If you like it, please click "Follow" in the upper right corner
does not want to be favored by the whole world, but only wants me to be your exception and preference in this life. No matter how many people like me, they are not as good as I like it. It just happens that you are...
0 1
My name is Fang Hui , 47 years old this year, Xinjiang native .
had a failed marriage.
The first half of my life was very sad.
But luckily, when I was 32 years old, I met someone who deserved to be with me for the rest of my life.
I want to tell my story.
want more people to have hope for life.
Life is long, maybe at a certain corner, and you will meet the opportunity to change your life...
My hometown is in a small county town in Xinjiang, and I have 3 brothers and sisters at home.
My parents are dual employees, and the family conditions are pretty good.
I am an introverted girl but a little stubborn in my heart.
till now I don’t know whether this personality is a good or a bad thing for me.
I graduated from junior high school and had the idea of dropping out of school.
and very strong.
At that time, many children of the same age in the factory chose to go to the factory to work as workers.
In our factory, it is no problem to say hello to the personnel department and ask for indicators.
My parents naturally disagree with my thoughts.
They tried every means to persuade them and even took action.
But I was so stubborn that I couldn't listen at all.
Later, I simply hid at my classmate's house.
0 2
My father looked for me twice, and seeing that I really didn't want to go to school, he gave up and persuaded me.
My mother said that she chose the road herself, just don’t cry and blame them in the future.
For the first time I felt my parents’ disappointment.
is really ashamed. Now that I think about it, I still regret it.
If I had listened to them at the beginning, choose to read.
Maybe my life will be a different scene.
can regret it any more, and you will never go back to the past.
was the winter of the year when I graduated from junior high school.
My parents were transferred to work and went to Urumqi.
High family moved there too.
came to a new place, and I also started my new life.
I went to a cosmetics store to do sales.
's mouth is broken and his feet are worn out, so he earns more than 400 yuan.
In those years, I lived a daze and changed a lot of jobs.
but not long.
0 3
My dad said that I did "unreasonable" work.
said I am a girl in every family, running around.
Except for a few hums, I had no confidence to argue with them.
till I was 22 years old, that is, in 1996.
I met my ex-husband Lin Hao through the introduction of my colleague.
The sweetness of love really blows my mind.
At that time, Lin Hao was good at everything, and he was just thinking about marrying him.
A familiar scene appeared before my eyes again...
Historical parents disagreed again.
I am still stubborn and say I have to marry anything.
They knew my temper so they had to reluctantly agree in the end.
Because of marriage, my relationship with my parents was very stiff.
But love fascinated my eyes.
I don’t care, I don’t have a house, no money, no bride price, and no blessing from my parents.
I married Lin Hao only with aspiration for marriage.
My mother cried and she burst into tears, and my dad called me a debt collector.
nothing stopped me.
But the reality of marriage punished me heavily.
0 4
The life after marriage gradually faded away the light of love.
Some things that were once concealed and hidden gradually surfaced.
From the initial trivial and quarrels.
to the later unbearable, and fought hard.
My enthusiasm gradually lost its temperature in the accompaniment of pots and pans.
The expectation for marriage is also slowly disappearing as the years pass.
2005, this marriage finally came to an end.
Like when you get married, divorce is also so decisive.
Fortunately, after the divorce, I finally got relieved.
"Hurried" marriage was left to me.
is a young son, and a lot of debts.
0 5
After the divorce, I was shameless and left my daughter to my mother.
I went to Guangzhou alone and wanted to go there to join a friend.
Marriage is gone, but life still has to continue.
But I tried my best to escape that familiar city.
thinks that if you change the city, you can change your mood.
With this mentality, I left Urumqi.
After going to Guangzhou, I talked about my experience to my friends.
She comforted me and took me out for a relaxing and having a meal.
I originally wanted to relax, so I started looking for a job.
But sometimes, life is so wonderful, especially fate.
really no one can predict it, no one can calculate it.
