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people reach middle age, friends are not about quantity, but quality.
Happiness in middle age is to have three or five confidants, lovers are by your side, and your parents are healthy.
After all, I have old age and young age. My time and energy are limited, and I don’t have so much energy to manage the thankless relationship.
Some relationships should be broken, and some people should be broken. It is a must to streamline their own circle.
When people reach middle age, they have experienced many things. The impetuous heart has become silent and quiet. They no longer like to join in the fun, but are more inclined to enjoy the quiet time and feel time and life.
When people reach middle age, they need to learn to subtract life. There are three types of people, which are obstacles on the road of life. You must learn to stay away from it.
01
friends with two sides
When I was young, I also liked to make friends and I wished that the more friends the better.
But when you reach middle age, you will find that no matter how many friends there are, they are all decorations. At critical moments, no one can help you.
Friends don’t care much, they are sincere and the quality.
especially those who have two sides and three sides, one set in front of each other, must stay away from each other.
Because such a person is the kind of person who will cheat you behind your back and harm you behind your back. Even if you are harmonious with you, you will still harm you where you can't see it.
especially when you are in trouble, it is most likely to get hurt. I wish I could kick you into the abyss, so that you can never turn over.
Friends are not something that can be made by everyone, but they also depend on their character.
Make friends, you must make friends who are responsible, loyal, and can be at the same time.
Meet a friend who is two-faced and three-faced. Don’t think that as long as you are sincere enough, you can get his sincerity. Your sincerity will only be trampled ruthlessly, so stay away as soon as possible.
02
Actively and ambiguous opposite sex
people are middle-aged, with parents, children, a stable family, and a wife.
At this time, all the opposite sex outside have nothing to do with themselves. There should be no more contacts except for work exchanges.
The more middle-aged you are and your marriage life is in a dull state, the more you must learn to restrain yourself and not betray your marriage and family.
especially, the kind of active and ambiguous opposite sex may destroy their family. You must be able to sit still and withstand any temptation.
Remember, there is no pie falling from the sky, and the same applies to emotions. What you think is a pie is actually a trap. If you step in accidentally, you will only fall down and lose your family.
When facing ambiguous opposite sex, not only do not respond, but also take the initiative to stay away and do not give any opposite sex an opportunity to take advantage of.
As a person with a family, you must always be self-disciplined, grasp the right degree and distance between you and the opposite sex. Only by mastering the degree between
and the opposite sex can we maintain the bottom line, so that we can maintain the family and happiness at this time, and be worthy of our family and children while having a lifelong harbor.
03
shameful relatives
relatives, they are originally a family affection that is thicker than water, and they are close friends.
However, not all relatives deserve respect and contact.
There are some relatives like that. I can’t stand you and wish you bad things.
Seeing that you are living a good life, he can't stand it or accept it. He feels resentment and hatred because of jealousy.
Even if you are kind to him, he still can't stand you well, hoping that you will fall, and even take the initiative to trip you up.
The most speechless thing is that he will say sarcastic words everywhere, insult you, and deliberately tarnish your words to damage your reputation and make you point fingers by others.
distorts the facts and makes things out of nothing, which is a typical feature of such relatives.
intentionally borrowed money, but borrowed money but did not repay it, which is a typical manifestation of such relatives.
In the process of dating, they all reveal jealousy and dissatisfaction, sarcastic and meanness, just as if you owe him.
When you meet a relative who can’t stand your face, it’s useless to explain to him, it’s useless to make up for him, and it’s useless to treat him, even if it’s useless to treat him, he will feel dissatisfied and hated for you because he is jealous of you.
There is only one best way for relatives who can’t stand you, that is, stay away from being out of sight, and be free from being cheated and framed.
04
ending
people are middle-aged and can no longer have a kind heart and keep good people and bad people by their side.
People who are worth dating should keep in touch; people who are not worth dating must make choices and break if they should be cut off.
No relationship, no one can become a stumbling block in your life. If you should move away, move away, and kick away.
Whether you are friends who are two-faced, or those who are proactive and ambiguous, or relatives who are disliked, remember to stay away, avoid contact, or even stop contacting each other.
The road of the rest of your life must move forward with the worthy people.
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Author: Chu Lanqi, a writer who keeps writing.
May you find warmth and belonging in my text, thank you for your attention.
