All my ambitions are but a life of freedom
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I really like Mr. Yang Jiang's words: "If you like eating strawberries , you will buy it without hesitation. If you don't like eating bananas, but considering that bananas help digestion, you still I will buy it.
If you like it, you will only weigh the pros and cons if you don’t like it. So in the moment of hesitation, you have already made your choice. ..."
The same is true for marriage relationships. People who love you will give you all the good things without hesitation, while people who don't love you will only find excuses to deal with you and fool you.
In fact, when one party in the marriage begins to hesitate, is unwilling to change and consider for you, and only focuses on himself, you should know that there must be something wrong with your relationship.
When the person who used to laugh when he saw you only complains and is full of hostility when he sees you, you should think about it carefully.
All relationships are not broken up at once. There are signs of changes in the marital relationship and splitting. The specific points are as follows.
1. Suddenly working overtime and traveling frequently
A person who always puts work first, either really loves you, or is trying to buy time for himself.
There are many reasons for the breakdown of a relationship: I don’t love you anymore, I have a new love, I am tired of my current life, etc.
No matter what the reason is, the most obvious change is that I don’t like to go home anymore.
"I'm working overtime today, so I'll be back later."
"I have a social engagement today, so I'll be back later."
"I'm eating out with my colleagues today, so you don't have to wait for me."
"I'm going on a business trip for a few days, so don't Contacting me too frequently will have a bad impact”
“I have to work overtime on weekends, so I can’t accompany you and your child. You take him out to play and eat something good”
Whether you believe it or not, and whether he is really working overtime or not Or go on a business trip. The reason why he is like this is that he doesn't want to go home.
I don’t want to go home and face you who will never change. I don’t want to go home and listen to your nagging. I don’t want to go home and face your nagging. I don’t want to go home and face the noisy children. I don’t want to go home and face your family. Trivial and stressful.
Whether you are a woman or a man, once you suddenly become very busy, put work first in everything you do, and always work overtime and go on business trips, it is either true or it is a precursor to the breakdown of your relationship.
2. There is always no time.
A person who always has no time for you must be a person who does not love you.
People who truly love you will be on their way to the southeast, northwest, and will always have time. Even if they don’t have time, they will patiently tell you the reason without hesitation.
Two people in a marriage are familiar with each other, and their busyness is nothing more than trivial matters at work. Except for the sophistication of people and so on, if they suddenly become busy, there must be something wrong.
"Let's go to the supermarket after get off work in the evening and buy some daily necessities."
"I don't have time. I have other arrangements after get off work."
"Come with me to my mother's house. I haven't been back for a long time."
"I made an appointment with a friend. Go on a trip Play, next time"
"Let's go shopping, you haven't gone shopping with me for a long time"
"I just remembered that I have a meeting later, you can go by yourself"
"Why do you always have no time?"
"Because I'm busy , I’m not idle either.”
“You say you’re busy. You’re either lying on the sofa playing games, watching videos, or chatting with friends. Is this what you call busy?”
Look at whether a person loves you or not. , whether he loves this family depends on whether he is willing to spend time for you and whether he is willing to spend time for this family.
A person who only loves himself and only cares about himself will not be willing to accompany you even if he is bored to death playing on his mobile phone because he thinks it is a waste of his time.
3. Becoming impatient
Someone who truly loves you must be very patient with you. Even if he listens to you talking nonsense, he will find it a kind of enjoyment.
If a person suddenly becomes impatient, there is a problem.
A person who often listens to you talking about your family's shortcomings, complaining about weird things in the workplace, and sharing interesting things you encounter every day suddenly doesn't want to listen to what you have to say. He only finds you annoying and doesn't want to respond to a single word. That means I have no patience with you.
It was obvious that you were only a few minutes late when you left home, but he left because you were too late and did not wait for you;
It was obvious that you were just a little late when you came home and did not cook in time, so he started to get angry and slam the door. And go;
Obviously you just slept in after a long time on the weekend, but he said that you were too lazy to do housework or cook.
Not only may he not do it himself, but he may also be picky about you. Not only will he not share your burdens with you, but he may also dislike you.
This shows that in his heart, your relationship is no longer dispensable, at least it is not that important, and it doesn't matter even if he loses you.
In the past, he would patiently listen to your nagging, nonsense and complaints, and respond to you in a timely manner to comfort you. Now, he may have started to annoy you before you even say anything.
It’s really obvious whether you love someone or not. Instead of deceiving yourself, it’s better to find the reasons and ways to make amends and save the relationship.
4. Reluctant to take the initiative to communicate
Timely communication and speaking well are an important part of maintaining a marital relationship.
A person who is unwilling to spend time and effort to solve problems with you is either completely disappointed in you, or he is just wasting you and waiting for you to take the initiative to end the relationship.
Being unwilling to communicate is indirect cold violence, which is the real killer of a relationship.
If there is a problem, communicate actively, communicate in a timely manner, and express each other's truest thoughts. If there is a problem, as long as you are willing to solve it, there will always be a solution.
However, you can never wake up a person who is pretending to sleep.
This is especially true in marriage relationships.
One party actively maintains the relationship, but the other party always avoids or even avoids communication, and is unwilling to actively and proactively solve the problems between the two people. Even the most enthusiastic people will feel chilled.
When in a marriage relationship, nonsense becomes interruption, sharing becomes trouble, and only boundless indifference and alienation remain, the relationship will exist in name only.
5. Not willing to get close
Two people who truly love each other are willing to get close to each other. Whether it is spiritual verbal expression or physical physical contact, it will be considered a symbol of sweetness.
There is a saying: "If you resist close contact with a person, then you don't like him."
This sentence is absolutely true. It is possible to lie for a while, and it is easy to lie for a while, but it is difficult to lie for a lifetime.
Before a relationship breaks down, there must be a process. One obvious change is that they are unwilling to get close to each other, and they will be very resistant or even bored.
In fact, you can feel whether a person loves you or not. A good marriage is prosperous and nourishes each other and makes each other successful. A bad marriage will dislike and hate each other.
Before any marriage relationship breaks down, there are signs. If there are any of the above changes, you should pay attention to it. After all, it is not easy to meet a suitable person and marriage is not easy, so it is better to do it and cherish it.
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