text | Xueluo Wuchen
In love, the more a woman cares about someone, the more she will think and become cautious in doing things.
The reason for her way of doing things is just because the risks are too great. If the other person is a good person, they will naturally be able to spend the rest of their lives together. If the other party is a "scared" man, then even if the girl finally gets out of this relationship, there will be a shadow.
Because of this, many women care particularly whether men really love themselves.
In fact, if you want to know whether a man loves you, the identification method is very simple.
The manifestation of a man truly loving you: he will take the initiative to say 3 privacy, and he is not afraid that you will know.
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First: Parents’ family situation
has nothing to do with men and women. As long as they really fall in love with each other, they all hope to talk about marriage with each other and get married smoothly. But since marriage is mentioned, the issues that should be discussed must be discussed, including the family situation of the parents.
Basically, neither of them would mention the other's parents, let alone ask about the other's parents' family situation. After all, the two of them had just been together, and no one knew whether they could go to the end with each other.
But as time goes by, after your relationship with him stabilizes, the man still only wants to fall in love with you. He always avoids future issues, so you have to think about whether he is sincere to you.
This is how Miss Liu was. Two years ago, she met her current boyfriend through blind dates. Because they were both determined to find a partner, the two soon got together.
But unexpectedly, the two have been together for more than a year, but their boyfriend has been slow to talk about their true situation and is even more silent about talking about marriage.
So, Ms. Liu started to get a little anxious and wanted to talk about the other party’s parents and other issues, but her boyfriend was all excused.
Ms. Liu is also an adult. She realized that the other party was not sincere to her at all. It has been more than a year since the other party was still silly. Since that's the case, it's better to break up and stop wasting each other's time.
Unexpectedly, after Ms. Liu broke up with her, the other party quickly found a new partner and got married within a few months of being together. Only then did Ms. Liu realize that when the man was first with her, she didn't have the idea of getting married.
You may get along well in normal times, but as long as you mention questions about the future, he will immediately think of drawing a clear line with you. Then such a person never thought of having a future with you.
A man who really wants to spend his life with you will take the initiative to mention his family to you and will also take you to meet his parents.
If you never get this step, it means that he is not willing to go to the end with you at all. It is better to break up earlier and don’t let him continue to delay you.
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2: How much does he earn every month
In life, we can see such men. They obviously make a lot of money in a month, but they are just unwilling to spend money on women. As long as the other party spends a little money, he feels that women take advantage of themselves.
It is precisely because of this wrong way of getting along with each other that it is difficult to get the appreciation and favor of women. Even if a girl is with him, she will break up in the end.
But there is another kind of person who is willing to treat you to a meal and is willing to buy you gifts. However, when you ask him how much money he makes in a month, he hesitates and doesn't want to tell you.
If you face unfamiliar people, it is normal to do this. No one is willing to tell others what their salary is, what if others borrow money from them.
If you still hide it when facing the person you love, then even if he gets married to you, his marriage life will be full of calculating.
This is the marriage of her colleague. Although she and her husband have children, they have always been their own. Her husband is in charge of her salary, and she takes care of her salary, while the children spend half of each of them.
Until now, colleagues only know the approximate income of their husbands, because the other party is doing sales jobs and the salary range is relatively large, so it is hard to say how many colleagues are.
Simple salary problem can show the sincerity of a man to you. If he treats you as his own person, he will definitely take the initiative to tell you about his salary and will be willing to spend it for you and work hard for your relationship.
The most heartwarming thing about feelings is not those so-called love words, but actions that are put into practice, as well as honesty and respect for you. Only in this way can women be truly happy and feel at ease in their hearts.
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Third: Friends who grew up with him
As we all know, men are more respectful than women, especially after falling in love, they want to show off with their friends, so they will directly take you into his circle of friends.
But some men, no matter how long you have been with him, they will never introduce you to their friends. Even if you take the initiative to speak up and want to see his friends, they will find reasons to reject you.
either say "You have nothing to say to them", or say "It's all men, it's inconvenient for you to be a woman to get stuck in the middle" and so on.
may take you to party with friends you don’t know very well. The reason is very simple, because those friends don’t know him and don’t know what he has done in the past.
On the contrary, if he cares about you and takes you to meet friends he has known for more than ten years, it means he really cares about you. Because his friends know him, they will even take the initiative to tell you about the past.
seems to be a small matter, but it just shows that he accepts you in his heart. No matter what your conditions are, he will not care. At the same time, he also tells his friend that he is serious this time.
This is like a girl bringing her boyfriend to meet a friend. If she starts dating, girls usually don’t introduce her boyfriend to a good friend. Only after they are stable together can they consider taking the other person to meet their good friend.
Fellowship has always been very simple, but people are very complicated. If you are not careful, you will meet a man who is unwilling to be responsible to you. This kind of situation is even more common in real life.
So, when you are in love, you must keep your eyes open and see if the other party is willing to talk to you about your "privacy". If he talks to you about everything, then congratulations, you met a man who truly loves you.
