Today, we share a story about telling people. To protect the privacy of the parties, let’s call her Xiaolan.
Suitable person Xiaolan:
(1) My mother-in-law said that if you want to get married, you will cut off contact with your family
I am from Sichuan . I have good academic performance since I was a child. I got to Ningbo in college, so I stayed in Ningbo to work after graduation. Later, I met my current husband Wang Peng. We have been dating for three years and have reached the point of discussing marriage, so Wang Peng took me to see his parents.
When he arrived at his house that day, his parents were polite at first. We sat together and talked. His father was cooking in the kitchen. His mother asked me about my work. I said I was working as an interpreter in a foreign trade company with an annual salary of 200,000 yuan. His mother was very satisfied with it and said, "As long as girls can live at home, I have to take care of their children at home when they get married, I don't care how much they make." I saw that my aunt was so reasonable and happy, thinking that she must be filial to her mother-in-law after marriage.
Later, I talked about the situation at home. His mother asked me where my family was, who were there, whether there were brothers and sisters at home, and all kinds of questions. I thought that since both of them were going to live together, they should be honest, so I told Aunt Wang all the time. After hearing this, Aunt Wang immediately changed her face, and after a few words, she went into the kitchen.
His mother was not so enthusiastic when she had supper, and his father didn't speak much, and kept urging me to eat more food. I don't know what I said wrong, so I didn't dare to ask more questions. After dinner, he took the initiative to ask for washing dishes and cleaning the kitchen, but his mother didn't refuse, so he pulled Wang Peng to the bedroom and said something.
After packing up, Wang Peng took me home. On the way, Wang Peng told me that his mother minded that I was a foreigner and said that I would definitely run back to my hometown in the future. Then they would lose a lot, saying that there were many such things in the past. He also said that he just didn't run away. My family was so poor, so he would definitely help his family in the future. He had a lot of younger brothers and sisters, and he made all the money he earned. He despised me from the countryside and his family was too weak and he would not be able to help his husband's family in the future.
Wang Peng actually told me all her mother’s thoughts, and I asked him directly, “That’s your mother’s thoughts. What do you think?”
He said, “Of course I won’t care about these things. The most important thing about living two people is that we both live. We also work hard on our own, and no one can control it.” I am also very pleased that Wang Peng can say this.
Later, his parents couldn't resist Wang Peng and finally agreed, but asked me to cut off contact with my family after marriage. Moreover, this was said at the dinner table where the parents of both parties met before marriage, and I didn't know anything about it before.
My parents are honest farmers. When they came to Ningbo, they saw Wang Peng’s big house. They were shocked when they saw their family driving several cars. They kept asking me to be their wife, saying that where can I find such a good family?
At that time, my mother-in-law said that I wanted me to cut off contact with my family after marriage. I was anxious and pulled my parents to leave, but my parents grabbed me and agreed to my mother-in-law's request. My mother pressed me hard, looked at me with some pleading eyes, and signaled me not to speak. I was so anxious that I burst into tears.
(II) I compromised, my mother-in-law became more and more serious
I know my father's efforts. I am the eldest in the family, and I have a younger brother and a younger sister at home. My younger brother went to Guangzhou to work after graduating from high school. My younger sister is now in junior high school and has average academic performance. It is estimated that she will be the fate of getting married in three or two years.
At that time, in order to support me in college, my family saved money all year round. My first year of tuition was sold to a cow at home. I will never forget the situation where my parents took my younger brother and sister, dragged my luggage to the roadside at the village entrance to get on the bus. Because there was no extra money, my father didn't go to see me. I brought a few clothes and went on the road simply. They stood on the side of the road and watched until I couldn't see them...
I worked hard over the years to repay my parents' raising me. I renovated the 140,000 yuan I saved from working for three years and bought a cow.I just hope to improve the situation at home through my efforts, but now, I have to cut off contact with my parents, how can I bear it?
My parents comforted me and said that my brother is working for a year and has some money. With the harvest at home, the family life is much better than before. Don’t worry, if I miss such a good family, it will be difficult to find. When we get married later, our relationship will ease and it will not be too late to come back slowly.
I listened foolishly to my parents and got married to Wang Peng. After marriage, my parents-in-law kept living with us because the down payment for the wedding house was paid by his parents, and I thought it should be, so we can be considered as peaceful. Their old house has been living in their home because Wang Peng’s sister has not yet been married.
