Cousin is in pain these days.
Because the marriage between her daughter and her son-in-law is in crisis.
The fault is the cousin’s daughter A Fang. A Fang worked with a group of fellow villagers on a construction site in another field. Her job is to cook for the gang. And her husband Xiaoyong works in another place, which is also a construction site, but not in the same province. So, in fact, the couple is separated.
Xiaoyong also found this job for her, because the contractor was somewhat related to Xiaoyong, they were cousins, but they were a little far apart.
I just don’t know when one day, A Fang will have an affair with the contractor Zheng Qiang. Ah Fang is pretty, but Zheng Qiang is alone outside, while his wife is taking care of the children at home.
Because they had many contacts at work, the two of them became very familiar with each other over time. The two families are somewhat related. So Zheng Qiang will always take care of Ah Fang. A Fang also has some affection and gratitude towards him.
Like many adultery stories, one night, Zheng Qiang took Ah Fang out to drink. After drinking, he took Ah Fang to a room while drunk. Ah Fang was also a little drunk, so the two slept together.
This kind of thing happened once, and then I got used to it. What's more, both of them are lonely inside. So we are always together. As time went by, there were some rumors among the workers.
Finally one day, when the two were together again, Xiaoyong appeared in front of them.
That day, Xiaoyong beat A Fang and took her home.
Because A Fang’s family has no sons, she only has a daughter, and Xiao Yong is the son-in-law. So, he lived with A Fang's parents.
My parents also found out about A Fang, and they felt they were wrong and scolded A Fang.
But Xiaoyong seemed to be still angry. Sometimes he would get angry and hit Afang for no reason, and sometimes he would hit her in the middle of the night.
Of course Afang's parents couldn't stand it, so they said, "Since you can't live together anymore, how about a divorce?"
But Xiaoyong not only had to take away a pair of children, but also wanted Afang's family to live in the town where they live now. House. Instead, A Fang and his family were allowed to leave home.
Although A Fang was at fault, Xiao Yong's request was really unacceptable. So a stalemate began. Sometimes conflicts intensify, and Xiaoyong will even beat and scold Afang's parents. The relationship between the family is incompatible. But everyone still lives in the same house, so quarrels and scoldings occur from time to time. This is extremely bad for two children of several years old.
But neither side is willing to give in.
suffered like this for more than a month. Later, with the persuasion of relatives on both sides, the two parties finally reconciled. Xiaoyong also basically forgave Ah Fang for the sake of his child, and Ah Fang also said that he would pay attention to his words and deeds in the future.
In this way, a marital crisis was finally resolved.
After that, my cousin stayed at home to take care of the children, while my cousin’s husband took his daughter and son-in-law to work outside at a construction site. As for why she brought them with her, my cousin said it was because she was afraid that Xiaoyong would sometimes hit Ah Fang.
However, my cousin told me that she didn’t know if it was right to reconcile with Xiaoyong this time. Because it feels like Xiaoyong doesn’t care about Ah Fang much anymore. And Afang was willing to reconcile with him purely for the sake of her children.
My cousin is worried that their marriage will have problems sooner or later!
I looked at my cousin and said what I thought.
I don't support them getting back together. Because of A Fang's cheating, the two have lost the foundation of their relationship. This reconciliation is just a helpless choice made by the two for the sake of their children.
Even if Ah Fang can change his past and live a good life with him, that memory cannot be erased after all. Just a little inducement at any time may make Xiaoyong angry again. As a result, he domestically abused A Fang again.
I think the reason why Xiaoyong chose to reconcile, in addition to the children, may also be because he is a second-married man with little money and little ability. It is not easy to find a satisfactory woman, and Afang's family conditions are still poor. Yes, he is good-looking and under thirty years old, so finding another man should not be a big problem. And now.It is not easy for men to find women. Therefore, when it comes to marriage, A Fang actually has an advantage.
As for her cheating, men who like her probably won't care. As long as she can live a good life in the future.
Moreover, the marriage between the two has lost the emotional foundation and mutual trust, and there will be no happiness at all if it continues. That deep crack simply cannot be repaired. One and two widths are the wisest choice.
But my cousin is still worried about her two children, fearing that their growth will be affected. I'm also afraid that Xiaoyong will pester me endlessly and make everyone have a hard time.
I know they all have a lot of worries, but I still don't think it's good for them to get together. It won't be good for anyone. If you continue to cut off, there will be future troubles! As for Xiaoyong's entanglement, there is no need to worry, there is still a way to solve it.
