Obama When my wife went to buy flowers, the flower shop owner said: "You are so lucky to marry a president!" She smiled slightly and said: "When I marry you, you are also the president!" What kind of confidence! It's not me. I will be happy no matter who I marry, but who I am, I will be happy no matter who I marry! Don’t pin your happiness on any one person, because once you lose it, you will be miserable! You can be very tender and affectionate on the outside, but you must be strong on the inside.
More than 80% of the happiness of a family depends on the mistress. There is a kind of woman who is happy to marry anyone. Occasionally, I hear such a story, which is worth thinking about: At a friend’s party, a 35-year-old woman with average appearance and low education married a good husband who was very impressive. It is said that he has a master's degree and later became a furniture maker I have made a fortune, I have been married for 10 years, and I have a little daughter with a pink jade bracelet. Many people, especially women, sighed with half-jealousy, "This woman is so happy to marry such a good man. I smiled and said nothing. Come to think of it." Her story is not that simple. This woman's name is Mingyi. Happiness ability 1: Can cook, make soup, and live a steady life.
When Mingyi married her husband, he was still a young lecturer in the university. He stood on the podium and talked passionately about cynicism and Schopenhauer. Most of the girls in the audience came for the handsome teacher. Mingyi With her wholehearted devotion and fascination with this relationship, she certainly would not consider that the man with extraordinary temperament on the stage only owned a 20-square-meter dormitory in a tube building. Although the current situation after marriage is not satisfactory, the inseparable love can make up for everything. The young couple washes clothes together in the public water room, each twisting the sheets and ; they cook in the smoky corridor, and her husband chats with her while washing the dishes after the meal; they go to a movie or go home hand in hand on weekends A meal at the in-laws’ house. Mingyi felt that although her childhood was poor, she still felt happy and sweet. She moved her eyes away from the simple home, simple clothes, and her bare neck and fingers, and spent every month carefully with the little money in her hands to live a good life. , Mingyi is a good cook, and her husband loves to drink the soup she makes the most, pork ribs stewed with lotus root , crucian carp shredded radish, taro baby cabbage... Every time I drink, my stomach is round and I put down the bowl. Seeing her husband's simple and satisfied smile, Mingyi felt that this was happiness.
Happiness ability 2: Don’t have too high expectations for marriage, complain less, and worry less about small things. When I was pregnant with the child, my husband’s career had just started. He was dealing with clients and friends every day, treating guests to dinner, drinking, and playing with him every night. I can't get home until midnight. Mingyi was very sad. Although the man in front of him was still a familiar face, he seemed to have completely changed his soul. He had no time to greet his pregnant wife, and no energy to respond to her tender concern. Under the cruel test of life, he restored the essence of a man who loves his career but not his beauty. He was simply a workaholic. Mingyi felt that her gentleness and self-denial were completely in vain. The man in front of her was no longer the one she loved deeply at the beginning, so what was the point of trying to continue? The eldest sister who settled in the United States came back to see her, and Mingyi cried and told her: Her husband can't give it to her. I want happiness, I want a divorce. The eldest sister was silent, but the next day she brought her a best-selling collection by an American female columnist. There was a sentence in it that touched Mingyi: There is a kind of woman, no matter whether she is married to a construction worker or a congressman, she is... Have the ability to make yourself happy. That's right, why should a woman's happiness depend on a man? Every woman should have the ability to make herself and her family happy. Mingyi, who was pregnant, asked her parents for help and asked her mother to come over to help buy groceries and cook to take care of the small family that she was unable to take care of. She forced herself not to think about disturbing things, eat well and sleep well every day, and raise her baby with peace of mind; she no longer waited for her husband to come home at night, no longer pestered him with questions like before, and no longer bothered him with trivial matters; Occasionally, when he had free time, he let him help him for a walk, and they teased each other about naming their children. It's strange, as each day passes peacefully and peacefully, life that originally seemed dark and gloomy gradually becomes bright and sunny. Their daughter is almost 3 years old and they have moved to a new home. All the money was spent on the house payment. Mingyi hired a painter to paint the walls, bought simple furniture, and moved in first.Every day when my husband comes home, he sees a little bit of new changes: the unique lampshade in the living room is made of cardboard with a beige and dark red floral pattern on cotton; the coconuts he brought back from a business trip to Hainan are leftover and hard. The shell has been cleverly transformed into a cute piglet; the rolling paper has run out Now, Mingyi carefully wrapped Jian Xin in a layer of off-white linen muslin, and taught her daughter to graffiti with crayons, drawing colorful rainbows, green trees, blue rivers, and golden father-in-law. Such a DIY pen holder Putting it on the desk, as a father, my heart feels warm every time I see it. An originally ordinary space gradually changed its appearance in Mingyi's hands, becoming richer and more interesting day by day.
