01 As a mother-in-law, it is wise to stay less involved in the affairs of your son and daughter-in-law. People live their lives behind closed doors, and happiness is more important than anything else. There are some mothers-in-law who like to inquire about the private affairs of

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As a mother-in-law, it is wise to get less involved in the affairs of your son and daughter-in-law. People live behind closed doors, and happiness is more important than anything else.

There are some mothers-in-law who like to inquire about the private affairs of their sons and daughters-in-law when they are older, for fear that their sons will suffer a little loss.

In their eyes, their son seems to be suffering all his life. The daughter-in-law is here specifically to take advantage of the husband's family's money. Even the money the daughter-in-law earns should belong to the husband. is not allowed to spend a penny to the woman's parents.

Xiao Ruan’s (pseudonym) mother-in-law thought so and forced the couple to have sex.

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Xiao Ruan has an older brother, and his family of four lives in a second-tier city in central China, with relatively comfortable living conditions.

The development level of cities here is average, but the pace is not as fast as that of big cities. is very suitable for living. Xiao Ruan felt that the neighbors and relatives around him were of good character and very sincere.

Xiao Ruan’s family of four usually has almost no conflicts. His brother also protects his sister, and the family has a good relationship.

Because of the slow pace of life in this city, many young people get married late, and Xiao Ruan and his brother are no exception. His brother did not get married until he was 32 years old, and Xiao Ruan was already 26 years old this year.

Xiao Ruan has had several ex-boyfriends, but they have never talked about getting married.

When their parents saw that their eldest son was married, they began to urge Xiao Ruan to find a stable partner and stop fighting for love.

But Xiao Ruan is not convinced. Many people around her are getting married on blind dates. She doesn't want to do that. She just wants to marry the person she loves. It was also a coincidence that when Xiao Ruan was traveling during a long vacation, he met a man who was also traveling alone.

Xiao Ruan was pleasantly surprised to find that the two of them got along very well and had similar interests and hobbies.

After the trip, Xiao Ruan often contacted this boy, and the two began a long-distance relationship.

After three months of dating, Xiao Ruan found that her and her boyfriend's conditions were quite different. Her boyfriend's family lived in a first-tier developed city and had a high income, far richer than Xiao Ruan's family.

Xiao Ruan has no intention of climbing high, but is afraid that her father-in-law and mother-in-law will think that she wants to climb high, and she wants to break up.

As a result, her boyfriend was unwilling to break up. He wanted to marry Xiao Ruan because he was not too young himself. He was almost 30 years old. He had also experienced some unsuccessful relationships and wanted to live a stable life.

’s boyfriend feels that the city where Xiao Ruan lives is leisurely and natural, so Xiao Ruan’s personality is also gentle, which suits him very well.

Coupled with the fact that the two of them are truly in love, it is even more rare. The boyfriend decisively proposed to Xiao Ruan, but he did not tell Xiao Ruan that in fact, his mother did not approve of their marriage, and only his father's attitude was more indifferent.

Because it is a long-distance relationship, the parents of both families are getting older and do not want to travel back and forth between the two places. Moreover, some elderly people have problems such as heart disease and are not willing to even fly, so they always make video calls when discussing marriage.

Only at the engagement banquet did the husband come with his parents. At that time, the mother-in-law-to-be did not show any displeasure.

Xiao Ruan didn't know that his prospective mother-in-law didn't like him, so he married her.

On the day of the wedding, Xiao Ruan found that her mother-in-law had been sullen and deliberately wore a bright red dress. Xiao Ruan secretly felt that something was wrong, but there was no evidence, and her mother-in-law did not make a fuss, so she could only take it as nothing. Didn't happen either.

After their honeymoon, her mother-in-law suddenly found Xiao Ruan and said she wanted to talk to her about something.

The mother-in-law said: "Since we are married, let me make it clear. You also know the conditions of our family, but I can't let you take advantage of it in vain, so after marriage, your daily expenses must be spent by yourself. "Money, has nothing to do with the family, don't spend my son's money!"

Xiao Ruan was dumbfounded when he heard this. He didn't expect that his mother-in-law would really treat him like this behind his back.

Xiao Ruan was not happy to be looked down upon. She said angrily: "That means AA after marriage, right? OK, I don't want to spend your family's money!"

