Any kind of relationship has a transition period from prosperity to decline.
When love is at its hottest time, you and your lover may want to stick together at all times, share the joy of every moment in your life, and let the sweet breath fill your heart; you may talk on phone calls or WeChat videos all night, not only do you not feel that you are wasting time, but instead think that this is a valuable proof of love.
However, when love turns from prosperity to decline and gradually cools down, there may be a situation where your lover no longer contacts you, and even when you need him the most, he is not by your side.
Many people seem to suddenly lose their goals in life when facing this situation, and are heartbroken, confused, and even do things that will regret for life. In fact, when the other party no longer contacts you, don’t rush to do these two things and you will win.
01 Don't rush to ask the bottom of it
When your lover no longer contacts you, you often feel very anxious and can't help but start thinking: Why does he ignore himself anymore? The more random a person thinks, the more likely he is to get into the slightest point, and then the more he wants to figure out the answer.
As the saying goes, "Fall flowers are intentional, flowing water is ruthless."
Any relationship must go with the flow, and it cannot be a one-man show. Two people need to be in harmony and go in both directions. If one of them no longer loves, then the relationship will be disbanded.
Many times, your lover no longer contacts you, and there are often three reasons:
The first reason is that he no longer loves you. He wants to force you to break up or divorce him through cold violence.
. For this reason, if you ask him the bottom of it, he will not give you a definite answer. He wants to push you into a dead end of his relationship and let you choose to let go completely in despair.
The second reason is that he doesn't care about you, he just treats you as a pastime when he is bored, takes the initiative to contact you and play with you; when he is busy with work and life, he is too lazy to contact you.
In this case, if you ask him the bottom of it, it will only aggravate his impatientness. If a person stops contacting you because he is very busy, it means that he does not love you very deeply and can ignore your inner feelings. If you continue to ask questions like this, it is meaningless.
The third reason is that he already has a new person outside, so his attention has been focused on that person and he no longer cares about you.
In short, when your lover no longer contacts you, no matter how you dig the ground, stubbornly, or tangle, it will be futile. It will only waste your own time, consume the other person's patience, and accelerate the push of feelings into the abyss. It is better to spend this time on more meaningful things from the beginning and save emotional costs.
If you are just a lover relationship with the other party, then stop the loss in time and break off the relationship with the other party is the best choice; if you are already a husband-wife relationship with the other party, in this case, you can carefully consider the property issues of the couple and decide what you should do.
02 Don’t rush to complain in pain
Many people will start to complain constantly when they encounter their lovers who do not contact them. Some people complained about themselves over and over again, thinking that they must have done something wrong, which caused the other party to stop loving themselves. They even think about many details, such as their previous lifestyle habits, their chat tone with each other and every word they said.
Excessive self-reflection and self-blame complaints will lead to you being more cautious and humble when you develop your next relationship, which may delay the relationship.
Some people complain about their lover. After contacting their lover, they have fierce conflicts with their lover. This will not save love and make things better, but will instead make others think you are too crazy and lose your grace.
When some people complain about their lovers, they even confront their lovers in public, so that their friends and colleagues can learn about these things. This makes this relationship lose its final dignity, and also involves issues of character and legality, which is no longer just a matter of emotions.
Whether you are complaining about yourself or complaining about others, they are actually the lowest level choice, because the damage this choice causes to you is huge, and it can be said that "injuring the enemy for one thousand and hurting one hundred by yourself." You may become very inferior and cowardly, and no longer believe that you will be a good person and can get a new love.
Love is indeed so important in life. There is no lights of thousands of families without love, but the lights of a person are dim. Life without love is incomplete, with too much loneliness and sadness.
When we are gray-haired, when we recall the past, the people we loved, and when we find that there is no one to accompany us, we will definitely feel a lonely feeling surge in our hearts.
However, our independent soul is more important. If we do not have an independent soul, we will easily lose ourselves in love and forget the stars and seas that should have belonged to us.
When we walk out of our cramped state of mind and stare at the vast world, we will find that our lives can be free from being trapped in the word "love". We can be bold and open-minded to be our true selves. No matter whether our love is perfect or not, we are first and foremost a perfect and brilliant person.
I believe that when you understand all this, you will try your best to discover the beauty of this world and give your life a brighter meaning. At that time, you will no longer feel sad about losing someone.
I hope you will move towards the next relationship with a positive attitude, attract equally excellent people with a positive attitude, accompany you to shine and share the beauty of the relationship.
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