ban 24: "I admire you very much."
Zhu Xin would occasionally say when talking to the leader: "I admire you very much." The leader was naturally happy at that time, but he couldn't help but think: "He is always old." What is the mentality of lying admiration?” When chatting with colleagues, Zhu Xin always emphasized: “I admire you very much.” His colleague felt that this sentence was very abrupt and thought to himself: “As the saying goes, “It’s just that.” 'If you have nothing to do, you will either be traitor or steal', what is he trying to do?"
always says, "I admire you very much." It is indeed a bit deliberately trying to please others, which may be the cause of human flattery. The so-called flattery is what people often call "flattery".
Many people believe that the essence of worldly scheming is perfection, and the skill of popularity is exquisite. The world gradually removes the edges and corners of human nature. At first glance, the shores of life are all round and smooth oval stones, and people also call it "maturity". After entering the world for a long time, people have become smooth and begin to learn to deliberately please some people in order to achieve certain goals. For a moment, we didn't know whether the words of praise we said were sincere praise or purposeful flattery, so we began to say "I admire you very much" and "I respect you very much" , abuse without restraint.
Research at the University of Frankfurt, Germany found that flight attendants, salesmen, and salespeople all like to flatter others. Psychologists believe that people who like to flatter others are mostly those who need to suppress their true emotions and hope to achieve some purpose in interpersonal communication. Obviously, flattery is for a selfish purpose. Some people want to make money, while others want to make a fortune with small things. People who love flattery often do not work hard in their careers, are unlikely to have top talents, and lack excellent qualities. Without the capital to stand out, they will choose flattery as a means to gain power. They often It is manifested as:
1. Unconditionally agree to the suggestions of leaders or colleagues and never express different opinions.
2. Often praise leaders or colleagues by belittled yourself or others, with exaggerated expressions and flattering smiles.
3. Praise is to hide one's mediocrity.
4. No matter how funny the jokes the leader said are, they will laugh as if they are real.
Praise is by no means flattery. The godfather of human nature, Carnegie , once said: "Flavor is squeezed out from the teeth, and praise comes from the heart." Praise is a full affirmation of others' strengths and strengths, while flattery is to be arrogant and flattery. Smart people can tell which words are sincere praise, and which words are just flattering words.
It’s not that we cannot praise others, but we must give our sincerity while praising them. You should know that praise is not as simple as handing someone a piece of candy. If you want it right, you need to express your feelings and be sincere and appropriate, so that you will not let praise become empty words without quality.
If you want to master the degree of praise, you should pay attention to the following points:
1. Don’t praise blindly, but be credible and objective.
2. Make sure to make some point. Unclear praise will not leave a deep impression on people.
3. People or things that are not worthy of praise do not have to praise against their will.
4. The praise behind it is more real and touching than the praise in person.
5. Don’t make your own requests immediately after praise.
6. Don’t use praise to belittle others.
American entrepreneur Charles Schwab is said to be the first corporate executive to earn an annual salary of one million yuan. He believes that his greatest ability is to inspire the enthusiasm of his subordinates. He said: "The boss's blind criticism is the easiest thing to destroy the confidence of his subordinates. I never criticize anyone, I only give them praise and encouragement. What I like most is to praise sincerely and tolerate and praise."
Want to learn how to learn Sincere praise requires a humble heart to discover the advantages of others. American writer Emerson said: "Everyone I meet is more or less my teacher, because I have learned something from them." This attitude is very worthy of our attention.From now on, let us discover other people's strengths and give sincere and sincere praise! People will pay attention to and cherish what you say. Even if you have forgotten this for a long time, they will still be imprisoned. Remember what you said, because only true praise is the warmest.
