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Retirement is a new stage in life. Without the pressure of work, I have a lot of free time. Many people will arrange their retirement life to be full of, go out for a trip, reunite with their families, and find three or five friends to have a drink, which is so leisurely.
But some people will also find that since they retire, there have been many fewer people in their life circle. The friends who had been around me seemed to have disappeared.
people go to tea and cold. This is a normal social phenomenon, but if you don’t have a friend around you after retirement, it often only explains two problems.
1: The social aspect is too narrow
Work and life should be two parts of our life. Work is to live a better life. Only when you live well can you devote yourself to work in a fuller state.
Colleagues at work and friends in life should be two different groups of people. Even if colleagues contact you less and less after retirement, friends in life should not be alienated from you because of your retirement.
If you find that you have no friends in your life after retirement, it means that your social situation is too narrow. Your friends are met through work contact. The establishment of your relationship does not stem from personal attraction, but business contacts.
So once you retire, the foundation of your relationship will be gone, and the two of you will naturally stop interacting.
There are not a few situations like this in modern society. They have long working hours, no time to socialize, their living environment is closed, and no chance to know their neighbors. Many of us have been firmly tied up by work throughout our lives.
Although it makes people feel lonely without friends, this is not a big problem.
As you increase your leisure time after retirement, you can definitely meet some new friends.
Without the constraints of work, the pressure of performance, and the difference in status, it is easier for you to make some like-minded friends.
As long as you are willing to open your heart to welcome new friends, it is never too late. There is no age limit for making friends, and every age has its own excitement. As long as you are not stingy with your kindness, you will definitely find new friendships even after retirement.
2: When making friends, you don’t know what you are doing
Real friends will not change your relationship with you because of changes in your social status. Those who estrange you after you retire are not your friends at all.
Human nature is cold and weak. How enthusiastic you are when you use you, how cold you will be when you don’t use you.
After retirement, many people can feel the difference between the warmth and coldness of the people around them.
is not in his position and does not do anything, you are no longer the focus of the workplace, and you can no longer provide some convenience and help to those so-called "friends".
When they find that you are no longer valuable, they will become cold to you.
The "friends" you think are actually just parasites that value interests. The purpose of their interactions with you is just to gain benefits. But you foolishly treat these people as friends and treat them sincerely.
When they become cold to you because of changes in your status, you will naturally feel sad.
In fact, the alienation of these people is not a bad thing.
When they first met and dated, they were not sincere to you. The longer such friends were together, the greater the loss you suffered. Retirement is like a touchstone, which can help you see clearly the people around you and who are true friends.
If you are surrounded by these people who come for the sake of interests, you should reflect on why you did not keep your true friends.
What friends who are good at gaining benefits are best at winning people's hearts. They may obey your will or even be flattered to you, which can make you happy and obey your posts and be willing to help them.
If you are the kind of person who has soft ears and is easily moved by a few good words, then there will be many such friends around you. When you discover this problem, you need to change your social principles.
Those who are willing to say good things to you are often not real friends. They often ask for you and are willing to be open and honest with you or even confront you. This is the friend you should cherish.
at the end:
Life after retirement can be rich and colorful, and friends are not a necessary condition for a happy life.
There will be new friends at every stage of your life. I hope that even if you have no friends after retirement, you can quickly find new ways to make yourself happy and spend a stable and happy retirement life.
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