Ni Ping wrote in "Grandma Quotes ": "People with bad minds don't know what is sweet and smelly in their lives, and don't know what is full and what is full and what is full in their lives. It's like eating a handful of salt and drinking water. The stomach is full of qi. Can people feel good if they are too angry?"
Life has been for decades, no matter whether it is meaningful or not, they must always leave a good reputation and live up to themselves.
suggests that you should not always think about harming others, and pay more attention to doing things to help others. Helping others is helping yourself. If you don’t believe it, try it.
Everything you do will come back to you through various ways. If not, it will repay your children and grandchildren.
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Don’t think about things that harm others and benefit yourself.
When Emperor Taizong of Tang was reigned, someone suggested that building a pavilion could not only improve the royal living environment, but also reflect etiquette.
Emperor Taizong of Tang said: " Emperor Wen of Han to build a terrace will cost ten farmers' industries. Do you think I want to learn from him too?"
's suggestion failed immediately.
Afang Palace established by Qin Ershi is really majestic, but he lost his country because of this. Comedy is also a tragedy.
Use other people's interests to fulfill your own interests. If you think of it, it means you are greedy and hurt others. If you want to make a profit, you cannot be selfish, but you must make a profit with others.
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Don't make decisions when impulsively.
calligrapher Liu Gongquan 's brother Liu Gongchuo When he was an official in the capital, a junior came to join him and wanted to buy a house in the capital immediately.
Liu Gongchuo refused. He believed that young people should not be too hasty, rent a house first, start a career, and decide to buy a house when they have money.
Nowadays, many young people often overdraw money. Once you lose your job, you will fall into a swamp of debt, and you may lose your future.
Be more stable in life and wait for immature things. Whether it is making decisions for yourself or for the people around you, you must analyze calmly.
An error in a turning point will make you pay for the rest of your life.
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Don’t save money with people.
When Tang Dynasty , local officials went to the capital to report their work. They could only find a way to solve the housing problem. Therefore, many officials live in businessmen's hotels.
The people in the hotel are mixed with each other. If you are not careful, the secrets of the official family will be heard. After all, there are ears in the partition walls.
After Emperor Taizong of Tang learned about the situation, he built 300 houses to receive local officials. Perhaps, this is the prototype of the office in Beijing.
Local officials who come to the capital will be able to live a decent life for a few days. The enthusiasm for reporting work has increased, and the great grace of the emperor is also reflected. This is a good thing for mutual benefit.
Life should be frugal, but some money cannot be saved. Being convenient for others and yourself is very useful in any era.
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The right and wrong that has passed, don’t do it.
Ming Dynasty thinker Yuan Liaofan 's mother met a vicious neighbor.
The branches of the Yuan family's fruit trees stretched into the neighbor's yard and were cut down. Usually, neighbors like to spread rumors and make people angry.
For a while, the neighbor got sick and had no money to treat him. Yuan Liaofan's mother took the lead in donating money and asked neighbors to pay some money.
The neighbor's illness was cured and his eyes were so moved that he burst into tears.
Everyone will make mistakes. If you want to correct the mistakes, you will label others, which will be difficult to tear them off in the future. If you learn to be tolerant, others will have the opportunity to correct their mistakes. If you can "turn enemies into friends", you will have an extra helper.
It is human nature to be petty, but we must strive to be generous. There is no way to be the prime minister who "holds a boat in his belly", but he can be a free person who lets go of right and wrong.
When you use a needle to stab someone else, your own hands will also suffer. The needle is small and the needle tail is sharp. Only by letting go can you shake hands with others and make peace.
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family scandal, let alone.
Family ugliness cannot be made public.Whether it is a big family or a small family, scandals happen. If they are promoted, they will become a laughing stock for others.
What’s even more hateful is that when you reveal the scandal, you actually open the scars of your family again, causing everyone to suffer once.
is like a tattoo. When you tattoo it for the first time, you will suffer; when you modify and cover it up, you will suffer for the second time. The best way is to not get the tattoo and keep it the same.
Dating brothers and sisters is like children, sitting together to eat and obey parents' arrangements; parents and children interact with each other and advocate filial piety. If there are any mistakes, just communicate. Don't ask outsiders for help easily.
"A person is born with good nature." If you are not kind to your family, don't talk about connections.
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Don’t eat rice that is unclear.
A "Hongmen Banquet" made Liu Bang and Xiang Yu change from a cooperative relationship to an opponent relationship.
After the meal, Xiang Yu's subordinate Yafu said, "Liu Bang, you can't discuss major issues anymore, we will be hurt by him."
Liu Bang returned to the military camp and found the Cao Wushang who betrayed him, and punished him without mercy.
No matter how hungry you are, don’t participate in the dinner party casually. You must also take good care of the people around you and be careful of those dinner parties that are not at ease. For example, if your wife goes to social events on your behalf, she will cause trouble for herself if she accepts others; if she cannot fulfill her promise, it will be even more troublesome and no one can live a good life.
In ancient times, before a nobleman had to take out silver chopsticks to try if there were any poisons, or ask someone to taste it and see what the result was. Really cautious.
Now, we need to figure out the whole story before the dinner. Especially for dinner parties where people are asking for services, you must think clearly about the consequences and then decide whether to go.
Good dinners can make relationships, bad dinners waste time, and make people who treat meals very disappointed.
As a human being, the better your mind, the wider your road is.
" Caigen Tan " says: "Look at people with cold eyes, listen to words with cold ears, feel cold emotions, and think about the truth."
No matter who you interact with, you should observe more, learn to listen, try to change your position, and think carefully. Consider your own interests and the interests of others, weigh everyone's future, and you can find a way to survive that benefits others and yourself.
If you make others laugh, you will be happy.
Master the meaning of the word "drag", and you will find that kindness can allow a person to arrive anywhere.
Leave "six minds" behind it, which is a person's character and wisdom in dealing with the world.
Author: Common people eat coarse food.
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