What kind of relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the safest? It must be a relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that maintains a certain distance and is always polite.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not close enough, but it is not annoying either. After all, the fragrance is far away and the smell is near, but the annoying thing is that the face and forehead are not self-aware.
Any relationship between people is actually the product of mutual constraints, mutual needs and mutual balance of various interests. The same is true for the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I am filial to you, but you favor others, then this filial piety will be greatly reduced.
01. Resigned to serve her paralyzed mother-in-law for 10 years
Cui Tingting (pseudonym) may never have thought that at the strong request of her husband, she would give up her promising job and resign and go home to serve her paralyzed mother-in-law for 10 years. But in the end, her filial piety and dedication , but it became a joke.
When Cui Tingting first married into her husband's family, her mother-in-law had a good attitude towards her. When she was pregnant and had a baby, her mother-in-law also ran around to take care of her. Therefore, when her mother-in-law suffered a stroke and suffered hemiplegia, Cui Tingting gave up her job and went home to serve her mother-in-law and take care of her children.
Cui Tingting chose to resign because she was grateful for her mother-in-law's kindness. It was just her sacrifice and dedication that moved her, but not her mother-in-law. When her mother-in-law was at her home, she took good care of her every day, wiping her body and taking care of her defecation.
What others couldn't do, she gritted her teeth and persisted. The brother-in-law and sister-in-law only came to visit for half an hour at a time, and then left in a hurry. Even every time my sister-in-law comes to visit her mother-in-law, she covers her mouth and nose with a look of disgust.
02, The mother-in-law gave everything to her younger son in the demolished house
Cui Tingting took care of her mother-in-law for decades, turning herself from a young and beautiful daughter-in-law into a slovenly and exhausted middle-aged woman. And my mother-in-law, under her careful care, slowly recovered her health. Although talking and walking are still not fluent enough, it is much better than before when I could only lie on the bed.
Although Cui Tingting had suggested hiring a nanny or two brothers to take turns taking care of her, her husband had been unwilling and her mother-in-law didn't want to change the environment, so the matter was settled.
originally thought that her mother-in-law would be impressed by her and her husband's filial piety and careful care, but until her husband's house was demolished and divided into two houses, her mother-in-law gave all two houses to her brother-in-law without consulting them.
Cui Tingting thought her mother-in-law was coaxed into taking away two houses by her brother-in-law, but her mother-in-law told her that her brother-in-law had two sons, and each of the two demolished houses happened to be one for each person. The eldest son has only one daughter, and the eldest daughter-in-law is an only child, so she has no worries about not having a house or property.
What the mother-in-law said was justified and without any guilt. Cui Tingting was very angry, but she knew that there would be no benefit in confronting her mother-in-law like this.
03. Eldest daughter-in-law: OK, let them serve you
Cui Tingting was simmering with anger, but her mother-in-law still did not change her decision. She also said that you have high education and good conditions. If you suffer a little loss, it is a blessing. What's more, The two demolished houses are not for outsiders, but for my own nephews. I will have to count on my two nephews to provide for them in the future.
It was okay if her mother-in-law didn't explain. Once she explained, Cui Tingting became even more furious and told her directly: OK, give them two houses and let them take care of you. I will send you to your brother-in-law's house so that your family can have a good reunion.
Cui Tingting did what she said. Before her mother-in-law could react, she helped her pack her things and sent them directly to her brother-in-law's house. After putting her mother-in-law down, Cui Tingting left.
Although my mother-in-law called her husband many times, she said that she was still used to being taken care of by her eldest daughter-in-law and wanted to come back to support her in her old age. The husband is also a little soft-hearted, but Cui Tingting has been silent, and the husband does not dare to act rashly. Otherwise, it will not be sleeping in separate rooms and a cold war, but divorce and separation.
04. The mother-in-law's partiality chilled the eldest daughter-in-law's heart.
Because she was grateful for her mother-in-law's kindness, the eldest daughter-in-law resigned and went home to serve her for 10 years.But who would have known that in the past 10 years, not only had the mother-in-law not been moved, but she had even become more convinced that the eldest daughter-in-law's contribution was taken for granted and that her sacrifice was also the essence.
But in this world, where do so many things come from that are taken for granted and justified? The daughter-in-law is not a daughter-in-law. The other party is grateful and respectful to her mother-in-law. This is her kindness and filial piety, but it is not her duty.
The mother-in-law's favoritism chilled the eldest daughter-in-law's heart. From then on, the mother-in-law's support for her old age could no longer impress the eldest daughter-in-law. After all, who would want to serve a mother-in-law who favors others?
Today’s topic:
What do you think of Cui Tingting’s counterattack?
