are we given the monthly rent money on time? Are you so much trouble with me now? "

Xu Qiang said:

"I don't think it's much, 100,000 yuan a year. I want to rent a person with about three bedrooms and one living room, and I have to decorate it like my family. It's almost done. I just want to say, we are a family, but this house belongs to mine, and it's my marriage house. You have been living in it for three years. Now I just say I'm going back. I hope you can move out, instead of listening to you explaining the big reason to me, let me live outside, and you can't go back if you have a home? I can't accept it, just like that. I hope they will rent a house to live in the same life, rather than letting me, the owner, have no place to live. "

Xu Qiang's determination made his mother-in-law very dissatisfied and said angrily:

"If I had known that you were so unreasonable, I would not let Lili marry you. Just like that, we will move out immediately and live by yourself! "

Xu Qiang became even more angry when he heard this:

"Before leaving, I brushed the wall. If you think Lili was at a disadvantage with me, please ask Lili if she would like to divorce, and while she has no children yet! "

Zhou Lili was very difficult to do, and kept beating Xu Qiang, hoping not to continue quarreling. After all, the relationship between them was still very good. They just sent off their mother-in-law and brother-in-law's family, and there were still some conflicts during this period, that was the quarrel between brother-in-law and Xu Qiang, but Xu Qiang firmly believed that he was not wrong, but the relationship with his mother-in-law and brother-in-law's family was very stiff, and he had almost no contact afterwards. Zhou Lili was alone when he went home during the holidays, which made Zhou Lili feel very difficult. He said good things from both ends, but did not completely resolve the gap.