Happiness Ability 3: Cultivate your own interests and hobbies, take care of yourself first, and don’t neglect your family last. The appearance of Tony almost shattered Mingyi’s dream of happiness. She is one of her husband's important partners in the business. She is young, has a wealthy family, has business acumen and management skills, and carries an aggressive beauty and aura. Tony obviously expressed her affection for her husband and didn't care about his married status. When a man reaches this point, he can't help but be a little distracted and ambiguous. Many people came to inform Mingyi, some to complain, and some just to watch the fun.
Mingyi is still the same as before, reading his own books, planting his own flowers and plants, and taking care of his daughter who has just entered elementary school. When your husband comes home, give him comfortable slippers; when he gets up to wash up, squeeze out toothpaste for him in advance. Her interest in cooking became more and more intense, and she came up with some novel tricks from time to time. For example, cut a banana into small pieces, pour it on yogurt, and then wrap it in whole-wheat cracker crumbs; when I traveled to Phoenix, I learned to stir-fry garlic leaves and fresh coriander with dried chili pepper; I learned to make Sichuan kimchi from my mother-in-law. . All kinds of little creativity make my husband, who is used to eating big fish and meat outside, can't help but add an extra bowl of rice when he comes home. I would like to say, the food at home is still delicious. Mingyi carefully planned her weekends. When her husband was free, she would take her children with her and drive to a nearby farmhouse to go for an outing and watch the red leaves. When her husband had no time to accompany her, she would take her daughter to children's paradise , or It’s to watch the latest animated blockbusters. Every time the two parents go home happily hand in hand, their daughter laughs happily, and Mingyi's face lights up. My husband worries all day long that if Mingyi asks that embarrassing question, he doesn't know how to answer it. But Mingyi lived her life happily and never asked a question. Of course, Mingyi has also changed: she has regained some of her lively and lovely appearance before marriage, and her clothes have become more refined; she has taken yoga classes and learned to play tennis; she organized a sister tour group to go to , Nepal, , and came back radiant and beautiful for her daughter. Give me a hand-embroidered skirt as a gift for my old age There was an ebony ashtray inlaid with silver; she even started to learn English, and she could actually chat with American netizens! This woman who had been with her for 10 years turned out to have so many qualities and energies that she didn’t understand. Everything felt strange yet familiar to him, and he was deeply attracted to it.
Tang Ni's matter actually faded away so slowly and disappeared. His girlfriend went to see Mingyi and asked her how to deal with it with great admiration. Mingyi said with a smile, if you don't get surprised by the strange things, you will lose yourself if you are strange. I used to think that marrying a good husband would make you happy, but now it seems that a woman’s happiness does not depend on a man. Women must have the ability to make themselves happy. Love life, take good care of your family, and never neglect yourself. This is the true happiness of a woman. This makes sense. Whether a family is happy or not depends more than 80% on the mistress. Only those who have the ability to make themselves happy and the ability to make men happy are smart and good women.When you encounter something unhappy or something you can't figure out, just dig it out, look at it, and learn to feel relieved. The greatest happiness should be given by yourself. Especially women's life has never lacked color.
But sometimes we are blinded by sadness, hatred, and jealousy.
We plunge in and are unwilling to come out.
Draw a wall as a prison.
Repeat your sorrow over and over again.
In fact, women don't have to be like this.
There is no need to wrong yourself. The mood
Happiness never lacks reasons
No one must be the sun or the moon
No one will suffocate to death if he leaves.
Learn to create joy and happiness for yourself
Use your own charm to attract others
Instead of dragging someone with you
Learn to understand and be considerate
Learn to forget something Unpleasant things
Learn to give up obsessing over trivial things
Learn to be patient and indifferent
Learn to ignore superficial uneasiness
Learn to trust the person you love
