In recent years, there has been a new term called: internal consumption. Low internal consumption may be a warning to our lives and requires us to change our lifestyle, while long-term internal consumption exceeding the standard seriously interferes with our lives.
PhD in psychology, Hailan believes that emotions determine destiny, and mastering emotions means grasping happiness.
Internal friction caused by anxiety, depression, sadness, anger and other negative emotions make us unwilling to work and study. When I am in a depressed mood, I just want to sleep in bed and do nothing. When I am serious, I feel depressed.
The types of various procrastination and difficult-to-recover diseases caused by bad emotions are also increasing rapidly, which shows how important it is to have a good mood.
"Oh, today's internal friction exceeds the standard", Liang Shuang, the author of "Oh, today's internal friction exceeds the standard" tells us:
When you encounter unhappiness, you bravely seek the answer and then take action, and your life can have subsequent glorious chapters.
Indeed, there are reasons behind any emotion. Finding the underlying reason and finding the method will also find the key to solve internal friction.
As the saying goes: Whoever suffers will change. And whoever does it will be great. How to change
? There are many methods provided in the book.
01 Change of thinking
What makes us think about things is thinking, not the things themselves. The same thing is nothing to some people, but to another group of people it seems that the sky has fallen.
In life, we are all willing to approach smiling people, and feel that life is particularly favorable to them, just as if they have no worries. In fact, these are just different views on things, and God does not favor them, but they have different attitudes towards life.
This is a special intra-copy era, with parents and children. We are inevitably anxious because our children’s grades are not ideal, and we think that our children’s poor life in the future, and that our work performance is poor, and that we will think that we are helpless in our old age, but these are just imaginations.
Psychology believes that most of the things you worry about will not happen.
Take children's studies as an example. We will be anxious because of our children's grades. What should we do if we can't get into high school? What should we do if we can't get into college?
If you change your mindset: if you can’t get into college, just learn a skill and stay at home to accompany your parents. This is also a kind of happiness.
next door neighbor envies my parents because they are both in the same city and can take care of each other. I go home every day, and although their children are very outstanding, they work in first-tier cities and can't meet several times a year.
My mother often says: Then my child is unpromising.
But the neighbor said: What do you do if you say that? We envy our son and grandson.
In this way, gains and losses are relative, so there is no need to compare, and there is no need to internally consume.
02 Do more self-disciplined things
Colleagues in the unit are too green tea, children are disobedient, and husbands don’t care about their housekeepers, which often makes me angry. And if we get angry for one minute, we lose 60 seconds of happiness.
Life needs to look inward, rather than looking for external causes. These may be facts, but these facts are also difficult to change. All we can change is ourselves. In the book
, the author gave an example. There was a writer's original family that was not ideal. His parents were addicted to playing cards. When changing his parents was fruitless, she chose to be self-disciplined, read, write, get up early, and start a business. Gradually, she became a well-known writer.
The city collects information about cultural celebrities and calls her home. The parents are so excited that they speak incoherently, and even more say that the child is so promising that we cannot embarrass her.
Writer said: When we spend a lot of time and energy on our self-growth and strength, I found that although people cannot be changed, they can be affected. When you are strong enough, there is aura and energy around you, which will make the people around you want to change.
insist on getting up early, stick to exercise, stick to reading, start with self-discipline, work self-discipline, and life self-discipline.Although people cannot be changed, they can be affected. When we are unable to change our surroundings and when our expectations fail, we might as well try to start by changing ourselves.
03 Rejecting fake work
The author believes that "staying up" is more terrifying than staying up late. I go to work just to make a living. Such a job undoubtedly consumes energy and numbs my heart. I have also experienced this. I walked into the company with heavy steps every day, which is both tired and boring.
"Pseudo-work" in the workplace can be seen everywhere, floating on the surface and becoming a form, and also wasting your own time and life, which will affect your mood.
Massachusetts Institute of Technology academic master Cote Young said: If you can invest four or five hours a day to complete important tasks, then you will defeat 95% of the world.
Only when you truly love the job in your hands, do your work with care and quality, will you improve yourself, not only will you be more selfless and devoted, but you will also get more satisfaction.
After eliminating internal friction, not only will the resentment be reduced, the concentration is improved, and the work ability can naturally be improved. When we become an irreplaceable part of the company, the endurance of life will also become a enjoyment.
And the few passions in life do not need to be put on people or things that are not worth it. Don’t fight against trends and human nature, but put energy on yourself, fight against internal friction and procrastination, change will begin and beauty will happen.
written at the end
A person’s good emotions are the greatest blessing for himself.
And every day that exceeds the standard of internal consumption is a life failure. We only have one life. Although the world is not worth it, you are worth it.
Lu Yao said: There are many things worth loving in a life, so don’t be discouraged because of one aspect.
You might as well go hiking to see the world, read a prosperous life, and make money to improve your living standards. As more and more positive things happen in life, internal consumption will definitely decrease.