I never dreamed that when I was most lost, I would meet my "true fate".
My friend took me to a dinner party.
That is, at that dinner, I met Bai Jianyu .
0 6
Coincidentally, we are all friends who bring "relaxation".
His friends and my friends know each other, so everyone gathers at the same dinner table.
He is one year older than me, his ancestral home is from Fujian, he was born in Hong Kong, and he also studied at the university.
After graduation, he entered a Hong Kong company and became an executive.
Two years later, he came from Hong Kong to Guangzhou due to work transfer.
When we first met, we did not leave any contact information.
What is my own situation? I have a account in my heart.
He speaks extraordinary, is humorous and witty, and is very careful and steady.
To be honest, he is my ideal man.
But I can only appreciate it from afar.
I am not a person without self-knowledge, and I am not a little bit different from him.
That party made me unable to forget it for a long time...
I couldn't help but feel a little regretful and melancholy in my heart.
I comfort myself, thinking that he is a passerby in my life. What I never expected was that
.
He actually took the initiative to ask his friend for my mobile phone number.
so we had a second meeting...
0 7
instead of too much embarrassment, but it seems familiar.
He just looked at me like that, and my face turned red.
A warm current passes through the heart, a feeling I have never felt before.
subconsciously avoided his eyes and said many sorry.
We suddenly laughed.
At that moment, we were no longer reserved.
We chatted a lot and felt that there was endless things to say.
He took the initiative to add my WeChat, and I agreed without thinking.
I am too implicit, it's really a second point.
After that, we started chatting.
At the beginning, we were just chatting in the name of friends. After chatting for almost a month, I found that he and I actually had so many similar hobbies.
In his words, it means that there are similar interests.
On my birthday, he gave me a necklace and he said that he brought it from Hong Kong.
and there is also a card. The text on the
card was full of love, telling the touch of his heart when he saw me for the first time.
I told my friend about this, and my friend looked surprised.
smiled and said, "Yes, Huihui, he is a hot item."
0 8
I am a little "joy" and a little nervous.
What pleased me was that Bai Jianyu confessed to me.
My first thought at that time was that I couldn't believe it.
I said, "Serious?"
He said, "Serious!"
I said, "I have divorced and have a son."
He said, "I can accept it."
I continued, "I still owe a lot of foreign debt."
He said, "I can pay it back for you within my tolerance."
I looked at him with tears.
To be honest, at that moment, I was deeply moved by him.
But I am not the willful woman I used to be.
While I was happy, I was more nervous.
I can't imagine that such an excellent man would fall in love with me.
will accept my child so happily? Are you willing to pay the bill for me?
I didn't agree to him immediately.
He also understood and said he would give me time to consider.
0 9
When I tell my friend what he is willing to pay back the money for me.
She immediately changed her face.
said things were not good, and there would be no such fool in the world.
I know what my friend thinks.
After all, she knew my situation and she didn't want me to be "deceived".
Although he is a friend of his friend, his resume and his conversation do not look fake.
In order to make yourself come to Taiwan, friends will no longer guess.
I said half-jokingly, maybe just talking casually, who would take it seriously!
My friend looked at me and kept comforting me, saying that I would definitely meet that true emperor.
That's it, we were silent for a while between each other.
Although I think of him all the time, I didn't contact you...
1 0
Just when I wanted to bury this past in my heart.
He suddenly called and asked me to meet.
This time, I agreed.
I know that I can't resist love after all.
After becoming a lover, I live in sweetness every day.
After getting along for a long time, I found that he is a positive and kind person.
Sometimes, I will ask myself back.
What kind of virtue I am? I have met such an excellent man.
I often sigh that I don’t have much education and cannot be worthy of him.
But he said that a person’s cultivation is not only something that can be learned by going to college, but some of the connotations are innate and engraved into his bones.
He told me that we should look at things and people in a comprehensive way, and we must not be obsessed with his side.
not only has a positive view, but also has a romantic view.
