In "Zengguang Xianwen", there is a passage:
"Don't enter the crowd without money, don't persuade people with small words, and after you succeed, talk about your original intention."
The meaning of this passage is:
When you have no money and are poor, don't socialize with others and don't integrate into too many circles; at this time, you are a little bit light, and no one will care about what you say.
And when you succeed, have money and fame, look back on your original intention again. Those things you said at the beginning will be regarded as the truth by everyone.
The reason why some people's words become "famous quotes" is not because they make sense, but because they are qualified to say such words when they stand in that successful position.
successful people are always easily convinced by others.
In social relationships, if you speak without weight, no matter what you say, others will look down on you.
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People who look down on you always ignore you
I have heard a story.
The man took his children to the town to do business. He saw a group of people chatting, went up and took out a pack of cigarettes to disperse one by one, and lighted cigarettes for each man.
There was a lady in it, and he automatically skipped the lady.
Finally, when the man asked someone to do something, the person in charge was this lady.
The result can be imagined. Women are resentful of men's ignorance of their behavior. Although they have accomplished things, they are making things difficult for men. The short story of
is actually telling us:
When a person looks down on you, he will often automatically ignore you and ignore you at all.
Because he subconsciously thought: "Just like him, it is impossible to provide me with any help, and I don't need to pay attention to him."
was preconceived and self-righteous.
If there is such a person in your circle:
He is used to ignoring you, ignoring you, and often being indifferent to your kindness.
You show respect to him, but he does not give you the same respect;
You take the initiative to send him a message, but he often ignores you and does not reply to you.
At this time, you should understand its subtext.
The best way to meet such a person is: be colder than him.
Be kind to others is cultivation, and this sentence is true; but our cultivation and kindness should be left to those who deserve respect.
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People who look down on you always regard you as a "taught object"
For example:
A group of you go out for dinner. During the
, everyone drank and chatted, talking and laughing, and it was a very harmonious atmosphere.
However, if someone doesn't deal with you, he always targets you inside and out, and it is obvious that he is looking for trouble.
In front of everyone, he teases you, laughs at you, exposes your shortcomings in public, and takes out some old things about you for everyone to joke about. People like
are not only cautious, but also have poor character.
Their faces are undoubtedly revealed, and they will treat you like this in public. You can imagine how much he will do behind his back that hurts you and slanders you.
A person always takes care of other people's embarrassing things, never let go of weaknesses, and always makes jokes; essentially, it means that this person's character is unreliable.
When he faces you, he has a sense of "superiority" in his bones. People like
are typical of "bullying the lower class and pretending to be superiors".
He thinks you are not as good as him, so he bullies you;
People around him are better than him, and he acts humbly and pleases these people.
Do you still remember the comparison between A Shu and the people around you in the movie "Mr. Tree"?
For those people, A Shu is just a way for them to "make jokes and relieve loneliness".
on the surface respects A Shu, but in fact they just want to use A Shu to get some pleasure and topic of conversation.
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People who look down on you always belittle and hit you
Have you ever heard such words?
If a girl has a successful career, her life will be smooth and her connections will be rich.
There will definitely be no bad kind-hearted people slandering her behind their backs:
"So young, there are so many resources. Do you believe it is her own ability? I think she depends on her godfather or her boyfriend."
This is typical jealousy, which turns into "looking down".
Jealousy makes people ugly.
When you succeed, someone around you slandered you and mocked your success;
When you get certain results, those people still won’t let you go.
They rarely praise you and think that everything you have is nothing but "coincidental".
In fact, the more they look down on you, the more they are very jealous of you.
People who are jealous of you are jumping into the "sour grape psychology".
cannot eat grapes, so the grapes are said to be sour.
Do you think this is the reason?
You will find that people who look down on you from beginning to end are all this small group.
When you are frustrated, he stands in front of you and is arrogant and domineering;
When you succeed, he points and points behind you, mocking and defaming.
What is the best way to deal with those who look down on you?
of course chooses to "ignor".
Will you give up the table of delicious food in front of you because of a fly?
Writer Yishu wrote this passage in " Flower Interpretation ":
"People really have to be successful. When you achieve results, the whole world will be harmonious."
The better you live, the more you have, the happier your life, the more others will be.
Those who look down on you will always be able to "look up at you".
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