My friend hates her mother-in-law very much. She reaches the point where she cannot watch, listen, and think. As long as she thinks of such a person in the world, she will physically dislike it.
"How come there are such annoying people in this world?" Every time she talks about her mother-in-law, her face immediately twisted, and anger was rising above her head.
How annoying her mother-in-law is, it’s hard to say. There are indeed some people in the world who hate it, but when faced with such hopeless people, we usually have a choice, that is, I will treat you as a bullshit, and I will hide when you come. If I really can't hide, I will close my facial features, you smell yours, and I will smell mine.
My friend is not. She is you smelly, I insist on smelling it, and I have to inhale vigorously.
I heard a lot of her stories, and I couldn't help but say, God, why do you love your mother-in-law so much? She said "ah" and was puzzled.
"If you don't love, why would you pay so much attention to her words and deeds? Even to the point where you would rather hurt yourself than pay attention to her?"
She may have been stimulated and hasn't talked to me for a long time. I am not keen on inquiring about other people's lives. After all, time is limited, and I can't handle the friends who take the initiative to talk to me.
Later I saw a circle of friends she posted: It turns out that hating someone is the "love" with the greatest lethality, and this lethality is inward, and the hurt is not others, but yourself.
is able to say such words, which means that she has figured it out, or at least she is already on the road to figure it out.
People often like to say, "That person, I hate it so much." The four words "I hate you so much" are really wonderful. The person who died in was not the person who hated him, but the person who hated him.
In essence, love and hate are the same family.
Hate a person, you see his shortcomings all over his body; love someone, you see his strengths all over his body. Whether it is hated or loved, it is not an objective fact, but a subjective emotion.
Since it is emotion, it is consumption for us. You must pay attention to someone to love him. Similarly, you must pay attention to someone to hate him.
Love a person, usually what we love is what he has that we do not have; the same applies to hate a person. What we hate is the things we care about but do not have.
What we reflect from hatred is actually our powerlessness towards these things, and even our envy, jealousy and hatred. All human anger is anger at its own incompetence, so emotional stability is always the only criterion for truly loving oneself.
When you truly love yourself, it becomes less easy to love and hate others. Your emotions are not controlled by anyone, and you can restrain and relieve love and hate. You have your own way, and others can do whatever you want. After all, they are not you.
From this logic, the essence of hates a person is that he does not love himself enough and cares too much about others - other people's performance, other people's eyes, and other people's behavior can all control your emotions. Because of weakness, I can't rub sand in my eyes. I hope that the world will run the way I want, without taking the initiative to live into a complete and undisturbed world.
When people are incompetent and powerless, they have weak auras and many people around them hate them.
If enough people can cause you to be disgusted, it means that it is not that the world has become worse, but that your own energy is becoming weaker. This is something that needs special attention. Strictly speaking, those who make you hate come to save you.
When an annoying person appears, it is actually a reminder to us.
reminds you to find what you love and do what you are interested in;
reminds you not to pay too much attention to irrelevant things;
reminds you to go to fitness and be with interesting people;
reminds you to take care of your own world and stand in front of the mirror every day and smile at yourself.
If you are strong and rich, you will really care less; the less you care about, the fewer you care about, the fewer people you hate around you.
The decision is not in the person you hate, but in your own hands. If you hand the knife to her, she can control your emotions. If you don’t hand the knife, he will jump around and be a clown.
Remember, the world is just our mirror, we are the whole world.
The people we hate are hills in life. climbing over hills no one is waiting, and strides forward to the stars and seas.