Although she promised her mother-in-law to AA after marriage, when she really lives like this , Xiao Ruan felt very uncomfortable.

It’s not a problem to spend her own salary, but every time she buys groceries, electricity bills, etc., when dealing with various trivial matters in life, she has to figure out how much money she and her husband each contribute. This makes her feel like she is a roommate. , not the hostess.

But the husband was unreliable at this time. Before the marriage, he spoke grandly, but after the marriage, he obeyed his mother's request and implemented the AA system.

Xiao Ruan felt that this true love was completely deceptive, and her attitude towards her husband had become cold, and the couple rarely had close contact.

Xiao Ruan thought that if her husband really loved her and cared about herself, he would understand why she had a cold attitude. However, the husband became more indifferent and closer to his mother because of Xiao Ruan's indifference.

After three years of marriage, Xiao Ruan was not pregnant yet. Her mother-in-law was very angry, but there was nothing she could do.

Xiao Ruan's heart has long been cold, and she is always preparing for divorce. She is usually very frugal. She directly transfers the unspent portion of her monthly salary to her parents and asks them to save it for her, saying that she wants to provide for her parents in their old age.

Because of this, the money is not considered common property of husband and wife, and will not be distributed to the husband in the event of divorce.

The mother-in-law was very angry and asked her son to ask Xiao Ruan for money and told her not to give any more money to her parents.

Xiao Ruan came home and saw her husband with a gloomy face. He started to argue with Xiao Ruan and said, "Your parents have sons. It's not your turn to give them living expenses! You are not allowed to give them any money in the future!"

Xiao Ruan just said I feel speechless. After I got married, I relied on my own ability to make money. The man said he wanted AA, but now he doesn’t care how she spends her money. How greedy!

Xiao Ruan said: "Your mother forced me to make it AA! Now that it's AA, it doesn't matter who I spend my money on. If you don't like it, we'll get divorced!"

The husband was shocked. He didn't expect Xiao Ruan. Dare to mention divorce.

But he didn't want to go through the divorce process, so he could only persuade his mother to cancel the AA system. The mother and son had another quarrel. The mother agreed to cancel the AA system in order to let her daughter-in-law give birth to a baby for her son.

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In real life, some rich people have a very special mentality. They may be afraid of poverty before, or they are excessively narcissistic. They always feel that people all over the world are counting their money.

In fact, good economic conditions have advantages in marriage. This is because it can provide women with good conditions for giving birth to children.

For example, some very poor women need to have a cesarean section due to difficult childbirth. The husband has no money and refuses to perform painless surgery on his wife, causing the wife to commit suicide. If you had money, you wouldn't have this pain.

1: Smart parents establish healthy values ​​​​for their children

Values ​​can, to a certain extent, determine whether their children's marriage is happy.

Many young couples have a deep relationship and love each other to death when they are in love, but when it comes to money, one party will shrink back. If you are in love, it's okay, and in the worst case, you will break up, but if you are already married, it will be very uncomfortable.

And this kind of people hurt their feelings when talking about money, not because they don't love, but because has been instilled with wrong values ​​since childhood.

For example, parents have repeatedly emphasized that no matter who they like, they cannot spend a lot of money on them.

Or parents have always been stingy in paying money to their children and taught their children not to share their good things with others. Over time, the stingy behavior will be engraved in the children's bones.

It is almost impossible for them to open their hearts to their loved ones as adults. There is a certain probability that

may come to its senses on its own, but usually because the ideas are deeply ingrained, it is difficult to make changes.

2: Good economic conditions do not mean high character quality.

Some mothers-in-law look down on their daughters-in-law because their economic conditions are not as good as their own. This is wrong.

Even the ancients said "Marry a virtuous wife". Money is never the standard for measuring a person. It is normal for some people to be unlucky and not meet their noble person, so they cannot become rich.

In real life, there are many people with ordinary conditions. Most of them have normal views and know how to give to others.

As for the rich mother-in-law, she always suspects others of taking advantage of her. She has a crooked outlook on life and is not lovable. If she applies this attitude to her daughter-in-law, it will ruin her own character.

After all, ordinary wealthy people get married. Women don’t risk their lives to give a man a child just to make money. Everyone still has to live. Choosing a man with good financial conditions is also for the sake of the child. Live a good life.

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