Since I dated him, he will take it seriously whether it is birthdays or festivals.
He said that you must have a sense of ritual so that people will have expectations and be happy.
He did not make any mistakes, and he still asked for the debt for me.
This kind of goodness makes me feel like I am in a dream.
I often look at him, tears leaching from the corners of my eyes.
That is touching, that is gratitude.
I can't believe that I, a second-married girl, would have such a good man.
During the National Day holiday in 2006, he took me to Hong Kong to meet his family.
I was nervous and sweating all over my body. I was afraid of being denied, I was afraid of losing him...
1 1
But what I worry about most is that it happened.
His parents and sister disagree with our relationship.
However, what made me feel at ease was that he showed his attitude to his parents.
He said that he recognized me in this life.
Looking at him with a firm attitude, his family finally agreed.
We stayed in Hong Kong for ten days and then hurried back to Guangzhou.
That year's Spring Festival, I took him back to Xinjiang.
met my parents and my son.
When I met Bai Jianyu, my dad said I was finally reliable.
My mother learned that Jianyu had never been married and was so outstanding.
is extremely happy. Every day, I make delicious food in different ways, and my mouth is so happy that I can't close it.
jianyu and my son get along well, which shocked me.
After seeing so many children oppose their parents' remarriage, rebellion makes a stumbling block.
But when I arrived at my house, everything was so harmonious and incredible.
1 2
March 2007 , Bai Jianyu proposed to me.
My mood is very complicated and my attitude is unstable.
I didn't understand it either. I was looking forward to it, but I didn't dare to accept it.
is not not not not not love, but fear, I am afraid of changes after entering marriage.
The first marriage made me realize clearly.
Love and marriage are two different things.
He saw my hesitation and said with a smile.
"I know you lack security, don't worry, I won't let you and your children be wronged."
His face was full of smiles, and I was moved by him.
not because of his promise, but his sincerity.
I want to give myself a chance, no matter how good or bad the ending is, I want to take a gamble.
That's it, we became husband and wife.
On April 1, 2007, he and I received the marriage certificate .
Age is not young, but she sprinkles a handful of dog food in the circle of friends.
1 3
No one believes me, a second-married girl with no education, actually married herself out with a burden.
Everyone thought I was joking, after all, it was April Fool's Day.
I was happy and sad when I saw those messages.
After all, I am not excellent enough and have taken too many detours.
might be because I had a bad luck, so I comforted myself.
Bai Jianyu and I stayed in Xinjiang for half a month before returning to Guangzhou.
The son continues to stay with his parents to study.
For my son, I owe too much.
I just want to stabilize and pick him up next to me.
Fortunately, Jianyu understood what I was thinking, and he said he would not let my son and I be separated for too long.
Bai Jianyu is a romantic person and a very responsible man.
Our marriage is like love, and there are always small surprises.
1 4
In September 2007, he took me to Hong Kong again.
This time, it’s not about playing or visiting relatives.
is to hold a marriage in Hong Kong and perform etiquette according to their customs.
For the wedding and for my family, Bai Jianyu has been busy.
scheduled a hotel, booked a hotel, and almost never slept with a steady sleep.
In October that year, my parents came to Hong Kong.
Bai Jianyu likes the hotel arranged by him very much.
They kept praising him, saying that he was steady and down-to-earth.
The first time my mother said I was lucky.
said she was most worried about me, but she didn't expect that I would have such a good destination after all my hardships.
is different from the last wedding.
This time I received blessings from my parents, and I was so happy.
1 5
In early 2008, Bai Jianyu went to South Korea because of work transfer.
After that, we began a marriage life of separation in another place. Although we were in another place, our relationship was very good.
usually video calls, and whenever he takes a vacation, he will fly back impatiently.
I will fly to see him occasionally.
I became a flying man in the air, Urumqi, Guangzhou, Seoul...
