Some people say that extreme love is perverted, but the perverted behavior of love may not be love to the bone. Maybe he is really perverted.
and Mr. Zhao have known each other for more than ten years and been married for almost five years, and his desire to control me has been maintained until last month. In the words of Mr. Zhao: I know that my behavior is a bit abnormal, I know that what I do is wrong, but it is because I love you too much.
How perverted is Mr. Zhao? I think most people would never imagine that if I hadn’t experienced it personally, I wouldn’t have been able to imagine that such a person existed in life. Now that I think about it, I’m afraid there is no such person in TV dramas, but I met him. I would like to share some of Mr. Zhao’s abnormal behaviors. If any sisters in love encounter similar situations, I think you should pay attention.
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About being monitored at work
I used to do copywriting planning in an Internet company. My boss is a second-generation rich man who was born in 1989. Except for the accountant, everyone in the company was born around 1990. Because we are similar in age, we often chat in our spare time (even the boss specially organizes us to play games during working hours. Tea parties, rich snacks, and occasional gifts), all of which led Mr. Zhao to make an excessive request: monitors everything about me.
I refused at first, so we quarreled about it. I am a person who doesn't want to quarrel. I thought at the time: I didn't do anything anyway, so for the sake of peace, I agreed. 8 hours of work and 8 hours of WeChat voice calls, which cannot be interrupted during this period. This lasted for about 3 months.
Because I rarely chatted with my colleagues, Mr. Zhao felt that I was very boring during the monitoring period. He did not let him discover any transgressions on my part, so he stopped this ridiculous behavior.
Even though I did not commit any transgression during those days, it still gave me fear. I was afraid that a certain inappropriate word would irritate Mr. Zhao and make him angry, and then he would find trouble for a long time. quarreled with me, so I lived extremely cautiously during those days, and even didn’t talk to anyone at work.
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Some people may say, why don’t you dare to talk during normal work? Because out of politeness, I greet my colleagues and say "good morning" and "bye" when I go to work and get off work every day. However, Just saying hello, I would be questioned by Mr. Zhao: Why do you want to say hello to others. I replied that this was just a normal greeting, and there was nothing wrong with it. He would ask me again: You just clock in and leave after get off work, why do you need to tell others? No matter how I explained it, it was useless. As a result, I stayed alone for a long time and did not dare to say a word to others even after get off work. Because even if I say "I'm leaving first, bye", there will be words like "What are you doing? Can't you leave by yourself? Will you die if you don't say hello?" will come from the other end of the phone.
I don’t know how he gets along with his colleagues. He seems to live in an isolated environment and does not interact with others. Sometimes colleagues ask him to have dinner or sing together, but he refuses. I often encourage him to attend such gatherings, but he always disdains it and says, "I have never participated in any company or colleague activities. I only talk to you." together, so you can’t participate in any activities other than mine either.”
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About tracking from the access control and calculating the time to go home
In the end, we chose to live back in Lanzhou (where I grew up and where he went to college). With the help of my father, we bought it at a low price. The house in my father's unit (on a different floor in the same unit as my parents). Based on this, when my maternity leave ended and I needed to return to work, my parents helped us take care of the child. Every morning I take the child to my parents' house before going to work, and then take me home after get off work. Mr. Zhao seems to be unwilling for me to interact with my parents. Before I had children, Mr. Zhao almost never allowed me to go back to my parents' house except for holidays, even if the upstairs and downstairs were so close.But later, when he wanted to pick up the children, he couldn't stop him. Then he would watch the video of the community gate and the unit access control on his mobile phone, and monitor the time when I came back to judge whether I was at my parents' house from picking up the children to returning home (my own home). How long did you stay?
In his opinion, parents only help us take care of the children ( is obligated to take care of the children, and we do not give parents a penny. Even the children's food and drink, except milk powder, are purchased by my parents ), but he thinks that I go to pick up the children. , shouldn’t stay at parents’ place for more than 20 minutes, he said “just go pick up the child, how long will it take, why come back so late” (because I stayed with parents for half an hour), I also need to ask him Explain that I need to ask the child about his day, whether he pooped, how long he slept, and what time he had his last meal to determine whether his crying at night was because he was hungry. Even so, Mr. Zhao will still check the access control to calculate the time for me to go home.
My current QQ
About men on QQ
There was no WeChat at that time, and everyone used QQ to send messages. In love at that time, it seemed that in order to prove their loyalty, couples would exchange login passwords. On my QQ account, there are several male classmates from middle and high school as well as my father and cousin. There are only 10 people of the opposite sex in total. However, these friends of the opposite sex who I rarely contacted seemed to make Mr. Zhao very uncomfortable, so he deleted these friends of the opposite sex, including my father and my cousin, without my knowledge. Cousin.
I asked him why, and he said he didn’t want me to contact other members of the opposite sex. I told him that was my family, and he said he knew, but that was not okay.
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About Mr. Zhao coming to my school to cause trouble
When I was in college, I was a broadcaster at the school radio station. This was a job I liked, and my partner was a boy. After learning about it, Mr. Zhao was very opposed to me joining the radio station and work. Even though I liked it very much, he thought these things were useless and asked me to quit the radio station many times. One morning after class, the radio station held a collective meeting. After learning about it, Mr. Zhao rushed into the radio station and picked up my collar in front of other students, and carried me out of the school like a chicken. (Mr. Zhao He went to a different school than me and he had already graduated when I went to college). After this incident, I quit the radio station. After all, I had no shame in staying any longer.
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About visiting graves during Qingming Festival
I was still in college at that time, and my parents and uncle made an appointment to visit graves during Qingming Festival on Saturday. However, Mr. Zhao left his hometown to study here alone, and then worked. He is an introverted and unsociable man, so he hopes that I can play with him more on weekends. Therefore, he did not allow me to visit the grave. We had a quarrel about this, and Mr. Zhao said that he would step back and not go home the day before visiting the grave (Friday). I also explained the reason. I had to get up early to go to the grave, so I had to go home. After all, visiting the grave once a year is much more important than being tired of being with Mr. Zhao. However, Mr. Zhao said that his final compromise was on the day of visiting the grave on Saturday. He could take a taxi to take me there at 5:30, but I could not go home on Friday. , after several rounds of dealings, my family finally found out about it, and finally my cousin took me back.
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About the speed of message reply
Mr. Zhao’s requirement is that when he sends me a message, I must reply within 3 minutes. If it takes more than 3 minutes, his call will come, no matter what Whatever I was doing was a quarrel. Of course, I could not even answer the phone, which would avoid a quarrel, but we would always meet each other, and what was originally a 3-minute quarrel would turn into a quarrel of several hours. What's worse, he would come to the company to quarrel with me.
is written at the end:
Some people say that deep-rooted love means wanting to keep your lover firmly by your side, but I always believe that everyone is an independent individual, and no one should be attached to anyone, and no one should control others. Everyone has his or her own freedom, which should not be restricted by others, and we have no right to interfere with the freedom of others. But as someone who has been through this, I sincerely hope that girls in love will see clearly the faces of boys and stop being love-minded. They still have to follow their parents’ advice on many things.
finally said that Mr. Zhao has so many bad things, and even his bad things are even more than these. Someone will definitely ask me why I am still willing to be with Mr. Zhao like this, because he also has advantages. (As for his advantages, I have also talked about them in previous articles. As for whether his advantages can outweigh these abominations, that is a matter of opinion).
