I am a 45-year-old middle-aged man. My wife and I have been married for almost 20 years. However, during these 20 long years, I have always felt that she is not good to me and irresponsible to the family. , I feel that she hides too many secrets from me. Whenever I want to expose

I am a 45-year-old middle-aged man. My wife and I have been married for almost 20 years. However, during these 20 long years, I have always felt that she is not good to me and is not responsible for the family. Responsibility, I feel that she hides too many secrets from me. Whenever I want to expose her, I always struggle to find evidence. Everything she does gives people an unexpected and reasonable feeling. Feel.

My wife and I met at a blind date conference. It happened that on the day of the blind date, she and I were both late. The blind date conference was originally scheduled to start at 9 a.m. Unfortunately, I had something very special that day. Urgent work needed to be taken care of. By the time we arrived at the blind date site after finishing the work, almost everyone had left. Only a few people were left sitting there chatting, and a few staff members were cleaning up unhurriedly. Hygiene of the venue. Seeing everything in front of me, I felt very disappointed. I had been preparing for a long time and wanted to take advantage of this opportunity to find the one I love, but now it all came to nothing.

The reason why I chose to participate in the blind date meeting was because I was already 24 years old at that time, and the most important reason was that I was the only child in the family, and my parents had always hoped that I would find them a daughter-in-law as soon as possible. , every time I went home during the holidays and saw that I was single, they would keep criticizing me, which made me feel a lot of pressure, so at that time I was very eager to find a female companion.

When I was walking back from the blind date with my head lowered in despair, a person hurriedly ran over from the opposite side. When I couldn't dodge, the two of us bumped into each other and fell to the ground one after another. The person who was hit flipped over. I got up from the ground, and when I was about to talk to her for a theory, I saw that she was fashionably dressed, with fair skin, a slightly chubby figure that looked a bit rich, and a smile on her round face. She kept talking to me. She apologized, but when I saw this, I felt embarrassed to ask her any more questions.

I said to her, "What are you doing in such a hurry?" She said, "I'm here to attend a blind date conference, and I'm already late." I said, "Don't go, I'm also here for a blind date. At the conference There's no one left." After saying that, I turned around to leave. Unexpectedly, she caught up with me and insisted on inviting me to dinner to express her sincere apology. That's how the two of us got to know each other.

After we met, we felt that each other was very good, and we became lovers after going back and forth. We have been in love for a year. She did not ask for any betrothal gifts from me, nor did she ask me to own a house or a car. She simply married me. We had a pretty good life at the beginning after we got married, but in the days that followed, I felt more and more that she had no love for me and often yelled at me. Sometimes after I did something wrong, she even scolded me. 's useless. What makes me suspicious of her the most is that we have been married for so long, and she rarely keeps the money she earns from work at home, and she never mentions it to me. When I ask her why, she always says that I manage my own money. As the breadwinner of the family, you should make money for me to spend.

's unusual behavior towards my wife did not stop me from giving up my suspicion of her. I sometimes followed her to check what was going on, but I didn't find anything particularly unusual. Until recently, I accidentally saw a message on her mobile phone, which said, "Thank you for helping me for so long. I no longer need you to take care of me like this in the future. I don't have much time left in my life." After seeing this information, I immediately went to my wife to reason with her, and she told me the truth when she couldn't escape. It turned out that before she met me, there was an unforgettable love. The two of us were childhood sweethearts, but unfortunately... Her first love boyfriend suffered a serious car accident and was paralyzed in bed. In order not to delay her, her first love boyfriend broke up with her ruthlessly. But she never forgot this relationship and has been helping him financially.

My wife told me the truth. She said to me: "I am not sorry for you, I just do my best for him."But I can't accept my wife's behavior. Do you think she is right?

@萱英秀 I feel that your wife should not hide this matter. The two of you should treat each other sincerely. If we communicate well, the marriage can still continue. What do you think of this matter?