Although love is beautiful, marriage is not a joke. Especially for women, if you want to get married, you need to be careful and not too blind or impulsive. You need to see whether the other party is sincere, and you need to understand his character and family style. Finally, you need to look at the material foundation. Although talking about money is too vulgar, a marriage that does not talk about money will have the worries of poor couples being sad.
For women, marriage means a new beginning, you need to integrate into the man's family, and deal with complex interpersonal relationships. As a new member, if you cannot live in harmony with other members of the man's family, your future life will not be very easy, and the original family can best affect the stability of the marriage, so you need to first understand the other party's family style. If you fail, it is best to stay away as soon as possible.
Xu Lei and Yang Hao met only by their colleagues. They have been dating for more than a year and have always had a good relationship. Later, after their parents learned about it, they began to urge them to get married. Xu Lei had to take Yang Hao home. Her parents were quite satisfied with him. With the recognition of her parents, Xu Lei was naturally very happy and looked forward to a happy life after marriage.
But the mother told her: if you really want to get married, you can't be too casual. You still need to go to the other party's family to understand it, see how his parents get along, the family atmosphere and education are. You need to pay more attention to it to know whether the other party is worth entrusting for life. Under the advice of his mother, Xu Lei also proposed to go to her boyfriend's house. Yang Hao naturally did not refuse and said that his parents had long wanted to meet their future daughter-in-law.
That day, Xu Lei dressed up and bought a lot of gifts and followed her boyfriend home. After arriving at home, her future mother-in-law seemed very enthusiastic, and she brought fruits and red envelopes. On the contrary, Yang Hao's father just nodded when he first met and had no other response. Later, the future mother-in-law started to work around the kitchen alone. Her boyfriend and his father were playing on their phones and watching TV. Xu Lei had to signal her boyfriend to go to the kitchen with him to help. Unexpectedly, Yang Hao said: You are a guest today, so you don't need to help, and my mother is doing these things at home.
When it was time to eat, Xu Lei saw that her boyfriend and his father had to play the meals for her future mother-in-law, and then started drinking. The whole process required everything to be taken, and the future mother-in-law needed to do it. After the meal, the father and son got up and left and continued to do their own things. The boyfriend also said to Xu Lei: Come and sit here, just let my mother clean up. The housework is all done by my mother.
Future mother-in-law also kept saying that she could do it herself and let Xu Lei go over and sit there. Looking at this situation, Xu Lei remembered that at her home, housework was shared together and she never pushed everything to one person. Seeing her boyfriend hanging on the sofa playing with his phone while playing with his father smoking a cigarette, she looked like a manly and unwilling to do housework, Xu Lei became more and more disgusted.
Later on the way back, Xu Lei also asked Yang Hao if he would help with housework after getting married, but his boyfriend said directly: I don’t know how to work, my mother is doing it in my family, and it’s enough for a man to make money to support the family. Xu Lei did not respond after hearing this. Later, she chatted with her mother for a long time before she decided to let go of this relationship. The two people have different views and are really together, and there will be constant conflicts in the future. It is better to separate as soon as possible.
Parents are children's teachers, and every word and action will affect their children's life. If they cannot establish correct values for their children, then this influence from the original family will often make the children follow the old path of their parents. As the psychotherapist Satya said: A person and his original family are inextricably linked. The way parents get along with each other is the way children learn.
Marriage is not a joke. If you really decide to enter a marriage, you need to be careful and understand the other person's character and family style. You can only make the right choice after weighing the pros and cons, instead of impulsively entering the marriage hall with temporary favor and passion. Otherwise, the influence from the original family after marriage will often make this small family fragile and make it very difficult to live the life you want.#Marriage##Emotion##Emotional Firm#
