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There is an old saying: "A woman's heart is like a needle in a haystack."
Literally understood, a woman's heart is as small as a needle, and as difficult to understand as finding a needle in a haystack.
It is a woman's nature to be careful about life and caring about her family, and it is also the benefit of her "needle-point" nature.
After half a life has passed in a hurry, where should the family go? Women should stay involved, observe carefully, and guide their family members around the corner.
Parents are getting older, children are getting better, families are getting richer, and they can sit back and relax for the rest of their lives.
Therefore, after the age of fifty, smart women are stingy. Dig out a happy life from daily trivial matters.
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Being stingy with money is a reflection of a low-profile life.
As a person born in the 1970s, I lived in a rural area when I was a child. The house hangs on the mountainside, and you have to walk several miles to get anywhere.
In order to support her children's education, my mother raised seven or eight pigs and dozens of chickens every year, and my father planted more than ten acres of land. Even though my parents worked day and night, the family could not make ends meet.
Whenever I see my mother sewing under the kerosene lamp, I feel very uncomfortable. Most of the clothes in the house have patches.
Once, my deskmate laughed at me because my blue pants and red patches were too outrageous. When I came home from school, I threw my pants in my mother's hands. My mother was stunned, and then stayed up late to help me modify the patch.
After many years, I walked into the city and realized that children owe their parents too much and understand their parents too little throughout their lives.
In a family where "men take charge of the outside and women take charge of the house", women should manage every penny, make good use of every piece of furniture, and come up with many ways to save money.
As women grow older, they no longer have a “good job” in the workplace, so their jobs decrease and they even quit the workplace. It is beneficial to take this opportunity to manage your family well and spend time on saving money.
You can save money by looking for discounted products, receiving various gifts, and often visiting the afternoon vegetable market.
Life is low-end and expenses are reduced. The money left behind will naturally be more. You don’t know what you will do in the future, but having money gives you the confidence and method to do things.
03
Being stingy about love is the obsession of couples to stay together until old age.
wrote in the novel "Secret Love in Orange in Huainan": "A bus has its timetable, a train and a plane also have its timetable, but there is no such thing as love. If you miss it, you will miss it. No matter how hard you try, you will miss it." It’s no use.”
Women, when you reach the age of fifty, don’t think about true love besides marriage, and don’t just push your husband out of the house.
The talented woman Zhuo Wenjun of the Western Han period opened a tavern with her husband Sima Xiangru and studied together. After her husband became successful and famous, she wanted to take a concubine, but she insisted not to allow it. She wrote a letter saying: "I have forgotten my past and have no memory. I am heartbroken and shed tears before trying to persuade you."
In the eyes of the ancients, Zhuo Wenjun's approach was a bit overbearing, but She herself was happy in her later years because of it, and all her efforts were duly rewarded.
People, you can be generous in everything, but be selfish in love.
A husband and wife have been together for twenty or thirty years, what do they want for the rest of their lives? If we part ways and live well together, we may appear to be free and unrestrained on the surface, but in fact we will be lonely.
Chinese traditional culture master Zeng Shiqiang said: "There are no couples who don't quarrel, there are only couples who don't quarrel."
When couples get along, they quarrel, but they don't separate. In this case, the noise becomes an episode on the road of love, rather than a scar. The key is to be persistent in your feelings and don't let go.
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Being stingy in social interactions is the beginning of returning to the family.
In the writings of the writer Feng Menglong, there is a woman named "Guan Pangpang" who was born in the Tang Dynasty period. She was originally a Wuning singer. She went to the show every day and gave gifts to the rich and powerful. People sang and danced.
There is an official Zhang Jianfeng who has great love for Guan Panpan.He chose a place with beautiful scenery and built the "Swallow Building" as a gift to Guan Panpan and used it at home.
After that, Guan Panpan no longer missed the world of mortals and devoted herself to her role as a wife.
The ancients said: "How many days can a person live to be a hundred years old? Time flies by like a gap. There is no joy in having wine in the bottle, and what good is a false reputation after death."
Don't worry about those things like changing cups and changing cups. Even if it is an ordinary dinner with friends or a reunion with classmates, you should go early and come back early so as not to worry your family. You can even shirk it and not go.
After the age of fifty, it is natural to choose to stay away from social circles without seeking status in the workplace or financial wealth.
When the husband comes home, he sees hot meals; when the children come home, they feel maternal love. This is the greatest contribution of a woman.
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Being stingy with children is the beginning of changing roles.
The British theorist Fuller once said: "A mother's favorite child cannot become a great person."
It is natural for mothers to love their children, but love should be kept in the heart, rather than giving money to children and houses. Give it to your children, or pay for your children's mistakes.
In Zhihu , an anonymous netizen said that he went to work during the summer vacation. After receiving his salary, he bought a sofa set to go home, but his mother forced him to return it. When he was riding his bicycle to work, he accidentally fell. His mother rushed over and didn't ask where it hurt. She said, "It's a pity that my new pants are rotten."
After graduating from junior high school, he went to learn barbering and never went to school again.
Perhaps, in the eyes of many people, this mother is too unreasonable. How can she be cruel enough to let her child leave school?
In fact, some older people know that many rural families are unable to support several children in high school and college together, so they can only force their children to learn how to make money.
When children grow up and have the ability to make money, they will naturally understand what their parents do.
As living conditions improve, the cost of studying is no longer a big issue, but the issue of how children make money still needs to be seriously considered. Mother, put away your "generousness" and force your children to make a name for themselves, then you will be truly confident.
After the age of fifty, mothers and children should adjust their positions to each other. Slowly give up the position of parent to your children, and don't get the role wrong.
06
Family is the basic cell of society and a school of life.
As a member of the family, a woman plays an important role. She cannot think that she just revolves around her husband every day, letting her children come and go.
Many women, after the age of fifty, become the nanny in the family and have no independent opinions.
Smart women keep their stingy lifestyle habits and extend them to aspects such as relationships, social interactions, family management, and elderly care.
You must understand that maternal love is both great and stingy.
Being selfless to family members is maternal nature, and it is human nature to be selfish.
Author: Commoner.
Pay attention to my words and enter your heart.
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