First of all, let me ask you a question:
What do you think is emotional intelligence ?
Emotional intelligence is actually a manifestation of emotional control ability.
It has 5 key elements :
Self-awareness, self-management, empathy, drive and social skills.
If your friend likes to be next to you, then take a look and see if you have the following characteristics~
Maybe you have potentially high emotional intelligence!
01 Able to be keenly aware of one's own emotions
When many people feel uncomfortable, they only say, "I'm annoyed!"
But if you ask them what they are annoyed about, they will say: "How do I know? It's just annoying anyway."
This is a manifestation of slow awareness of one's own emotions .
Psychologist Ekman believes that people have 6 basic emotions: happiness, sadness, anger, fear, disgust, and surprise .
and sentiments often appear in compound form .
For example, when you are criticized by your parents, you may feel angry, but this anger is hidden in sadness.
People with high emotional intelligence understand their inner world very well. They are good at detecting and distinguishing emotions. This is the basis for understanding themselves and the basis for changing themselves .
If you want to improve the sensitivity of your own emotional awareness, you can start with mindfulness meditation to perceive your own different emotions.
Meditation course screenshots are from Little Sleep APP
02 Can control one's emotions
Some people can detect their own emotions very well, but they still give people a feeling of low emotional intelligence.
This is because they are only at the first step, and 's self-control ability is still lacking in . If you spread negative emotions at will, you may hurt others.
and People with high emotional intelligence can control their own emotions and will not let them hurt others.
For example, when they feel anxious or angry, they will choose exercise to vent their emotions.
People with stronger emotional intelligence can even convert negative emotions into motivation .
For example, when your heart beats faster during a speech, ordinary people will only feel nervous, but people with high emotional intelligence will direct this feeling in the direction of excitement.
03 Strong empathy
Human beings are social animals. Unless we live in seclusion in the mountains and forests, we still have to deal with others.
In the process of dealing with people, you must learn to listen and understand others. People with high emotional intelligence are very good at empathy and identifying other people's consciousness.
Just like what is said in "The Great Gatsby":
Whenever you feel like criticizing someone, you must remember that not everyone in this world has what you have.
There is a "yes and" principle in improvisational drama. Whatever your teammates have performed before, you have to catch up on this basis and then use your own inspiration.
The same goes for interacting with people. Start by remembering the "yes and" principle. first understand the other party's situation, accept the other party's emotions, and then express your own opinions .
04 is good at exploring one's own inner driving force.
Inner driving force is often related to words such as excitement, curiosity, hobbies, self-growth, and values to promote .
People with high emotional intelligence are good at tapping their own inner driving force . They clearly understand what they want and work hard for it.
For those who are still confused, the first task is to understand their own values first and find their exciting hobbies .
I hope that when you see this, you can stop and think about your deepest desires. If you don’t have an answer yet, take a closer look at your preferences.
When people do things that they think are meaningful, stars will twinkle in their eyes.
05 Strong social skills
In social interaction, various kinds of communication are often indispensable. Good communication must not only take care of one's own emotions, but also take care of the emotions of others.
When people with high emotional intelligence communicate, they will not only pay attention to the surface information of the words, but also understand the other party's true intentions and understand why the other party said what they said.
It is difficult to communicate in just a few words. According to my own experience, the most important thing about is sincerity .
If you want to improve your communication skills, you might as well read the book "The Art of Communication". It covers a wide range of aspects, including how to express reasonable emotions, how to resolve conflicts, and maintain sincerity and respect.
In fact, in the final analysis, emotional intelligence is sincerity and kindness.
Always keep a soft heart, and with some communication skills, you can also become a person with high emotional intelligence.
