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In interpersonal communication, the most tiring thing is not to spend time and energy to maintain every relationship, but to beware of some people at all times to avoid being calculated. Why do you say so? When interacting with people, you know people and face but not your heart. Some people are not as you see on the surface.
Everyone has an unknown side. Simply put, some people always like to pretend to be themselves when they interact with you, and you have no way to judge what kind of person they are.
If you are lucky enough to meet some people with good character and sincere behavior, they will naturally not deceive you or plot against you, and you don’t have to worry about how to deal with interpersonal relationships.
But if you are surrounded by some "hypocrites" and you have devoted your enthusiasm, but others never treat you sincerely. Instead, they are thinking about how to plot against you, and you will really be unable to guard against it.
When encountering this situation, many people's first reaction is to be very angry, but after being angry, some people either choose to forgive or leave it alone.
The reason is that you used to treat the other party as your best friend, but now he betrays you, causing trouble for you, and remembering the old love, you have no other way except to get angry.
But in fact, the other party is precisely because you will not turn against him, so that you will become more and more arrogant and hurt you unscrupulously. Instead of being angry and choosing to endure, you might as well learn to change yourself.
advises you that when someone is plotted, your smart approach is not to turn against you, but to do these things.
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The more angry you are, the more proud others are
I wonder if you have noticed that the reason why some people like to plot against others is mostly because of jealousy or being too sceptical and being too shameful to others.
You are not as good as others. If you don’t think about how to work hard to improve yourself, you will only take the methods of hurting others and do bad things behind the scenes.
As the saying goes, "Work harder will bring you rewards." Some people always like to enjoy the success. If you don't work hard, just forget it. When you see you achieve good results, they will only think that you are lucky.
If you accidentally become friends with such a person, I advise you to be more careful.
Because he sees you are better than him and have a bigger limelight than him, he will not be really happy for you. Maybe he has been thinking about how to plot against you in his heart.
If you are really plotted, don’t be angry or go to argue with him, because what the other party wants to see most is how angry you look.
The more you are like this, the more you need to calm down your mood in time and accept the fact that he is calculating you. If you feel sad and upset about what he does, the other person will only be more proud.
Fortunately, his calculations also allow you to see what kind of person he is. If you eat hibernation and gain wisdom, please keep a distance from him and don’t forgive him for hurting you just because of a soft heart.
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Stay calm and don’t be swept by bad emotions
As the saying goes, “Beware of gentlemen but not villains.”
In fact, many times, the more people you are close to, the more likely people to calculate you.
Because the other party knows everything about you, it can be said that he knows you well.
If there is a conflict or a estrangement between you, you will take this opportunity to plot against you.
In other words, the people around you are the ones you should be most careful about.
However, there are some people that you are not careful about, because you don’t know when they will plot against you.
Some people actually don’t feel good about getting along with you from the beginning. They just make friends with you to make use of you one day. Although they are good to you and think about you everywhere, as long as the interests are involved, they can betray you immediately.
And some people, they just want to understand you. For example, if your unintentional mistake hurts him, he will always keep it in his heart and then find an opportunity to take revenge on you.
When you meet these people, you can only think of yourself as unlucky. Although you feel uncomfortable, you must remain calm and not be overwhelmed by bad emotions.
As the saying goes, "Impulse is the devil." If you cannot manage your emotions well and act impulsively, it will not only not solve the problem, but will also put yourself in a passive position. When
is calculated by others, you must learn to treat it rationally and take the right way.
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Have principles in doing things and don’t give others the chance to calculate
I wonder if you have ever thought about a question: why others always like to take advantage of you and plot against you everywhere.
Perhaps in your opinion, the reason why others don’t treat you sincerely is because you are too kind and simple, you can easily trust others, or meet others inappropriately.
But in fact, these are not the most important ones. The real reason is not others but you.
In other words, it is because you are too easy to talk, have no principles in doing things, and others don’t know your bottom line, so they plot against you several times.
If you want to avoid being plotted against others, you must first learn to put your position in the right place, stick to your own principles of doing things, and do not worry about anything else when encountering unreasonable demands made by others, and learn to refuse firmly.
Secondly, when interacting with others, don’t overestimate your relationship with others, and don’t underestimate people’s hearts.
Sometimes, it is precisely because you are too prone to emotional behavior, blinded by illusions, and unable to see through people's hearts, that others will take the opportunity to plot against you.
Therefore, when interacting with others, don’t lower your bottom line casually. You must learn to stick to your principles of doing things so that others will not dare to touch your bottom line casually.
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Author: March.
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