Our Chinese nation is a nation that talks about filial piety and etiquette. Respecting the elderly and loving the young is something that everyone should do. We follow this principle and can handle many relationships well, but the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has become the most difficult problem in the family. Moreover, there are more or less conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in almost any family where mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live. It is no exaggeration to say that nine out of ten pairs of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a bad relationship, and the remaining pairs are superficial and are unsatisfied with each other behind their backs...
Then why is there so easy conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? Everyone even regards mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as "natural enemies", why is this? Let's take a quick look.
First of all, the two women, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, have one thing in common, that is, they both love the same man. It is because of this that they have changed from strangers to family. But because of this, there are many conflicts between them.
Although mother-in-law and daughter-in-law love the same man, their positions are different. The mother-in-law treats her son with the love of a mother. She does not seek any return on her love or dedication for her son. She can tolerate her son infinitely because she is a mother and only wishes him good.
The wife loves her husband from the standpoint of a wife, and she also hopes to get a response from her husband's love. There will also be conflicts between husband and wife. There are no couples in the world who don’t quarrel. Most of them are their wives scolding their husbands and losing their temper. The husband will just admit his mistake and go through it. This is a very common thing.
But as the saying goes, quarrels are not good at talking. What bad words did this daughter-in-law scold? The mother-in-law remembers them in her heart. She can't bear to scold herself, so how could she be willing to be scolded by others?
Secondly, the two women, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, have no blood relationship. Two women who are not related by blood live under the same roof, and it is really difficult to avoid conflict. Just imagine, even if the biological mother and daughter are still a little bumpy? It’s just that the blood is thicker than water, and my daughter contradicted her mother. She was angry for a moment and forgot about it later. My mother scolded her daughter. Although her daughter was annoyed, she also appreciated her heart and knew that it was all for her own good. But the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are different. The daughter-in-law accidentally bumps into the mother-in-law, but the mother-in-law remembers it in her heart. The mother-in-law scolded casually, and the daughter-in-law also held a grudge...
Since the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies, do there really be a real relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? The answer is: Yes. Humans are emotional animals. After living together for a long time, although there are conflicts, there are still feelings. The premise is that the mother-in-law fulfills her responsibilities as a mother-in-law, and the daughter-in-law also fulfills her duties as a daughter-in-law. This is the case with a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law I know. They have never been compatible and are not in a good manner when they speak or do things. However, the daughter-in-law was raised by the mother-in-law when she gave birth to two children. Although the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have quarreled a lot, they should do whatever they should do. During the holidays, the daughter-in-law will also buy gifts for her mother-in-law, and she said that one code will be the same. Later, the old lady had a stroke and her daughter-in-law was serving her and never abused her. She said that no matter what, her mother-in-law helped her raise her two children... This is really the old saying: I have been looking at my mother-in-law for ten years, and I have been looking at my daughter-in-law for ten years.
But there are exceptions to everything. If there is a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who is not good at getting along well, there will be a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who is not good at getting along well. As the saying goes: One yin and one yang are called Tao.
I have seen a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. They are not mother-in-law, but they are better than mother-in-law. The harmonious and beautiful relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is enviable.
The mother-in-law said that when she gave birth, she was looking forward to giving birth to a daughter, but when she gave birth, she was a son. She cried. Others thought she was excited, but in fact she was sad.
The mother-in-law said that she liked her daughter-in-law for the first time she met her and thought it would be great if she was her daughter! My wife said that I will be your biological daughter from now on.
Later they got along very well. The mother-in-law treats her daughter-in-law as her daughter, and the daughter-in-law treats her mother-in-law as her mother. She will buy whatever she buys for her mother.
In fact, whether it is a mother-in-law or a daughter-in-law, you should cherish this relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, because only by being destined in this life can you become a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, become a family, and have the opportunity to love the same man together. What a rare fate! I cherish my relatives in this life. I don’t know each other in the next life. I will cherish them as I do!
