A person who betrayed you never cared about you from the beginning. As for children, they will never become the fundamental intervention object for reversing the relationship between marriage and love. Some people who have experienced betrayal will use their children as their big

A person who betrayed you never cared about you from the beginning. As for children, they will never become the fundamental intervention object for reversing the relationship between marriage and love.

Some people who have experienced betrayal will use their children as their biggest bargaining chip and try their best to play the "family card" against the betrayer. Only later did I discover that these were actually “useless efforts.”

Children will never be tied to a person who has changed his heart. Whether he is male or female, the result is the same.

A person who loves his children will generally not be bored with his lover. A person who has betrayed his lover will generally not be "unbearable" towards his children.

Some people who have experienced betrayal may object to me and say:

What you said is wrong. My partner continued our relationship with me because of our children. Now that he is back, our relationship is very good.

It is undeniable that some betrayers do appear to be returning because of their children. But in fact, his return is not because of the child.

It is true that one's own children may be somewhat intolerable, but this is not the real reason for the traitor's return.

Why do betrayers betray? The answer is simple: to "take advantage".

The traitor takes advantage, one is the body, the other is material. No matter which advantage you take advantage of, your body and mind will be happy!

Why did the betrayer return? The answer is clearer: weighs the pros and cons of in the end.

So, look at the process of betrayal and return, is there anything about children?

The "love" the betrayer feels for his children is nothing more than a motive - to pave the way for his own old age.

Some betrayers already have flesh and blood with the third party, and there will not be much deep love for the child in the relationship. It's just that I occasionally pretend to be in order to avoid the evaluation of outsiders.

Faced with betrayal: Don’t try to use children to tie up the betrayer! no point!

In real life, many people who have experienced betrayal use their children to find reasons to make the betrayer return. In the end, it is enough that the adults are unhappy, but the happiness of the children must also be involved.

Originally, if the parents tried to resolve the matter between the two people as calmly as possible, it would not have much impact on the children. Instead, it was because the parents pushed the children to the forefront, which made all three of them "unhappy."

And the person who suffers the most is the child! The adults' irresponsibility and lack of management skills put the blame on the children.

This is why many people see various negative effects on their children after choosing to end their marriage and relationship. However, they have never found the root of the problem, which is:

When parents themselves face betrayal, they push their children to the forefront.

Some people, after experiencing betrayal, are always willing to say:

Oh my god, what if we get divorced? What will happen to our children? He is still so young, how will his future growth be affected?

In fact, whether the parents are divorced or not has no impact on the children. What is deeply affected is the correct education and psychological guidance received from the people who raised him.

There are also people who have experienced betrayal before having children. Having experienced betrayal, he always thought that as long as the two of them had children, everything would be fine.

later discovered that as children conceived and grew up, betrayal became a "common occurrence."

If someone really thinks that a child can make an irresponsible person change his mind, then he is really, really wrong!

children are innocent! Children should not be drawn into disputes and conflicts between husband and wife. The most important thing is not to let children "participate" in the ugly matter of betrayal.

As parents, one party has shamed the child because of his unfaithfulness in the relationship, and the other party has begun to pull the child out as a weight to save the relationship. God... the child is pitiful, isn't it?

When a child is born, he has no right to choose his parents, right?

In real life, not all children of parents who are not separated grow up positively! Not all children whose parents are separated are not outstanding.

The key is: how to educate those who raise children.

In other words, people who have experienced betrayal, when you are suffering because of betrayal, never forget that you are still a mother/father.

is really good for the children, not using the banner of "good for the children" to cover up his reluctance to give up on the marriage relationship.

After experiencing betrayal, what you should do is to think carefully about the pros and cons, and how to educate your children to grow up well. Instead of facing children all day long, conveying sorrow and telling one's own misery...

Many times, it is not the children who are mentally fragile and insecure because they do not have a sound family, but the adults around them - father or mother, grandparents. Or grandparents, who have been instilling "pity" in their children and "taking out the trash" to their children!

The union of two people is a voluntary relationship.

experienced betrayal, which was his own destiny.

When a child is born, it is his choice.

Therefore, when facing any unexpected situation, what you should do is not to drag your child into negative emotions, and accompany yourself to be deeply disturbed by negative emotions.

If the betrayer’s malicious actions are the most abhorrent, then it is even more abominable for those who have experienced betrayal to use their children as a shield.

If you are a person who knows how to love yourself, you will never allow yourself to be devastated by a betrayal in the past.

If you really love your child, you will definitely not let your child be stabbed because of your own betrayal.

You think you are innocent when you experience betrayal. So, what mistake did your child make?

As a human being, as a parent, you must use "kind" love to truly love your children!

And the return of the betrayer is nothing more than weighing the pros and cons, and has never had the slightest connection with the child! Recognize it and you will wake up!