There is a couplet in "A Little Window Record":
"Don't be surprised by favors and disgraces, watch the flowers bloom and fall in front of the courtyard; stay or leave without any intention, watch the sky roll and unfold."
If the heart is small, small things will become big; if the heart is big, big things will become small; if the heart is big, big things will become small; if you look down on the vicissitudes of the world, you will feel safe and sound.
01 Open heart to relieve depression
If a person wants to live smoothly, he must first be smooth and be depressed. Whether a person can relieve his unhappiness has a lot to do with his open mind or narrow mind. Look at the wealthy families in " Dream of Red Mansions ", who have a superior life, and in the end they are very angry. If you open your mind a little wider, you will no longer care about small things, you will naturally have less resentment and more happiness.
The man made a lot of money, bought a small three-story villa, and started a new life happily. But trouble immediately emerged: the heat of summer made him unbearable, and he invited experts to solve this problem.
After the first person looked at it, it was recommended to install an air conditioner, but because the house is large and there are many rooms, there must be many air conditioners that need to be installed. The electricity bill is too high to use, which is not cost-effective.
The second person suggested that all windows be pasted with insulation paper. The cooling effect of the man after the implementation is not obvious.
A third person surveyed and told him: "Leave it to me for a day, and it will be a solution to your troubles, and the cost is not high." The man half-believed and half-doubted and agreed. A day later, the man opened the door and thought it would be as hot as usual, but the room was much cooler. When he calmed down, he could still feel the gentle breeze blowing on his face.
The man asked the third person curiously: "What did you do? How could there be such a big change?"
The third person said: "It's very simple. I just installed a window at the highest and lowest points of the house.
The man was very surprised: "It's so simple?" "
" Yes, it's that simple! "The best way to relieve heat is to let them find an outlet," said the expert. "
The heart is like a room. Sometimes the heart is like a closed room, filled with various qi, the idleness, depression, competitive spirit, sadness, pain spirit, pain spirit that cannot realize wishes, etc. These qi are squeezed together, and in the atrium without "windows", they collide back and forth, and cannot find the outlet, which makes people feel irritable. Even if "air conditioner" is installed, even if "heat insulation paper" is pasted, it will treat the symptoms but not the root cause, because these negative emotions are still hidden in the "room" and will not dissipate for a long time. In fact, if you want to expel negative emotions, there is the easiest and most effective method: just open a "window" in the atrium.
02 The heart of benevolence can resolve hostility
The heart of benevolence can resolve hostility, resentment and anger, eliminate barriers, overcome evil, and win people's hearts. In life and work, no one will avoid encountering difficulties and setbacks. "Since for hearts" will make people live more relaxed and happier, and make the world warmer. Toughness and force cannot conquer others, and power and violence cannot conquer people's hearts. Only kindness can make people's hearts warm as spring.
" South Wind Rule " tells this truth: the north wind is more powerful than the south wind, and see who can take off the coats on pedestrians. The north wind is biting, but the pedestrians wrap their coats tighter and tighter to resist the cold; the south wind blows slowly, and the sky is sunny, and the pedestrians feel hot and take off their coats. The south wind is Win.
is like the north wind. Although the momentum is very strong, it will not only not make others admire it, but it will make people feel cold and bone-bone. Naturally, it will have no friends around it; and kindness is like the south wind, which often gives people warmth, and makes people happy while making people happy.
As long neighbors, if they are sarcastic and sarcastic, the walls of estrangement will be built higher and higher, making people feel cold and bone-bone;
Side-bone, if they stand by and watch and stay out of the matter, naturally there will be no relatives around them;
A couple, if they look roaring, they will fight for who is right and who is wrong, and the two people who are deeply in love will be separated.
Only by being able to understand people with kindness and tolerate people without harsh criticizing others will you not get angry or take your anger on others; tolerating the other party’s shortcomings and negligence and appreciating the other party’s strengths and strengths can you gain a harmonious relationship and be more conducive to the career development of both parties.
03 The heart of humility turns into crazy
As a person, you must have a humble and low-key heart. On the surface, many wise and foolish people seem to be at a disadvantage. In fact, they always keep their original aspirations. When they succeed, they are neither arrogant nor arrogant, nor arrogant, nor harsh, nor harsh, and treat others equally.
Being humble and polite and respect others can help us open our hearts, resolve conflicts, understand each other, and make good relationships when interacting with others. It is also our magic weapon for us to maintain our own lives; those who are humble and polite and respect others can also win the favor of others with the qualities and demeanor of others.
has an idiom called "humble and silence", which means that a person's mind should be as broad as a valley. This is a very vivid way to describe modesty.
People with broad mind and humility can tolerate things; while narrow-minded and complacent mind cannot tolerate anything, and in the end they can only end up standing up and holding each other with a silence.
When in the Three Kingdoms, Niheng is very talented, but he is arrogant and always looks down on others.
Someone said to Ni Heng: "Why don't you go to Xudu , and make friends with the same names as Chen Changwen and Sima Boda?"
Ni Heng said: "How can I get together with the guys who sell meat and drink wine?"
Someone asked him again: "How are General Xun Wenruo and Yue Chichang?"
Ni Heng said: "Xun Wenruo looks good, it's okay to let him mourn others; the older he grows, his belly is big, and he can eat, so he can go to the kitchen."
so arrogant and speaks wildly. Later, Ni Heng was eventually killed for insulting Cao Cao and his officials repeatedly.
The Tangshan beating incident that had been spread for more than three months, four unarmed women were beaten in public. The murderer fisted and kicked, and was inhumane. After committing the crime, he turned his head and became arrogant and domineering. In the end, these madmen were punished by law.
If a person indulges in his arrogance and vents his bad emotions at will, without any mind and without any energy, he will be as arrogant as a river bank that breaks, and he will become bigger and bigger, and eventually he will be isolated and helpless. If you are too tall and you don’t objectively examine yourself, and you will expand infinitely, you will step on a dangerous cliff and be destined to fail.
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Great his heart and tolerate things in the world; emptiness of his heart and love the goodness of the world; calm his heart and discuss the affairs of the world; calm his heart and respond to changes in the world. People who are truly smart in life should adjust their mentality, be enthusiastic and polite to others, and be kind. When doing things, they are both modest and low-key, not ostentatious or arrogant, making themselves very popular with others.