After marriage, we all went to work separately, and there was not much interaction. A year later, our daughter was born. After the three-month maternity leave, I wanted to ask my mother-in-law to help me take care of the child, but my mother-in-law refused and said that the child would be taken care of with her mother. She is old now and in poor health, so she can’t take care of her.
My mother-in-law is only in her fifties, so I asked her to watch the child during the day and feed her breasts on time, because the child is during the breastfeeding period, and I can still go home for an hour at noon. Even so, my mother-in-law doesn't do it, saying that he has a lot of activities in the elderly club and can't leave.
At this moment, Wang Peng proposed to resign and become a full-time mother. He said that his salary could support us, and with the subsidies from his parents, we could also live a good life. It would not be too late to go to work after the child was three years old.
I thought about this only way. Since my mother-in-law was unwilling to take care of her, I only took care of her. But I didn’t expect that after I quit my job, I would all be with me at home. I would watch the children during the day and prepare the family’s meals at night. My mother-in-law also went home on time like a worker, and she would dance square dance after dinner, and didn’t help me with housework.
(Three) The mother-in-law helped her son cheat, and the mistress had long been eyeing her harshly
Wang Peng also worked overtime every day in order to make the family spend more money. Finally, when my child was having a banquet for the first year of the year, I realized why my mother-in-law was picky about me.
It turns out that before me, Wang Peng also had a so-called girlfriend, Qiao Lili. The two families were neighbors before. The two families grew up together and had a very good relationship, so they were both childhood sweethearts. But although Qiao Lili is intent, Wang Peng has always regarded Qiao Lili as his sister and never thought of the relationship between men and women.
Later, it was just Qiao Lili's wishful thinking, and her mother-in-law had no choice, but she liked Qiao Lili very much. At that baby's birthday party, when my mother-in-law knew that Qiao Lili had taken over her father's furniture factory and would become her successor in the future, she kept saying this and said nothing in front of me, saying, if you married Lili at that time, it would have worked so hard now. His father's company had a profit of one million a year, and it would not be the two of you in the future. Now that I am a foreigner, I will know that I can take care of my children at home and do housework. I can also do these jobs, and hire a nanny.
I was very aggrieved when I heard these words, and I didn’t know where to fall. I cried alone at night, and I didn’t dare to tell my family. Wang Peng was also in a difficult situation, and I couldn't tell him.
Later, as long as I eat, my mother-in-law was dissatisfied with me in all kinds of things, and the food was not satisfied with it. She couldn't stir-fry chili peppers because we all like to eat spicy food in Sichuan. Even if I fry one for myself, I wouldn't make it light for them. She also said that the smoke at home was too big, it was too choking, and she was picky, and the floor was not clean, and the clothes were not folded flat.
I endured it silently, not scruples with her, and Wang Peng didn't want to listen to her nagging, and often worked overtime. I thought that as long as my daughter is three years old, I will go to work and my daughter can go to kindergarten. I endure her pickiness every day...
That's it. This year, my daughter can finally go to kindergarten, but my marriage has come to an end. Wang Peng showed up to me, he cheated.
That's right, the person who cheated on Qiao Lili. After that birthday party, Qiao Lili seemed to have received the approval of her mother-in-law. In the days that followed, she kept pestering Wang Peng, and her mother-in-law also instigated her at home. Wang Peng was captured, from the beginning of shopping, watching movies... to the end, she finally lived together.
The reason why Wang Peng showed up to me was also very bloody, because Qiao Lili is pregnant, the child needs a father, and the mistress needs a title. And I am the one who wants to quit.
At this time, the mother-in-law was like a winner. He became a good mother-in-law, saying that she wanted to take care of Qiao Lili's childbirth, saying that the first child was very important...
(IV) What should I do if I am helpless
said that I would not treat me badly, so I asked me to divorce, give me 200,000, and let me take my children back to my hometown in Sichuan. Speaking of foreigners, they will always have to go back. (I think I care about your 200,000 yuan. Can you even want your granddaughter?)
I don’t know what to do now. Now I am taking my daughter with me, in my hometown in Sichuan, my parents accepted me unconditionally. At home, my parents kept the house I lived in for me.
I want to ask for help now. What should I do? To be honest, I am reluctant to let my divorce. After all, I have been in love for many years, but the child over there cannot be a father. Wang Peng should be determined not to let us mother and son.
I am very confused...
What should I do...
Author's conclusion: Xiaolan's story is indeed representative. Today we will present this story to everyone as an open topic to discuss. Please give Xiaoli some opinions and help, what is the best result for Xiaoli.
