It is more difficult for middle-aged people. This is a fact that everyone knows. There are old people above, but they cannot always accompany them; there are young people below, and they cannot grow up with them; there are companions in the middle, but they have no intention of saying a few words; there are friends outside, but they cannot get drunk and stop.
There is always helplessness. Like the years, I don’t mean what I say, and the years are the same as me. It’s a long story.
Then the question is, for middle-aged people, how can they have a good life? is nothing more than recognizing yourself and not violating the three taboos in order to get what you want.
After middle age, if you still have the same behaviors as when you were young, or if you add new bad habits after middle age, it will be difficult to enjoy the fun of middle age.
On the contrary, it will also affect your future life and interpersonal relationships. The following three points are worth reading for middle-aged people, and they are even more worthy of tasting and learning.
First, remember to balance work and rest, and don’t overdraw your health.
As Schopenhauer said: "The biggest mistake human beings can make is to exchange health for other things outside the body."
Indeed, you can make more money after you have spent it, and you can make a comeback after being frustrated in the workplace, but if your body collapses , everything is just talk.
In the second half of life, what we fight for is health. The body is the capital of revolution. Without a healthy body, no matter how great the ideal is, it is empty talk, and no matter how high the goal is, it becomes an illusion.
Emerson said: " Health is the first wealth in life. "
Even young people who are full of energy and full of vigor will inevitably be exhausted and lack energy if they always work day and night.
Not to mention the middle-aged people who are nearly fifty years old. Their physical strength and energy are not as good as before, let alone exhausting themselves physically and mentally for so-called material benefits.
Otherwise, once the body is exhausted, it will not only be difficult to protect the children, but will become a burden to the children. This is really not worth the gain.
Second, remember to keep your feet on the ground and don’t aim too high.
"Tao Te Ching" says: He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise. The depth of a person's understanding of himself determines the height of his understanding of the world.
Once a person completely understands himself, he will completely understand the world. The reason why we cannot understand the world is because we have not yet understood ourselves.
You must be self-aware and down-to-earth in your work.
Especially for middle-aged people, it is an age that cannot be wasted, because you have already gone through most of your life, and at the same time you are about to face old age with declining physical strength and abilities.
If you do not consider whether your own abilities are within your capabilities, nor whether your own financial strength can afford it, and blindly "dare to venture and dare to do something", then the result will definitely end in a disastrous failure.
Third, remember to exercise caution and don’t meddle in other people’s business.
writer Zhou Guoping said: "A sense of proportion is a sign of maturity. In interpersonal communication, you must know how to observe the necessary distance between people."
Everyone has his or her own boundaries and bottom lines, which cannot be crossed at will. Otherwise, it will be the beginning of departure. I deeply believe that whether you are getting along with your family or interacting with relatives and friends, you must understand the sense of proportion.
But some middle-aged friends like to join in the fun, and they like to meddle in the affairs of relatives, friends, and even neighbors.
When a husband and wife quarreled, or a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law quarreled, he hurriedly rushed to persuade and resolve the dispute; when their children went on blind dates or applied for jobs, he gave self-righteous suggestions.
As the saying goes: Every family has its own scriptures that are difficult to recite. As a bystander, it is best not to meddle in other people's affairs with a "superior" attitude that sees everything.
Being nosy is tantamount to looking for trouble, because the end result is often that no one thinks you the least bit good. On the contrary, it is often that you are thankless for your efforts.
writer Liang Shiqiu wrote in "Life is Just That": "The fun of middle age is to know life and yourself well, so that you can do what you can do and enjoy the life you can enjoy.”
When people reach middle age and have tasted all the tastes of life from their own experiences, they should fully understand themselves, understand how they should face the present and future life, and understand how they should get along with society and the people around them. .
When you reach middle age, you must know how to cultivate yourself and your character, and don’t do things you shouldn’t do. Only by understanding the taboos of middle-aged people can you Have a peaceful second half of your life and live a happy and peaceful life.
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