Does a person who is used to treating others with warmth have such grievances: For example, as long as you don’t pay much attention to someone’s feelings once, you will be completely denied your warmth and accused you of being false?
Is a powerful person more susceptible to follow, but opposition will most likely be hidden until it brews a bigger crisis?
Learn some psychology, and today I share with you that there is a particularly critical difference in people's thinking about the two traits of warmth and strength.
Warm follows what we call the rules of tomatoes: a night of severe cold is enough to destroy a garden of tomatoes.
The rules that power follows are the opposite: as long as you fully demonstrate your strength once, you are equivalent to taking a big step towards the goal of building a strong image. That impression will be deeply rooted.
Of course, this is not a one-time solution.
If you perform well when you first start a new job, but then you will eventually destroy the delicate impression you originally left on others.
But this process may take some time.
Aura effect and hydraulic effect
In fact, strength and warmth are complementary, not mutually exclusive opposites, and there are many interactions between the two.
First of all, halo effect : If someone already has certain positive qualities, then it is easy for us to put other positive qualities on this person.
For example, when we like a person, we often cannot see the other person’s shortcomings. Even if he or she causes some harm to us, we will generously interpret it as “he/she did not mean it.” Because we are unwilling to believe that it is his/her problem.
But at the same time, there is a dynamic mechanism that conflicts with the halo effect that will play a role.
Between strength and warm
There is also a "hydraulic effect"
When one of them is in an ascending state
The other will usually drop.
If you show too much obedience to others out of kindness, it will make you look easy to settle. And when everyone completes a task together, the commander's decisiveness often makes people feel ruthless. Every practice you use to build strength will reduce the warmth and vice versa. Since warmth and strength are difficult to show at the same time, and once we form one style, it is difficult to compatible with another style, how should we improve our personal charm?
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