June 2008, on my birthday, Jianyu gave me a big gift.
He bought a well-decorated house for my son and me in Urumqi through an agency.
I'm very confused?
But he said, wherever his parents are, his home is.
Only when I have my own house can I feel at ease and be at ease.
I was so moved. I knew he was afraid that I would have concerns. He knew that I was worried about the unknown "uncontrollable" of the marriage...
In October 2008, I successfully gave birth to a daughter.
From then on, we became a family of four.
Bai Jianyu applied for transfer back to the Hong Kong headquarters.
I also went with him to settle in Hong Kong and took with me two children.
1 6
After I went to Hong Kong, my daily life was to take care of my children.
My son has strong adaptability and quickly integrated into the children's circle.
We mother and son are really together.
Just before I could have time to enjoy the beautiful scenery of Hong Kong.
bai Jianyu has new plans.
Because of some reasons that cannot be "speaked".
We chose to immigrate to Canada.
process is tortuous and really not easy.
Fortunately, Bai Jianyu was approved in the end.
Before going abroad, I went back to Xinjiang.
My parents are very reluctant to leave, especially their grandson whom they raised.
But for the future of the child and for my happiness, they still let go.
My mother asked me to live a good life and said Jianyu was a good person.
makes me not have to worry about them. They are both strong and say that my brother and my sister are there.
I cried like tears. I knew that when I left, it would be not as easy as raising my legs.
1 7
Still left.
with too many longings and thoughts...
I went to language school and quickly integrated into the circle there.
If you get used to it, you won’t be so afraid.
is just a different environment to live.
Bai Jianyu is very family-oriented and rushed back after work.
either tease your daughter to play or teach her homework.
I leaned happily on the porch, looking at the long-awaited picture in front of me...
is very lucky and contented.
At the beginning, I mustered up the courage to divorce and went to Guangzhou alone.
met her current husband Bai Jianyu.
The thing you don’t regret the most is choosing to marry him.
Now, we have been through 15 years and are still as loving as before.
My son has graduated from college and his daughter is in junior high school.
Many friends envy us for having both children.
says that we are young and have such a big pair of children.
Bai Jianyu and I just smiled and didn't explain.
Because, in our hearts, our sons and daughters are all part of this family and will never be able to give up.
is not a biological child, Bai Jianyu is better to my son than to his daughter, and he should care about it.
I saw it in my eyes, and the "pain" in my heart.
I feel sorry for everything this man has done for me.
He always walks ahead of me and considers my feelings.
1 8
In recent years, we can't go back to China.
can only meet parents through video.
They always say everything is OK, let us pay attention to safety.
Seeing the white hair of parents and their hunched back.
I feel that I am so unfilial.
Since childhood, they have not let them worry.
In addition to marrying the right person in the second marriage, it gave them a little comfort.
But the temperature has not yet been warm, we have flew away again, flying farther and farther...
Maybe this is how life is, we have continued love from generation to generation.
No matter where you go, the parents who care about you the most are yours.
All the way is smooth, and a happy marriage is the marriage that parents want to see most...
This is an online story of emotional convexation
really has a good life. I was envious of watching
.
Who says no one wants a second-married woman? Who said that women with second marriage cannot get married with a burden?
is not without happiness. It's just that we didn't meet.
The world is full of wonders.
I have read too many stories and feel that I have integrated them.
stories come from life, and there are countless stories hidden in life.
t telling is a story, and it is hidden in the heart that is called life.
The ups and downs of life.
alerts people to many reasons.
Don’t embarrass the divorce, if you choose the wrong one, don’t cry.
As long as you have an optimistic and positive attitude
Life is sunny everywhere, as long as you dare to pursue it, as long as you dare to face it.
There is always a beam of sunshine that will shine into your heart...
Author: Xiaofeng
(Note: The pictures have nothing to do with the content of the article, they are all from the Internet, original articles, plagiarism is strictly prohibited, violators will be prosecuted)
