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Everyone has their own circle since childhood, whether it is the study circle when they were studying, the work circle when they grew up, or the circle when they were eating and drinking. Different interpersonal relationships allow us to feel different emotions between people.
Some people have lively personalities and generous behavior. They have a big circle and many friends in their mouths. There are many such people in their lives. What they say is "I have many friends, and that's all my friends."
And some people have very small circles and few friends, and they can even say they have no friends. They live in their own small world every day. Although others seem to be lonely, we cannot make a conclusion whether he is really the case.
After all, everyone has a different living environment, different personalities, different experiences, different understandings of life, and the combination of various different factors has led to him now. We have no way of knowing whether people like
. Especially as you get older, you will find that it is really a luxury to make friends with sincerity.
So, the word "friend" has become much more complicated. Sometimes you give your sincerity and think that the other party will definitely kill you, but what you get is plotting and betrayal. When I really need friends, I realized that those who once called brothers had already quietly withdrawn from your life.
So, what exactly are they because of those who don’t have a friend around them? There are only three reasons. Do you think this is the case?
has suffered some harm and started to be socially afraid. Although the song "There are more friends and the road is easier to walk on." But after you have experienced some things, you will find that there are indeed more friends, but the road may not be easier to walk on. There are even people who make things difficult for you on the road and block your way.
Xiao Zhang used to be very outgoing and had many friends. When his friends got together, one of them kept instigating him to invest in a certain project, and other friends around him were also talking about how good the project was and how much money it made.
Xiao Zhang was so moved that he first invested a little, but later he invested more and more, and even mortgaged the house. He also dreamed of his friends to make a fortune.
It was not until one day that he realized that those friends had joined forces to cheat him of his money, and the person disappeared without a trace. He was instantly anxious and was admitted to the hospital.
Although he was discharged after a period of admission and treatment, his condition was not as good as before, and I was always alone at home and didn't go out. His family seemed very scared when he wanted him to go out to make more new friends and always locked himself in the bedroom.
people are like this. When you treat others as friends but are hurt by friends, you will be unable to understand and cannot figure it out for a long time, which will cause a shadow on your own psychology, and then start to have social fear.
The character is poor, no one wants to get close to
If you want to be friends with someone, you have to look at the character of this person. It is possible that he will not be able to see his true face in a short time. You know the power of the road, and time and details will show the real him in front of you.
" People in the World " "The Six Little Gentlemen" was a pure and enviable friendship at the beginning of the TV series. As everyone has their own families, their relationship begins to decline.
The family has no house on National Day. After buying a new house, he gave his parents' old house for free to live in National Day family. He also helped the wife of National Day Wu Qian and her sister Sun Xiaoning solve the problem.
However, when Bingkun encountered difficulties and needed to go back to the old house, Wu Qian's scolding and complaining made Bingkun a villain. People who are not grateful are really hurtful.
and Chunyan, in order to satisfy his selfishness, asked Debao to write a letter of complaint to strictly investigate Bingkun's brother, saying that he embezzled hundreds of billions of dollars. Debao's ugly side is fully displayed.
After that, those friends all distanced themselves from Debao and Chunyan. Once they saw other friends gathered together to eat, drink and sing. The two of them regretted everything they had done before.
When a person does something that hurts others for the sake of his own benefit, there is no doubt that no one will continue to be friends with him.
People who have no friends are sometimes a kind of wisdom
Murakami Haruki said: "If you don't have a single friend, then congratulations, it proves that you are mature."
Many people have been expanding their social circles in order to pave the way for future development and keep making friends. Calling out of your mouth is simple, but real friends are not that simple. Although the sentence
sounds a bit cruel, it fully expresses the reality of this society.
When we walk from the ivory tower into a mixed society, we are full of hope for everything and see everything is beautiful. When I really walked step by step, I realized that this road was actually bumpy and there were many ugly things.
In the end, we were heartbroken and had to part ways with some people and became strangers. It was at this moment that you suddenly realized that it was normal to have no friends.
If you are surrounded by some useless social interactions, you don’t have to waste time and energy on those people.
is like Kazuo Inamori said: "Don't have emotional worries. A true wise man will not worry about these meaningless things."
What is a friend? It is like the thick cotton coat you put on in time when you tremble in the cold wind, like the silent power you give you when you are lonely and lonely.
