I know that many people will stand on the moral high ground and blame me when talking about this today, but I don’t care. Right and wrong are in the hearts of the people.
First discuss a point of view, selflessness and selfishness, how to define it.
What most people think is selfless is that I see a person falling to the ground and I go to help me. I don’t ask for the consequences or ask for help from rewards, which is selfless. Then let me say here that everyone thinks this thing is just and a virtue, and I think so too. But does this virtue belong to individuals or families? personal! When it comes to being helpful, others will only praise you, but for this, the family will bear the risk of being cheated! From this perspective, are you selfless or selfish? For the sake of your spiritual enjoyment, without the consent of your family, you will bring them material risks. Your public morality will be detrimental to your private morality. To apply the popular sayings on the Internet: You are noble, you are amazing, if you treat your family as a favor, will your family not be human?
Another point of view is that good people and bad people are bad people.
extends from the previous point of view. How do you define good people and bad people? If I don’t help me, I will be bad people? You help a stranger and do things for him for free, and this is the good person you characterize. You bring risks to them without permission without the consent of your family. You still do things that are not good for your family even though you know the risks. Are you a good person or a bad person? You are noble, you are amazing, you treat your family as a favor...
Review 16 years ago Peng Yu case , helping the old man up was cheated, the judge: Why do you need to help?
"Ye County, Henan Province, deposits 200,000 yuan for 4 houses under his name. A 70-year-old man stopped a car on the road and claimed that he was too tiring to farm at home, so it would be better to make money like this."
"Zhengzhou, Henan Province, Xiao Wang, a teenager who rode a bicycle, was extorted after helping the old man up, but the old man said that he was able to live up to his conscience and would not pay back the money!"
"Guangdong Wu Weiqing , the old man who kindly helped the fall but was extorted by the old man 200,000 yuan. He had nowhere to complain about his injustice and had to commit suicide."
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these cases are happening one by one. Those good people who helped the old man but were extorted money have trouble saying that they were just kind but received such rewards. No matter who they put it on, it will be extremely chilling. Of course, these events have also made many of us, as bystanders, feel scared.
"If we meet an elderly person who falls on the street in the future, will we dare to help him?"
As the bad atmosphere of the elderly spreads, many people encounter the elderly again, not that they don't want to help him, but that they dare not help him. We cannot say that such people are not caring. After all, as bad people grow older, the moral bottom line of the elderly has repeatedly declined, and it is always true that we have the idea of giving priority to protecting ourselves.
But gradually another very serious problem arose - the elderly who really need help did not help them in critical moments.
"On March 2, 2021, an old man in Panzhihua fell on the steps of a pedestrian passage, his head twitched downwards and could not only get up. There were many people coming and going, but no one dared to help the old man up."
"On December 15, 2010, an old man in his seventies in Shenzhen unfortunately fell down by the bench, but no one dared to help him. He died more than ten minutes later."
"2010 At noon on July 10, an old man in Xinghua City, Jiangsu Province accidentally fell while riding a tricycle off the bridge and lay down on the ground and couldn't get up. Within 15 minutes, many people passed by, and even passers-by stopped to watch, but no one reached out to pull the old man. Until 15 minutes later, the old man was picked up by a 120 ambulance..."
These shocking examples are undoubtedly torture of each of us's hearts, why no one helped them, is it because our society is so indifferent?
is not.
In fact, most people are the most enthusiastic, just like Peng Yu and Xiao Wang, there are not a few teenagers, but the reason why they don’t help is not because they don’t want to, but because they dare not.
We are all ordinary people among the countless people, and many people are unable to repay the huge compensation after the "help", so in many cases they can only choose to turn a blind eye.
In view of this situation, we have to admit that behind the failure to "help", we are also suffering from conscience, but every bit of "selfishness" is subconscious self-protection.
But at the same time, we can't help but have a question like this: "What if our parents fell outside?"
Social atmosphere is gradually changing. What if our elderly parents also fell outside and no one helped them? At this time, who should we blame?
needs to be supported, but how to support it?
The Chinese nation has always been called a country of etiquette, and the most prominent of them is "ritual". The so-called etiquette naturally also includes respect for the elders.
In today's time when material civilization is so prosperous, spiritual civilization is even more important. We cannot turn a blind eye to vulnerable groups in need just because we are afraid of avoiding individual morally degraded people.
We should help the elderly who fall.
Home here, you may have a question: "I can help you, but I help you, what should he do if he cheats me?"
is right. This worry is not unreasonable. After all, fear of being cheated of money is our subconscious self-protection.
So what should we do in the face of this situation? We can find other people present to testify for us, or use our mobile phone to shoot videos. If you can help you with confidence in the monitoring area, you can install a dashcam on the car, or you can quickly turn on the recording function of your mobile phone, etc....
these are ways to prove your innocence, and it is also easy for us to do it.
The next time we meet an old man who fell, I hope we can make quick judgments without psychological struggle.
I think we should help us when we meet an old man who falls!
It is necessary to ensure your innocence through scientific means, but helping the elderly is also a traditional virtue and we should not give up!
people have more warmth to help each other than selfish indifference. We are civilized and qualified modern people in the country of Chinese etiquette, rather than the passerby who is cold-eyed and indifferent and selfish.
of course, at the same time.
"Bad people will be punished, and our society will be better!"
