If you encounter good luck
Everyone is happy
But if you get a bad hand
How do you deal with it?
Tell me about the familiar big S.
In just one year, the world has changed. Big S has decisively made a new beginning, and it has only come true after online dating and getting married.
She and Gu Junye registered in Taipei and posted a wedding photo. Some people say that this is the wedding in Big S's dream. Compared with the Sanya event, there is no need to be grand, no need to bask in the sun or wind. Wear your favorite clothes and be natural and light makeup.
In a blink of an eye, Big S has emerged from the haze of the previous marriage. During the whole process, although she felt wronged, she never complained to the outside world. has to admit that people with bad cards and high emotional intelligence can turn the tables quickly.
Pictures are from VOGUE magazine
In comparison, once we encounter bad fate, we seem to be more likely to be "entangled" by bad luck. American social psychologist Festinger gave an example:
Castin put his high-end watch next to the toilet bowl when he was washing up in the morning. His wife was afraid that she would be wet by the water, so she took it over and put it on the dining table . When my son got up and went to the dining table to get bread, he accidentally touched the watch and broke it.
Castin felt sorry for the watch, so he beat him up on his son's butt, and then scolded his wife with a cold face. The wife was dissatisfied with her and had a fierce argument with her. In a fit of anger, Castin drove directly to the company. When he was about to arrive, he remembered that he forgot to get his briefcase and immediately turned home. But there was no one at home, so Castin had to call his wife to ask for the keys. When his wife rushed home in panic, she knocked over a fruit stall on the side of the road, and she had to pay a sum of money before leaving.
After the door opened and got the briefcase, Castin was already 15 minutes late and was severely criticized by his boss. Before getting off work, he had another small incident and had a fight with his colleague. His wife was also deducted the full attendance award for that month for being late. My son participated in a baseball game that day, but was eliminated because of his bad mood and poor performance.
In this case, 10% of the watch was broken, and a series of things happened later were the other 90%. It was all because the parties involved did not control the 90% well, which led to this day becoming a "annoying day".
Just imagine, if Castin changes the reaction after that 10% happens, such as comforting his son: "It doesn't matter, it's okay if the watch is broken, I'll just take it for repair." In this way, the son is happy, the wife is happy, and he is in a good mood, then everything that follows will not happen.
can be seen that you cannot control the previous 10%, but you can completely determine the remaining 90% through your mentality and behavior.
This is the famous theory of American social psychologist Fistinger, namely "Fistinger's Law": 10% of life consists of things that happen to you, while the other 90% is determined by how you react to what happens.
OK. Once you understand this, do you know that someone’s resignation actually starts with his complaining that his colleagues don’t cooperate? Does the failure of a certain business start with the first time I feel "unfair"? ...
In fact, what we Chinese are best at is "no blessing when we lose our horses." If you can control the remaining 90% with a good attitude when you are a little unhappy, then how can bad luck visit you one after another?
